Would you ever date a ditz?

[Deja Q]

E.g. Chrissy Snow? (consider the personality only)

[HEyHEY]

1. If she was a nympho

[JVS]

2. Sure. Just because someone is stupid doesn't make them automatically bad

[Spider Jerusalem]

3. Good god, no.

I need someone I can actually TALK to. Not worth putting up with stupidity just to get laid, or necessary...I have two hands, after all.

[BiteMeDotCom]

4. No!

I dated a ditz once. It was hell!

[Deja Q]

5. Thanks for the responses...

You have no idea what it means to me... ;-)

[Lydia Leftcoast]

6. Believe it or not, there are male ditzes

and I would not date one.

[Deja Q]

9. BTW

I happen to be one.

Been told by many.

I wouldn't blame them either.

On edit: Forgot to add and I apologize for the sexist implication: I used 'Chrissy Snow' because she makes a good reference point. I know there are male ditzes too. Myself being one such example. Which TV show features a male ditz that the bulk of everybody would instantly recall? I can't think of any... but then, my selection of TV is surprisingly limited.

[sundog]

7. simply depends if the person has a good heart

good hearts & souls transcend most things :)

[Deja Q]

10. Until the prejudiced tear that person's heart out.

O8)

[sundog]

14. some good hearts on this planet require a level of protection

& you can help to shield them, if that's what life asks of you...

but no one is exempt from the human experience... everyone will sooner or later suffer a broken heart... that's life

[Deja Q]

18. Oh, I didn't mean broken heart as in dating...

[sundog]

21. I didn't either

just the universal law of pain. No one can be completely sheltered from the claws of the world...

There are different types of ditzes also, which I forgot to mention in an earlier post - the (a) not so smart but a heart of gold type & the (b) *ditzy facade* which is used as a manipulative tool. Differentiating between the two is important. I try to identify & avoid the latter.

In other words, a big brain isn't always the bottom line. Sure, a stimulating conversation is great. But at the same time, a person can talk a big game... roll off facts... talk all sorts of shit... yet carry malice in his or her heart. Rich in facts, yet poor in soul.

I know people who would easily qualify as "ditzes" & be laughed out of the upper echelons of the "intelligent" community... yet they have been some of the most soul-rich people I have known.

[Sufi Marmot]

8. Not more than once...

I prefer to have someone interesting to talk to after the post-coital glow has worn off... ;-)

-SM

[Deja Q]

11. This is not about sex. It's about personality.

What's the point of sex if you can't get along?

(but now I know why I'm a reject. :7 )

[Sufi Marmot]

12. In that case....

...no, since I consider "ditzy" to be an undesirable personality trait. I tend to be attracted to competent, intelligent women. :shrug:

-SM

[Deja Q]

13. Would you leave ditzy people alone or do you have more humane ways of

dealing with them?

Loneliness (and I don't mean sexual) is the second worst crime one human can bestow upon another. The first? That one should be obvious.

[JVS]

15. #1 must be poor driving etiquette

Boy, does that piss me off!

[Deja Q]

16. That one is third, actually...

:7

[Sufi Marmot]

17. I wouldn't not be friends with them....

...I simply wouldn't chronically date them with the goal of establishing a serious romantic relationship.

-SM

On edit: I have a ditzy ladyfriend who is an incredible sweetie, but I could never date her or be in a serious relationship with her - she'd drive me crazy within a week...

[Deja Q]

19. It's amazing how some ditzes can get as far in life as they do.

:-)

[Sufi Marmot]

20. Well some people can accomodate their ditziness...

...some probably actually find it endearing. I'm not one of them... :-)

On edit: I suppose that ditziness is relative and subjective, so everyone has a different definition....

[Taverner]

22. I've known smart ditzes

As strange as that may seem

[Dark]

23. If he had a nice ass! eom