Democratic Underground Latest Greatest Lobby Journals Search Options Help Login
Google

Anyone else suffering from "single-itis"?

Printer-friendly format Printer-friendly format
Printer-friendly format Email this thread to a friend
Printer-friendly format Bookmark this thread
This topic is archived.
Home » Discuss » The DU Lounge Donate to DU
 
BlondieK143 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 07:48 AM
Original message
Anyone else suffering from "single-itis"?
I've been having a huge dose of it lately... you know, the one where you want someone to be there (even if it's to yell at them). :D

Don't get me wrong, I'm not unhappy with my life, just wish there was someone there to share it with. Maybe it's just the cold winter months and the fact Singles Awareness Day is coming up. Am I completely alone in feeling this way? Someone PLEASE suffer with me. hehe
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
ET Awful Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 07:51 AM
Response to Original message
1. I know the feeling.
Been there myself, wait, I AM there myself :)

Grrrrr, damned lonely cold winter. Oh well, at least I have my cats :)
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
BlondieK143 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 07:59 AM
Response to Reply #1
3. BUT
:cry: I don't even have cats!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
ET Awful Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:53 AM
Response to Reply #3
24. Well, when you come to Boston, I'll let you borrow mine for an hour
a day :)
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
RC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 07:57 AM
Response to Original message
2. You are not alone in the way you feel.
To hug. To hold.
Someone to look at and to know they stick around because they want to be with you at least as much as you want them to be around...

1200 square feet, two bedroom closes in like a small closet.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
BlondieK143 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 07:59 AM
Response to Reply #2
4. Couldn't have said it better.
*sigh* There's nothing like waking up with someone next to you.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
RC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 05:33 PM
Response to Reply #4
40. The problem is finding someone.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Dzimbowicz Donating Member (911 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:01 AM
Response to Original message
5. We are in the same boat, kinda....
The object of my affection is going through a divorce, so I must keep a very, very low profile. With the exception of DU PMs and phone calls, there can be no visible contact between us. ARGH! So, I'm back to the singleness of life, at least for the time being.

BTW, what is Singles Awareness Day?
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
BlondieK143 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:06 AM
Response to Reply #5
7. The horrible day
known as Valentine's Day. I've spent 18 of them alone, so I'm sure the 19th will be the same.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Dzimbowicz Donating Member (911 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:31 AM
Response to Reply #7
17. For the 31 years of my adult life
I've been single for 29 of them. No real regrets, but now that I've met someone whom I really like and must keep a low profile for an indefinite period is indeed frustrating.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
SCDem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:46 AM
Response to Reply #17
20. I'm pretty sure she'll remember you on Valentine's Day
Edited on Thu Jan-27-05 08:46 AM by SCDem
;) No need for Singles Awareness Day!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Dzimbowicz Donating Member (911 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 09:02 AM
Response to Reply #20
28. Any suggestions for what I can do for her on that day?
:shrug:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
SCDem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 09:17 AM
Response to Reply #28
33. Maybe she'd like to go out to dinner
:shrug:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Dzimbowicz Donating Member (911 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 09:24 AM
Response to Reply #33
35. Since we must keep a low profile...
and our town is rather small, should we go to the big city (just twenty minutes away) and become lost in the crowd?

B-)

BTW, the smiley is me being 'incognito'.... heh heh. I like the shades.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
SCDem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 09:29 AM
Response to Reply #35
36. Maybe there is some German restaurant to go to
:shrug:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Dzimbowicz Donating Member (911 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 09:42 AM
Response to Reply #36
38. Gute Idee
dann vielleicht können wir bei einander allein und in Ruhe besuchen. Ich mag diese Frau (mein Liebchen, ja, ich weiß, daß ich kitschi bin. :spank: ) so viel und ich vermisse auch sie sehr viel; ich erleide von Liebeskrankheit....

