When does MIDDLE AGE Begin?

[Jack_Dawson]

I don't really feel old at 35. But my gf who wants to get married keeps saying it's time for me to settle down cause I'm "middle aged". I thought that starts at 40? 45? Maybe I'm in denial.

[jody]

1. 70 !

:hi:

[all.of.me]

2. depends on when you die!

[cestpaspossible]

3. Depends. If you die next year

middle age would have been over a long time ago.

[ikojo]

4. Whomever said 40......all I can say is....

I DON'T THINK SO!!!!

[Warren DeMontague]

42. Fred Willard...

Is that you?

[undeterred]

5. It begins whenever your gf says it does.

:shrug:

[skooooo]

23. good answer!!

:applause:

[Arugula Latte]

6. Hoo Boy.

I turn 40 in a matter of months. Hellooooo middle age.

[Left Is Write]

7. Whatever age middle age starts has to be older than I am.

That's clear enough, right? :D

[Mr.Green93]

8. If you have not figured it out by now

Dump your girl friend and let her have a life.

[Sandpiper]

9. If we're going by average life expectancy

Middle age would begin at 38.55 years.

So tell your gf, you're not quite there yet. ;-)

[all.of.me]

10. i love that little movie in your sig! hahahahaha very funny!!

[IChing]

11. "it's time for me to settle down" or "Simmah down nah! "

I hope her name is not nadeen,

You need to ask her specifically what it really means to settle down
have children? own a house? job?
change is the only thing constant.

Physically and mentally is what determines middle age.

[Sandpiper]

12. "Settle Down" means the same thing it always has

9-5, a mortgage, a house in Stepford Suburbia, and 2.5 children.

In other words, officially becoming a slave to the grind.

[IChing]

13. If you and her want to have children then

Yes this is the main reason to "settle down"


Married at 23,two children by 28 no big regrets.



If I was gonna settle down and start a family again I would not do it here in the states.
settle down place would have to be a place I feel very secure about my children's future.

[Jack_Dawson]

15. That's Terrifying

And why I keep putting it off. To me marriage sounds like death but I'm sure there are other perspectives on the issue...

[Left Is Write]

16. Some of us are pretty happy with it.

:D

[IChing]

22. Children are one the most pleasurable enjoyable part of life

that enable growth of the parent as much as the child.

I'm done
with starting a family and have no regrets, so don't let me scare you.
So if you really love
the girlfriend and want to do this and commit, then do, I raised both at times after the separation and divorce.

I have friends that have had no children and something seems to be missing
in their spiritual development at times, but that is only my biased opinion.

To settle down, I hate that term, means a life in a Stepford reality then count me out, I never lived that life. My kids brag about their "hippie parents" but we were/are both, activist, social workers, teachers, with multiple degrees and much more. So the real question is

Do you want her to be the mother of your children?

[tigereye]

29. uh no

our hearts our still beating... ;)

actually marriage is pretty cool!

[CaliforniaPeggy]

14. I voted for age 35...but it really depends...

If you want to have kids, then you might think about how old you'll be when they get to be 10,20 and so on...35 isn't very old, but suppose you have a child in a year or two; then when that kid is 10, you might be 47. Will you be able to keep up? Just something to think about...

:shrug:

[tigereye]

30. that's me

and I still can keep up with him! :)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

39. Well, then, tigereye!

Good for you, and good luck to your son! That's the spirit....

[rlev1223]

17. It starts next year.....

......always next year.

[ofrfxsk]

18. When I say so. Does that clear it up? n/t

[Floogeldy]

19. Check life insurance company actuary tables

B-)

[swag]

20. Golly, what low numbers in that poll

[GreenPartyVoter]

21. 50

[Floogeldy]

28. