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Mon Jun-06-05 10:26 AM
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MY NEW PET HATE: "Daughters" by John Mayer. |
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Edited on Mon Jun-06-05 10:32 AM by asthmaticeog
Anybody else heard this horrific mountain of crap yet? I first heard it yesterday, on the only radio station I could get when I was stuck behind a turnpike accident in Western Ohio, and then I just heard it again in the deli while I was in line to pick up my lunch. The lyrics:
I know a girl She puts the color inside of my world and she's just like a maze Where all of the walls all continually change
And I've done all I can To stand on the steps with my heart in my hand Now I'm starting to see Maybe it's got nothing to do with me
Fathers be good to your daughters Daughters will love like you do Girls become lovers who turn into mothers So mothers be good to your daughters, too
Ooh, you see that skin It's the same she's been standing in Since the day she saw him walking away Now she's left cleaning up the mess he made
<snip> OK, nothing TOO repellent so far - maybe the guy just had a kid and felt compelled to write a treacly daddy-song. Which is OK, it happens, whatever. I fully support parents treating their kids well. But then we get to this:
Boys you can break You find out how much they can take Boys will be strong and boys soldier on But boys would be gone without warmth from a woman's good, good heart
On behalf of every man, looking out for every girl You are the god and the weight of her world
<snip> Do I even have to explain why this bugs the shit out of me? Hell, I don't often see social issues through a gender-based filter (social class is my polit-kink), and this just enrages me. If the song merely sucked (which it DOES, good people, it SO does), I could let it slide; if I got apoplectic about *everything* in pop-cult that was merely lame, I'd have died of an anyeurism at age 16. But this is just fucking offensive.
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Mon Jun-06-05 10:28 AM
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1. So, like, it's just a song. |
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Mon Jun-06-05 10:33 AM
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but music has the power to inspire people, inform people,give them ideas, change their minds and view on things. I mean if it didn't why would their be protest songs if the only thing the song would accoplish is to give the writer a venue to vent. That is the point he is trying to make.
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Mon Jun-06-05 01:34 PM
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21. Welp lets ban all music t obe safe. You never know! n/t |
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Tue Jun-07-05 01:52 PM
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55. Nobody said anything about banning it. |
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He doesn't like it because he feels it sends a bad message.
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Mon Jun-06-05 10:29 AM
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2. why not just hate John Mayer & be done with it all? |
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why stop at one song?
worked for me :P
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Mon Jun-06-05 10:30 AM
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Mon Jun-06-05 10:31 AM
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5. It's the only song of his I've ever heard. |
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Though if it's representative, I'll galdly just pre-emptively hate all of his work.
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Mon Jun-06-05 10:32 AM
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6. You've never even heard "Your Body Is a Wonderland?" |
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You are indeed fortunate.
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Mon Jun-06-05 10:34 AM
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Earworm . . . . argggghhhhhh.
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Mon Jun-06-05 10:36 AM
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14. Wow, just the title sounds icky. (n/t) |
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Mon Jun-06-05 01:39 PM
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24. I wish to god that I'd never heard it |
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It damaged me deeply. :cry:
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Mon Jun-06-05 10:33 AM
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8. save yourself the pain |
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Mon Jun-06-05 10:35 AM
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13. In this case it is totally justifiable |
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Mon Jun-06-05 10:34 AM
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12. After listening to "Wonderland" (?) I more or less took the opinion |
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that this guys music suck and I will never listen to it again.
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Mon Jun-06-05 10:30 AM
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4. Don't let Koolzip hear you say that. |
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Mon Jun-06-05 12:17 PM
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15. Is wishing for your death considered "calling out?" |
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Mon Jun-06-05 12:20 PM
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18. Your Body Is a Wonderland, RKZ. |
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Unfortunately, it is EuroDisney.
"It's a small world after all...."
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Mon Jun-06-05 10:33 AM
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9. I agree. It creeps me out everytime I hear it... |
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Between that song and his "Wonderland" song I've decided I can't stand him.
Debbi
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Mon Jun-06-05 10:34 AM
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10. I'm sick of hearing it over and over again |
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but they don't play it on Air America!
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Mon Jun-06-05 12:19 PM
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16. Yeah, I hate that song. |
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Women, after all, are only here to serve men, who are their kind and generous masters (gods)... that's the gyst of it. :eyes:
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Mon Jun-06-05 01:38 PM
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22. It's pretty fucking sexist |
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Towards men and women, IMO. Men are these randy cads who only need the love of a good woman to heal them. :puke:
Plus, I really hate John Mayer, so that doesn't make it any easier to stomach. ;-)
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Mon Jun-06-05 02:35 PM
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30. Yeah - "Boys you can break; find out how much they can take" |
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Mon Jun-06-05 03:27 PM
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39. Exactly - isn't that what scum who train pit bulls for dogfights do? |
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Mon Jun-06-05 02:40 PM
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33. First time I heard the "god" line |
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I couldn't believe my ears. :wow:
Glad I'm not the only one who finds it repulsive.
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Mon Jun-06-05 12:20 PM
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17. Yeah I quit listening to the radio, mostly. |
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Good thing, it seems.
'the god and the weight'
I just about wanna start a race of amazon man-haters after reading that shit. hehe... only kidding. mostly. :P
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Mon Jun-06-05 05:38 PM
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51. I take that post back... it's about daughters, not women. |
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So... that kinda changes the context of that last part.
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Mon Jun-06-05 12:27 PM
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19. I really don't see why you are offended. |
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Edited on Mon Jun-06-05 12:28 PM by Marnieworld
I can't listen to the song because it always makes me cry. For me it tells a story. The man character of the song is in love with a woman who had a fucked up childhood. Her father or mother or both damaged her and she has built walls around herself and has problems because of it. He, her love, sees the pain, tries to love her, but is faced with the obstacles created by her psychological damage. So it is a song as testament to the power of parenting and its impact and a plea that people stop abusing their children because of the lifelong impact. It's loving for the empathy towards this sad girl and I, an adult woman, still damaged by my less than kind parents, have a hard time hearing it for the truth and compassion of it. This and wonderland are both sweet songs. I just don't get the response.
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Mon Jun-06-05 04:15 PM
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43. I always kind of liked it too. |
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I admit it-I have John Mayer cds. When he talks about being good to your daughters too I always viewed it as what I witnessed from some fathers (and mothers) where the daughters were treated w/ less value than the sons (even in this day and age). I always saw it as the idea of the parents are molding their childs future and they should be careful w/ how they treat their children. But maybe that's just me.
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Tue Jun-07-05 02:02 PM
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57. I suppose it wouldn't be vomit-inducing |
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if there weren't fifty billion other male-penned tunes about "women-as-damaged-goods" floating around. Not saying this isn't the case in reality, but men are just as fucked up by this wicked old world, so people should be good to all kids.
And the implication that it is always the female who can't "love properly" and that the all-knowing male could solve this problem for her if she would just let him have a go is really pukey. :puke:
Dude needs to examine why HE invests so much in being a hero, and why he is drawn to emotionally unavailable partners.
Just sayin'
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Mon Jun-06-05 01:25 PM
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Rates pretty high on the puke meter:
:puke::puke::puke::puke:
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Mon Jun-06-05 01:38 PM
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23. Only John Mayer's slurred singing style |
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could make "girls become lovers" sound like "girls with candelabras."
Other than that, no comment.
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Mon Jun-06-05 01:48 PM
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25. Beats the hell out of songs that call women bitches and whores |
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or celebrate women's junk in the trunk, women who 'got bang' (Thank you Ricky Retardo Martin), yada, yada, yada.
I don't think the song is offensive. His voice grates, but the song is pretty mild all things considered, LOL.
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Mon Jun-06-05 02:23 PM
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26. You raise a *really* interesting point for discussion: |
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Edited on Mon Jun-06-05 02:23 PM by asthmaticeog
Which is worse, "bitches & hos" bullshit or "females are delicate little snowflakes that must be sheltered and coddled by big daddy at all times" bullshit? Though the former is certainly a more vulgar form of sexism, the latter is arguably far more insidious. For my part, I think I consider both viewpoints equally hateful.
On edit: or is it just hopeless scholasticism to try and qualify this stuff? :shrug:
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Mon Jun-06-05 02:36 PM
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31. If the little snowflakes don't allow themselves to be sheltered and |
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coddled, then they can simply be labeled as bitches and whole.
Same all or nothing attitude about women that has been around for generations.
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Mon Jun-06-05 02:39 PM
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32. Flip side of the same coin |
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Paternalism, no matter how you slice it. ;-)
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Mon Jun-06-05 05:39 PM
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52. Except... if the song is about daughters, isn't paternalism a good thing? |
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I mean, considering he's talking to fathers in this song, about their daughters?
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Mon Jun-06-05 02:30 PM
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On behalf of every man, looking out for every girl You are the god and the weight of her world
:rofl:
oh, that's rich!
not only is it sexist, but written very poorly. I can appreciate sexism if witty or extremely vulgar, but this...hmm...my legs just closed!
However, I guess I shouldn't make a peep, I allow Baio to watch over me every night.
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Mon Jun-06-05 02:31 PM
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28. I despise John Mayer. |
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Ever heard "Your Body is a Wonderland"?
Oh, the humanity...:puke:
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Mon Jun-06-05 02:33 PM
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29. You know what? If, in that last part, he's referring to a parent / child |
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relationship... then it's not so bad at all.
