Pity party for Finnfan

[Pale Blue Dot]

I only get to have my son every third weekend. This is merely a function of my job; as a retail manager, I only get every third weekend off.

This weekend is my weekend.

Saturday, my son has a birthday party to go to in his mom's neighborhood. Sunday, he's having some sort of church Confirmation meeting that was supposed to be last Sunday but was cancelled by the snow.

Bottom line: I don't get to spend as much time as I wanted with him this weekend. And it's nobody's fault. It's fate.

Do me a favor?

Cheer me up.

Thanks!

[JimmyJazz]

1. I'm sorry to hear that - shared parenting sucks -- trust me, I know.

Tell us what you would like us to do to cheer you up!

[Pale Blue Dot]

2. Hmmm...

Here are some ideas:

1. I need some new music to listen to;

2. Misery loves company: You can tell me how pathetic your life is;

3. Send over the hookers;

4. I don't know, use your imagination!

Making me write lists is also a good way to get my mind off of things. Thanks! :hi:

[JimmyJazz]

7. In order:

1. download tapper zukie....you'll be amazed

2. MY life is a mess, but not pathetic -- more chaotic, really

3. okay -- look for the dude in the brown shorts

4. I have no imagination....

5. Nembutol numbs it all, but I prefer __________________ :7 - complete the sentence for extra credit....

[Pale Blue Dot]

10. LOL - Thanks. nt

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

3. Will the court not do something to make up the time?

I'd think since you can't see him this weekend something should be arranged during the week to make up the lost time. See what you can do!

[Pale Blue Dot]

4. No courts, no lawyers.

My ex and I keep things extremely civil. The problem is not with her, it's with my #%^&@ job.

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

9. Can you work something out with her then?

Doesn't seem fair to take away your time. I hope that she'd let you have him another day to make up the time you missed with him.

[Pale Blue Dot]

13. She really will give me anything I ask for.

The problem is that the weekend is really the ideal time, due to my work schedule (I work 3 days and 2 nights every week, and my days off are never the same) and the many extra-curricular things he's involved with.

We'll work it out. I'm just feeling sorry for myself tonight. Thanks, though. :thumbsup:

[Magrittes Pipe]

5. I'll never even have a son!

:cry:


Actually, I'm okay with that. But, you know... sometimes it helps us feel better about ourselves when we can look down on others. Like me. :hi:

[Pale Blue Dot]

8. Thanks! I look down on you all the time!!

:D :thumbsup:

[Magrittes Pipe]

12. Even when I'm making love?

:scared:

[antigone382]

6. I'm sorry Finnfan :(

It may not make you miss him any less, but try to think of him at the party, having a good time hanging out with his friends. Hopefully, knowing that your kid is happy will make you a little less sad.

:hug:

[Pale Blue Dot]

17. He'll have a great time.

He'd probably be pretty bored with just me. I just miss him. It's selfish of me, but I do.

[antigone382]

22. I highly doubt he'd be bored with you!

I'm sure you guys will have a great time when you do get to see him next. And you're not selfish at all. I'll bet my shirt he misses you just as much as you miss him.

[NightTrain]

11. Aww, man! That really blows.

Few things are as frustrating as somebody you really wanted to be with canceling out on you--no matter how legitimate the reason.

[flvegan]

14. Look forward to your visit 3 weeks from now.

Start planning or whatever you do. Just thinking about spending time with your boy should make you smile, even if the current situation (today) sucks.

Sorry mate.

[Pithlet]

15. If you haven't seen this thread, yet:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x2511451

It's good for a chuckle.

I'm sorry about this weekend. Retail is one of the least family friendly jobs there is. :hug:

[Pale Blue Dot]

20. Thanks!

:-)

[AlCzervik]

16. i'm sorry Finn, thats unfortunate.

My husband's job is 140 miles away from out house, he got transferred there about 9 months ago, sunday night through friday he lives in another town and he comes home on weekends, not every weekend mind you but he tries. we were thinking of moving to where he is now but the housing prices are way too high so we are living like this for the time being. Next month he's heading out to the Czech republic for 6 weeks straight!

[Pale Blue Dot]

18. You're making it really hard to feel sorry for myself, chimpsrsmarter.

:grr:

:D (Thanks)

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

19. Maybe this'll help, too

I'm living 1000 miles away from my husband for 9 months! The time has gone very fast; only 4 months to go.

The time you spend with your son will be all the sweeter.

[Pale Blue Dot]

21. Yeah, but... three weeks... only part of the days...

visits a few times a week....

Damn you! This is supposed to be a pity party for Finnfan! Start your own damn thread!

And thank you. :hug:

[SarahB]

23. I'm sorry.

:(
What's breaking my heart the most in my divorce is that because I work crazier hours, "Officially" he has primary custody, but we also have joint custody and I'll have reasonable and liberal visitation. Actually, I'll still be with all them for part of the day a good 4-5 days a week (my youngest more than that). Still though, I feel like the most rotten mother in the universe.

[ScreamingMeemie]

24. Here, have mine....

Kidding...kidding... My heart goes out to you Finnfan. But know that you are a good parent because you haven't let your ego get in the way. Lots of parents would say tough poo to the child and not let them go to the party on "their" weekend. This happens to my neighbor's son all the time and it's heartbreaking to see. :hug: Hope you get to see him soon!