What's the most romantic thing anyone ever did for you?

[tjdee]

Just because I feel like feeling sick. :puke:

[fricasseed_gourmet_rat]

1. ummmm

When I told the SO that I absolutely despised Valentine's Day, he bought me the most obnoxious and enormous vase of roses he could find and left it on my living room table with a note that said "Sorry, you get these anyway."

[tjdee]

2. That's pretty sweet...but pretty risky!

You could have been like, "I TOLD you I don't like VDay, beeyotch!" and made a big scene.

That's love, LOL.

[LynzM]

3. My husband got down on one knee when he proposed....

In my bedroom, while I was crying, and he took a ring I was already wearing to do it, but given the situation, it was absolutely the best way he could have done it :loveya:

[tjdee]

4. Were you expecting it? (I'm guessing no?)

I always wonder about this whole proposal thing and whether it's better to expect it, or not.

Guess it doesn't matter, as long as it makes you happy.
Sweet story. :)

[LynzM]

6. Not then, not like that

We were planning to get married in a few years, but not officially engaged. We found out that I was pregnant, and we were going to have to change our lives around a hell of a lot, much earlier than planned. In the face of all that, that's when he proposed. So, yeah, I was expecting it, just not quite like that!

For me personally, I'd hope that I was close enough emotionally with anyone who I'd want to marry that we'd at least talked about it, before they proposed. But everyone is different, and that's just my take.

[VelmaD]

5. I'm not sure anyone has ever done anything really romantic for me...

the only time my ex made romantic gestures was when he had fucked up and needed out of the dog house. And even that didn't last long and he'd usually even have to ask me what he needed to do to get out of trouble. It was pitiful.

About a year ago I did have someone send me a copy of a poem after I had quoted one line from it in passing. I thought that was an incredibly sweet gesture because it came completely out of the blue. Not sure if it's romatic or not but it's close enough. :)

[sundog]

7. took me to the national gallery of art...

to see thomas cole's "voyage of life"

hard to explain, but it was a soulful experience that will always stay with me

[Lydia Leftcoast]

8. Wrote poetry for me

:-)

In Latin.

I'm not kidding.

[bettyellen]

22. wrote a limerick about me

:*
i'm not kidding either.

[porkrind]

28. Are you from Nantuckett?

:)

[bettyellen]

42. thank god he didn't try to rhyme with the Bronx

no thonx!

[CaliforniaPeggy]

9. I was thinking about your question, and I'm having a hard time coming up

with anything romantic that anyone ever did for me. The only thing I can think of is when, early in our marriage (I'd miscarried my first pregnancy) my husband told me that he wished there was a happiness pill that he could give me. Then I would be happy again. That touched me like nothing else had.

[senseandsensibility]

16. I can see why that

touched you. Considering that it's almost impossible to say the "right thing" in such circumstances, your husband's response seems very sensitive. :-)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

23. Thanks! He knew how upset I was, how much we both wanted this

baby...His words still resonate with me; he's not terribly verbal! (Luckily, I did go on to have 2 healthy daughters who are adults now.)

[Left Is Write]

10. My husband is pretty romantic.

Two things I can think of - he wrote and recorded a song just for me; also, he once surprised me by bringing home not a bouquet of flowers, but a bouquet of books: the Shakespeare tragedies he knew I wanted to add to my collection. There was no occasion. He just surprised me.

Oh, and a third thing. Around the time of my 34th birthday, I was feeling overwhelmed and a little down (six months after the birth of my second child, our first together). The morning of my birthday, he left for work as usual. Twenty minutes later, he came home, presented me with a gift bag full of my favorite candy bars and two new CDs. He told me he was taking the baby and our 13-year-old shopping for an hour or two so that I could take a bath or shower in peace and get ready to go. He didn't tell me where we were going.

It turned out that not only had HE taken the day off work, but his parents and his aunt and uncle had also. He brought me to a surprise party at his parents house: they were there, as were the aunt and uncle, and my husband's grandparents. There were balloons and presents and a big, delicious brunch.

No one had ever given me a surprise party before, and I never had a clue. It was very sweet, and went a long way toward cheering me up.

[LynzM]

37. Awesome

Sounds like your husband really knows how to plan a happy surprise!

[HEyHEY]

11. Hard call.... no-one has ever done anything TRULY romantic

But I will share this story.

I was living in Quebec... we were in Quebec City ( a city that is impossible not to fall in love in. It's like Belgium I'm told ) I had it SO bad for this girl from Mexico, god what a great girl. It went ten fold when we got to Quebec city with the group.
Everyone went out and had a good time... her and I ended up back at the hostle early.
I'll never forget a thing about it.... smoke from drum tabaco dancing grooving in the light from a single hanging lamp in the main room. Everything was green around us and I can still remember every crevas in the bookcases surrounding the pine bench that wrapped around the table. I kept looking at the cards and cribbage boards, scratched and scared from the hundreds that used them before I even arrived there.
Her and I were having a marvelous converstation.. about what I can't remember... out of no-where she suddenly said, "I can't stand it anymore... I want to make love." Because I am the dumbest guy in history, I said nothing. I sat there, ready to puke. I loved her so much I was scared of making the wrong move. So much so I never said a thing.
After about two minutes of uncomfortable silence that could have been spent kissing her, the rest of our gang walked in the room.
And that was it. that was the greatest fuck up of my life. I tried to kiss her the next day but she said, "not now, I want to have a smoke,"
Which threw me for a loop. I probably took it too seriously. I really loved that girl. Maybe she was just looking for a fling and I didn't realize it, being an English boy from Vancouver.
Either way, "I can't stand it anymore. I want to make love," was the most romantic thing ever said to me.
To this day I've written off many women as not being her. Perhaps the optimistic nature of youth bamboozled me into thinking I'd have a decent second chance, so I figured I could create a game plan.
On the other hand perhaps she was jsut really horny at that moment.

[senseandsensibility]

17. Although

I'm female, and am coming at this from an entirely different perspective, I can empathize. I grew up in a sheltered environment that left me socially paralyzed. I eventually recovered, but I sometimes wonder what I missed. By the way, I am a Canadian, meaning that my grandparents are from Canada. I love Canada!! The nicest people I have EVER met are my working class Canadian relatives!!

[HEyHEY]

19. "working class" Canadians. I should let you in on the conspiracy

We own your ENTIRE nation.

Seriously though... you folks vien du ou?
Exact town please.... I bet I've been there.

[senseandsensibility]

20. Saskatchewan

And I've only been there once. But I loved it. And I loved my Canadian relatives.

[senseandsensibility]

21. I realize this isn't a town

but it was a very rural area. I visited when I was fourteen, an age when one hates everything. And yet I loved it, especially the people.

[HEyHEY]

31. Doesn't help me much.. but I assume it aint' "Zenon Parc"

Or you would have said, "everyone spoke French."

[jobycom]

12. A girlfriend in high school and I used to write poems to each other

in our creative writing class, and then read them in front of the whole class, thinking no one knew we were writing to each other. Everyone did, of course.

Her first poem to me was the first time (and so far the last) anyone had seen me that way, understanding exactly what I was feeling even though I had not told her.

Sigh... Yeah, given that I married my OTHER childhood sweetheart who's only poem to me was one she plagerized to try to prove she could write, too.... I need a drink, and I don't drink!!!

[CaliforniaPeggy]

26. I am so sorry, my dear jobycom, that this sort of thread is bringing up

such memories for you. I wish there was something I could say to help you be less sad.

[jobycom]

27. Shhh... don't tell anyone

But I'm really not that sad! I'm just cultivating an Eeyore persona. :-)

The story was true, the total depression a bit (though not completely) exagerated. One aspect of my life is a mess, but most of it is enjoyable.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

30. You stinker! lololol.....

Taking advantage of my tender feelings, of my trying to help...J/K...

No, I'm glad most of your life is enjoyable. Truly...what a stinker! (no worries; I'm smiling here to myself...)

:pals:

[leftofthedial]

13. my soon-to-be-ex, back in the days when things were good,

secretly left a card in my luggage so I'd find it when I unpacked upon my arrival in NY on a business trip. It had lyrics from a Jackson Browne song handwritten in it.

I hear your heart beating everywhere
When we're apart I can hear you there
I hear your heart beating everywhere
Everywhere I go

. . .

I hear your heart beating everywhere
When we're apart I can close my eyes and hear you there
I hear your heart beating everywhere
Everywhere I go


She used to love me, I guess.

[jobycom]

29. Nice

I have a soon-to-be-ex, too. Interesting, but I couldn't remember one romantic thing about her. I'm sure there were plenty, but I can't force myself to remember any of those moments, because of the bad things she did to replace those moments. I wonder if that means you are farther along than or not quite up to where I am, in the emotional evolution of the thing. Or maybe you're on a different path altogether.

I'm just babbling. Your post got to me a bit. Hang in there.

[leftofthedial]

32. we've spent the last 8 years "breaking up"

so maybe I'm just farther along. She did plenty of awful things in that time, but I still remember when it was good.

Hang in there too.

[jobycom]

34. We've

been breaking up for many years, too. It hasn't been good for over ten years, and even when it was good, she did a lot of really bad things, so maybe it was never good, and I just took a long time to accept that.

[senseandsensibility]

14. Well, I hope this doesn't make you ralph

but my hubby writes songs and poetry for me. But then again, he's a far left liberal. I advise all women to wait for one of those, no matter how long it takes.

[leftofthedial]

18. I wrote songs for my soon-to-be-ex the last few years

but she hates them

A big part of our problem is that she hates that I write songs and play music. Stupid me, I thought I was doing something romantic, but to her, it was like salt in the wound.

:-(

[senseandsensibility]

25. Although your ex

may not appreciate it, someone else will. Relationships are complex, and it seems that everyone is bound to go through some pain before finding that special someone. I know I did.:-)

[AlienGirl]

15. Moved from Florida to Seattle for me, sight unseen

:loveya: everythingsxen :loveya:

Tucker

[flamingyouth]

24. It's hard to think of just one thing

It's pretty much everything he does and how he treats me. He fixes things around the house when I don't even ask him to do so, he'll clean up the living room when he knows I'm too tired, he'll help me with some project from work. I am very lucky. :)

[Whoa_Nelly]

33. First hubby gave me an ironing board for Christmas

I was speechless and pissed...my female 1970s ERA sensibilities were about to blow! Then, while I was gawking open-mouthed at the ironing board unable to fully express myself, he brought out a brand new guitar just for me...he had a great laugh, and I was in tears over the silly romanticism of it all.

[SarahB]

35. On Valentine's Day a couple years back...

My (now) ex-husband took me to dinner at my favorite Indian restaurant and we were so riled up that we made love in the minivan before we went in. Then we saw a performance of Tchaikovsky's Symphony, Romeo and Juliet. Just one of those perfect date evenings. Unfortunately, it was the only VD ever he took me out in 14 years. We had a few good moments, just in extremely small doses. :(

Yep, a little romance would be nice.

[bridgit]

36. for my b-day last april...

1st, hubby took me to the salon, dropped some money on my hair, gave barber's adagio cd as a gift, we putz't around all day playing footsie on the delta & had a picnic in a pear orchard...it was a lovely day :thumbsup:

[BlondieK143]

38. I can only think of three things

two of which are from guys I haven't dated.

The first one was my Freshman year in high school. I had to have knee surgery two days after my birthday and had to miss school for a week (then had this ugly, ridiculous thing on my leg for another few weeks). At the time, I was infatuated with this guy William, who was just a good friend. On the day I got back to school, he came up to me and asked to help carry my books (crutches don't allow for lots of holding space) and when he went to grab them, he pulled out a rose from behind his back and just grinned. It was one of the only roses I've ever received and it was just a sweet gesture.

One night, my ex and I (who I'm still friends with) went to this AWESOME concert downtown. I'm an idiot and ended up wearing heels that night, and after hours of being pulled in and out of a mosh pit, my feet were soooo exhausted. I was barely able to drive back to his apartment and he had to practically drag me up the steps. While we were laying in bed (stop thinking bad thoughts! we're just friends!), he asked if my feet still hurt. Of course! Next thing I know, he's at the end of the bed, massaging my feet. My first foot rub ever. After he was finished, he kissed me on the forehead and we drifted off to sleep.

The last is the most recent. I went out of town for an amazing trip and got to spend a good part of it with an amazing man. On the second day I was there, we spent a good hour-two hours sitting in the middle of the city watching people, cuddling, and drinking Starbucks. I've never met someone as kind, loving, and wonderful. On my last day, the two of us walked around town, shopped for pastries, ate an awesome Italian dinner, and said our sad goodbyes. Though the things we did were simple, I can't think of anything more romantic than walking around in a city unknown arm-in-arm with such a wonderful and loving person.

[Wcross]

39. Came to the door naked.

Hey, as a guy that is the most romantic a girl could do.

[blindpig]

40. sent a telegram

to my girl across town. An invitation signed "Waiting with bated breath." About as romantic as I get.

Can you still send telegrams anymore?

[Atlas Mugged]

41. As if I'm not disliked enough on DU......

My SO, an investment broker, set up multiple accounts in my name so, that in the event anything happens to him, I would have access to as much money as I might need; well nearly everything he has, actually. He went through hell before, when his former SO of 23 years died, with the SO's family and doesn't want me to have to go through any bullshit with his (!) family because we're a gay couple. There's comparitively nothing in his estate; it's all in accounts with my name on them. He spent a small fortune on attorneys figuring out the best way to do it. And, there's a shitload of insurance for me and certain family members.

Yes, I've had former relationships where some major mushy crap happened, but this was the most sincere, caring thing anyone has ever done for me.