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I went through my personals ad stage about ten years ago and gave up on it because the people were never as advertised. However, I still read them for fun, and the thread about "assholes" versus "nice guys" reminded me of something I've noticed over the years--the complete mismatch between what women are looking for and what men are looking for.
Here are some actual personals ads (identifying details omitted but actual punctuation and spelling) from a recent issue of a Twin Cities entertainment weekly. First, the men:
Healthy, athletic, confident Guy, mid-40s, seeking an active, positive, H/W/P Woman, late 40s, for conversation, romance, and TLC. I'm fun-loving, kind, caring, compassionate. Race unimportant.
SWPM, 58, monogamous, secure, genuine, business owner, well-traveled, in search of companionship with a fit, attractive stable Lady around my age for LTR. Prefer no kids at home.
Silver-haired homeowner seeking sensual, romantic, nice-looking female of any race or age. Widowed, attractive, enjoys most activities (indoors and outoors)
SWM 42, n/s, n/d, n/drugs, down-to-earth, loving, caring, never-married, no kids, stable job, enjoys fishing, camping, traveling, bicycling, canoeing, ATV'ing, most anything fun. Seeking pretty SWF 32-38. LTR. Trust, honesty important.
41-year-old Caucasian Male looking for a fun-loving, voluptuous Lady, 25-50, to have fun and games with. I enjoy going out, ice fishing, Vikings. Casual drinker.
Okay, here are the women:
Canvas-painting, instrument-playing, song-writing, and/or club performing, sincere boyfriend desired by picky, educated, pretty, passionate, supportive Bohemian type Puerto Rican-Black mixed early 30s St. Paul newbie. Hoping for a special Guy to match my interests: Kurt Cobain, Bill Corgan, Lenny Kravitz, Berlioz, Van Gogh, live music, art museums, bookstores, an occasional altered state, independent films. Lanky build a plus.
I know where the oldest tree in Minneapolis stands and good music when I hear it. I know the yin-yang of city and country living, but soulmate I have not yet found...can you find me?
Bleeding heart...but at least I have one! Parent, health care professional, independent thinker, passionate, spiritual, fit, 50. Enjoys bicycling, gardening, home projects, traveling, learning, laughing, dancing, singing, sharing meals and wine.
You up for it? SBF, 35, seeks partner in crime. Let's meet weekly to exchange writing, ideas, books, see films. Looking to challenge myself. Need a regular shot of boy energy.
Progressive? You are a Democrat or the like, are 34-42, college educated, like political duscussions, have a good sense of humor and have an interest in the arts, animals, and nature. Let's talk.
This is the kind of pattern I have noticed in personals ads in both Portland and the Twin Cities ever since personals ads became popular about thirty years ago.
Discuss.
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