:-(

Translations available only by PM request!!!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
BlondieK143 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:47 AM
Response to Reply #17
21. You can do it!
:D Just be sure to think about the future and what's ahead for you guys! Good luck with everything!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Dzimbowicz Donating Member (911 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 09:03 AM
Response to Reply #21
29. Thanks
:hi:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
McKenzie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:03 AM
Response to Original message
6. singular case of single-itis here
17 years of confirmed, curmudgeonly singledom...and I love it!

Sorry to hear it's getting you down though. Most people crave a partner; I'm just one of those dysfunctional oddballs.

Maybe your perfect partner will eventually come along. Mine did once but...ach, too much information.

regards and good luck
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
BlondieK143 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:10 AM
Response to Reply #6
9. Thank you!
And good luck to you as well, though you seem perfectly fine on your own as well.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Brewman_Jax Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:10 AM
Response to Original message
8. G'day, Blondie!
:hi: A case of single-itis beats a bad case of bad relationship-itis!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
BlondieK143 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:11 AM
Response to Reply #8
10. I'm not so sure about that.
:D At least I'd have someone to share it with lol

How are ya?
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Brewman_Jax Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:20 AM
Response to Reply #10
12. Misery loves miserable company
not for me, thanx. I don't need help, I can be miserable all by myself.

:hug: Looks like winter is coming back here. How goes with you?
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
BlondieK143 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:24 AM
Response to Reply #12
14. It's good.
But wouldn't you want to find that one person with whom time stops when you're with her? Don't you want to have someone to share your life with and work out the bad as it comes along? Don't you want someone to give you their heart as much as they have your's? *sigh* I guess I'm just hopeless.

Just freezing and working a bunch. How about you? :hug:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Brewman_Jax Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:43 AM
Response to Reply #14
18. Of course I would
but I haven't found her yet. I can't worry about that, that's beyond my control. Until then, I have to be the best me I can be.

Are you having a long day? Here are some
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
BlondieK143 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:44 AM
Response to Reply #18
19. You're right.
I'm just pinning at the moment, too many romance movies lately I suppose.

Nope, it's a short day today. Dad bough me tires for Christmas and I think I'm going to go have them finally put on today. How's work going so far? Is your mom still doing okay? And thanks for the balloons!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Brewman_Jax Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:52 AM
Response to Reply #19
22. Tires are good
New tires are really good! :thumbsup:

Ah! Those darn romance movies, they'll do it every time. Go watch a kungfu film. That'll get you motivated to workout, too.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
BlondieK143 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:53 AM
Response to Reply #22
23. Riiiiight
LOL! And lemme guess... won't make me want a doughnut, right? :D
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Brewman_Jax Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:57 AM
Response to Reply #23
25. Absolutely!
are you trying to take my line?

Oh, yeah, may I remind you....















No doughnut for you! :P
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
BlondieK143 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:58 AM
Response to Reply #25
26. Of course I am!
:) Just beating you to it. I need something to amuse me know that GD has pissed me off. :eyes:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Brewman_Jax Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 09:02 AM
Response to Reply #26
27. Playing in GD, again?
That's not too safe. I have to be careful, too many trolls hang out there. :P
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
BlondieK143 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 09:03 AM
Response to Reply #27
30. Nah, no trolls. Just a bunch of hypocrites.
Oh well. :shrug: Have a good day, I'm outta here!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Brewman_Jax Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 09:06 AM
Response to Reply #30
31. Have a short day!
:hug: It can only get better.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Demit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:19 AM
Response to Original message
11. Gotta agree with Argyle. Being lonely & free beats being awake in the
middle of the night, looking over at the guy you're married to, and still feeling indescribably lonely. Knowing that to begin feeling better, you've got a mess ahead, getting out of the situation you're in.

