Somebody please cheer me up

[Not_Giving_Up]

Several events have me way beyond depressed...Here's a list:

1. I was in the hospital, then off work for three more weeks due to illness. I returned to work for a week, then was terminated.

2. My husband quit his job shortly after I got out of the hospital because his paycheck bounced, and has made no move to find a new job.

3. We were deemed eligible for food stamps, but no other assistance. My parents have paid my rent twice to keep their grandchildren off the street (and us out of their house!).

4. I found out yesterday that it could be 2-3 more weeks before a decision is made on my unemployment.

5. The food stamp card has not refilled, as it was supposed to on the 7th, because the caseworker is overloaded.

6. As required, I went to an orientation at the Worksource. I was told that in order to keep the food stamps I have to make 15 job contacts a week (no problem, generally), and that if I don't find a job in a month, I can be forced to volunteer or lose my food stamps.

7. My husband is supposed to go to the same orientation, which is held daily at 10 AM. This is supposed to be attended within 10 days of the date on the letter, which was the first. That means that today is the last day...he would not get up because he stayed up until 4 AM playing video games. He says he'll go Monday. Yeah. Right.

These are just the highlights. Somebody please cheer me up!

[dhinojosa]

1. AFFLECK!

AFFLECK

[Not_Giving_Up]

2. Ha!

I saw that in the scrotum on your shoulder post.

[politicaholic]

3. Cheering up will unfortunately cost you...

A great big hug!

:hug:

Try not to let this big bump in the road effect your marriage. It sounds as if your husband is in avoidance mode right now. Men do that. They are taught all of their lives to avoid and ignore emotion and sometimes that washes over into other aspects of their lives.

Stay strong, this is only temperary.

[BroadwayBrat]

4. Hang in there...

Things can and do get better! I was in the same situation up until last month...My husband has been out of work since February. He JUST went back to work just this MONDAY! I was so stressed out. I was the only one bringing in any money, and believe me, I work at a non-profit theatre in pa...that is no money at all...we were barely keeping a float...if it wasnt for our friends, I dont know how we would have survived! Now we have to struggle a little more till the pay checks come in, then we can pay off some bills and better yet, pay back some of our friends!

[gardenista]

5. So, you think this can get any worse if you finally leave that loser?

Have watched the sad trajectory of these posts for months, and now you are in exactly the place you feared most should you leave him.

If that's not a sign, I don't know what is.

You are trying to raise your children with a 200 lb. weight strapped to your back.

Sorry to be so blunt, and I'm very sorry to hear that you're in this spot. But isn't it time to take control of your life?

[dhinojosa]

9. She said she needed cheering up.

:wtf:

[Not_Giving_Up]

13. I'm trying to figure out how I can do that right now

My mother in law is threatening to take my car (in her name), and I know from history that if I give him the boot, she'll take it for sure. There is no public transportation where I live, and nothing is within walking distance. So, if I kick him out and she takes the car, how do I find/get to a job??

[Mutley]

6. .

[hfojvt]

7. Do you own a van?

and is there a river nearby?

Sorry, my favorite punch-line is probably not very funny in this case. Well, at least you are not there yet. How about - is there a food pantry or community kitchen? Or have you checked with the Salvation Army?

Otherwise, wow. Does that mean that there would be more assistance if you were not married? What about unemployment for him? And 15 job contacts a week? Dayum, that is alot.

[GreenPartyVoter]

8. You both sound depressed. Any chance there is

a place you can get free counseling? (Churches are good for that but I dunno how you feel about that sort of thing.)

[Not_Giving_Up]

12. We spent two hours at the the therapist Thursday night

Don't know that it helped...Matter of fact, I think he's worse off than before.

[NoSheep]

10. Make changes...any changes...no matter how small...your choices

can set you free. Smile...even though you don't feel like it. Do a nice turn for a stranger or neighbor. I know that all sounds like crap..but you're in a rough spot and I don't think a funny joke is what you need. Hang in there.:hug:

[donheld]

11. I'm so sorry

I've been depressed as shit, but my problems seem minute compared to your's. My thoughts are with you.