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Mon Jun-06-05 04:25 PM
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44. considering it's called "Daughters" I think he is |
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and dads are important to little girls. How they are affects the girl's relationships with men for the rest of their lives. How can a song that is about being good to girls be considered misogynistic? Both men and women have fragilities. Pointing it out in an empathetic way shows compassion. I think the OP should listen to the song again without a "women's studies" filter IMO.
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Mon Jun-06-05 04:47 PM
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48. D'oh! That might be a hint, yes. |
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I take it back... these lyrics aren't offensive in the least.
In fact, I kind of like the idea of it now... not sure I want to hear it, though. :)
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Mon Jun-06-05 04:54 PM
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49. It's corny and he's not known for his voice |
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so you aren't really missing anything. :)
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Mon Jun-06-05 02:46 PM
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34. Has a "promise ring" vibe to it |
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which is totally creepy to me. The girl wears a ring she receives in a ceremony with her father. She "promises" to remain intact until she's married. When her father gives her (like a prize animal) to her new owner. Yuck. Maybe if this song was written in 1954, it wouldn't be so revolting. But we "girls" don't need every man looking out for us. Thank you very much. And many of us like to look out for the men in our lives.
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Mon Jun-06-05 02:48 PM
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Promise Rings...((shudder))
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Mon Jun-06-05 03:16 PM
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36. The only worthwhile thing John Mayer has ever done was that Chappelle's... |
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...Show episode.
Otherwise, he simultaneously sucks and blows.
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Mon Jun-06-05 04:27 PM
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45. That was hysterical definitely! n/t |
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Mon Jun-06-05 03:19 PM
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37. Small wonder why there's been no antenna on my car since 1997. |
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Edited on Mon Jun-06-05 03:20 PM by HughBeaumont
And HELL NO I ain't paying for radio, sanka verrah mooch.
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Mon Jun-06-05 03:26 PM
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38. I like the song, hate John Mayer. |
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I think he's basically saying that fathers are important to daughters. He's what, 10 years old, so his songwriting abilities aren't sophisticated enough to say it unawkwardly.
He's basically saying that a girl's relationship with her father colors her relationship with men, and that he's saying 'on behalf of every man looking out for every girl', remember that as a father, you are the 'god and the weight of her world'.
I think it's really hokey, but it has a charm to it. I agree with whoever above said it's *way* better than come over here and lick me, or whatever they're saying nowadays.
Otherwise, I don't dig John Mayer at all. I find his pseudo-whisper voice fake and annoying. But then, he's much better than Ryan "My hair is too long for this haircut" Cabrera.
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Mon Jun-06-05 05:41 PM
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53. Agree about the 'come lick me' crap. |
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What is it with music today?
Crap... WTF am I saying "today" for? When I was a teen I got to hear the same thing, as did generations before me.
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Mon Jun-06-05 03:30 PM
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40. Hate the lyrics, like the song. Sorry. |
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I do agree it's sexist though. I'm surprised to find a young, male singer-songwriter type writing gender-profiling lyrics like this in this day and age.
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Mon Jun-06-05 03:56 PM
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41. Would you like it better if the song was "Sons?" |
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Mon Jun-06-05 03:59 PM
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Pretty lame throughout, but you're right there at the end - that's horrific. Boys you can break? david
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Mon Jun-06-05 04:30 PM
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it is one of those idiotic things that stick in my head just to make it all even worse. :puke:
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Mon Jun-06-05 05:37 PM
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50. I heard that crap the other day. |
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Edited on Mon Jun-06-05 05:41 PM by neuvocat
Ugh! Talk about some preachy, sugury sweet bullshit the other day. It's enough to make you gag.
Is he the same asshole who had that "Butterly Kisses"? I swear that gave me some creepy vibes, as if the guy who was singing it was going on about child molestation. Bleh!
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Tue Jun-07-05 01:55 PM
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56. Then Some Jerk Will Sing About Her Body Being A Wonderland... |
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in a few years.
We got the afternoon You got this room for two One thing I've left to do Discover me Discovering you
One mile to every inch of Your skin like porcelain One pair of candy lips and Your bubblegum tongue
'Cause if you want love We'll make it Swimming a deep sea Of blankets Take all your big plans And break 'em This is bound to be a while
Your body Is a wonderland Your body is a wonder (I'll use my hands) Your body Is a wonderland
:wtf:
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Tue Jun-07-05 02:11 PM
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58. thanks for identifying the "artist" for me... |
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so I know to avoid. I've been hearing that piece of shit song on the station we listen to at work (limited choices due to poor reception).
Ickkkk. The whole song is bad, but I really hate
girls become lovers who turn into mothers
right, like there, that's it! those are your choice! fuck a man, bear a child...
bleah, I stopped following pop music a long time ago.
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Tue Jun-07-05 02:23 PM
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Would never have been signed by a major record label in the 60's-80's. Same goes for a lot of these corporate created "artists" In the old days talent had a lot more to do with getting a recording contract.
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