Valentine's Day? Feh! It's one day only. Ignore it. You are FREE!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
BlondieK143 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:22 AM
Response to Reply #11
13. But it's not always like that.
That's such a negative thing to say. I mean, you RARELY find a genuinely happy marriage/relationship, but a girl can HOPE can't she? I mean, if I can't look forward to that (or something that resembles it) am I supposed to look forward to being alone and having 30 cats? (I definitely mean no harm in that last sentence, I love cats and I love the people who have them, but for me, they just don't take the place of a person. So please don't be mad).
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Catfight Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 09:24 AM
Response to Reply #11
34. Isn't that the truth, those sleepless nights are for the birds. This will
be my first VD day alone and single and I'm looking forward to it! I'm buying a bottle of champagne and something I really want,like a massage, and romancing myself. There's no disappointment to worry about, like the night ending badly because you are not connecting. And you're right, it's only one freakin' day, who cares.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
ClintonTyree Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:28 AM
Response to Original message
15. Get a dog...................
I'm 54 and have reached the point in life where this is not even a priority anymore. Seriously, I've been married once, had umpteen relationships, and have never been happier in my life than I am now not worrying about it. Love yourself, your family and friends, and if someone comes along...OK. If not, who cares. Accept yourself for who you are and realize that you don't need someone to "complete" you. It's a great feeling!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
johnnie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 08:28 AM
Response to Original message
16. Naw
I like being single. I understand what you are saying though, I've been there.
But as you put it "(even if it's to yell at them)"..I sure don't miss that..lol. It took me a while to start enjoying being single, but after all this time I think of being in a relationship and I get the shivers. I never rule it out..I just don't spend much time thinking about it.
I hope you get over the blues soon or you meet that special someone. :hi:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 09:07 AM
Response to Original message
32. nevermind
Edited on Thu Jan-27-05 09:18 AM by SarahBelle

:cry:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Butterflies Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 09:39 AM
Response to Original message
37. those movies get to me too.
But I think past the romantic start of the relationship, and I remember how it gets when he's not on his best behavior anymore. I think of the frustration and the endless compromise - that's why people need to celebrate their relationships . . . it's a lot of work to stick with it through the rough times. Most of the time I say "no thanks!"
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Schema Thing Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 09:50 AM
Response to Original message
39. Well I wasn't..... until I read this.
God, there's a "singles awareness day"????

*weeps*



*makes will*


Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Lydia Leftcoast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 05:46 PM
Response to Original message
41. Yes, all of my relatives old enough to be married ARE, and so are
most of the other people I know here in Minneapolis.

In some gatherings, I feel like an unauthorized stowaway on Noah's Ark. :-(
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Modem Butterfly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 05:47 PM
Response to Original message
42. There's a course of anti-biotic injections available for that
And next time, be sure to use a condom.

:P
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Longgrain Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 05:48 PM
Response to Original message
43. Everyone knows by now this thread has Longgrain
written all over it. :(
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
KG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 06:03 PM
Response to Original message
44. you'd be surprised about how little i care anymore about gettin hooked upn
:(
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Lisa0825 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-27-05 06:16 PM
Response to Original message
45. yeah..... I have 2 friends getting married and one having a baby
all within a few months of each other. I'm really happy for them, but sometimes it makes me feel more alone.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
DU AdBot (1000+ posts) Click to send private message to this author Click to view 
this author's profile Click to add 
this author to your buddy list Click to add 
this author to your Ignore list Thu Apr 25th 2024, 10:35 AM
Response to Original message
Advertisements [?]
 Top

Home » Discuss » The DU Lounge Donate to DU

Powered by DCForum+ Version 1.1 Copyright 1997-2002 DCScripts.com
Software has been extensively modified by the DU administrators


Important Notices: By participating on this discussion board, visitors agree to abide by the rules outlined on our Rules page. Messages posted on the Democratic Underground Discussion Forums are the opinions of the individuals who post them, and do not necessarily represent the opinions of Democratic Underground, LLC.

Home  |  Discussion Forums  |  Journals |  Store  |  Donate

About DU  |  Contact Us  |  Privacy Policy

Got a message for Democratic Underground? Click here to send us a message.

© 2001 - 2011 Democratic Underground, LLC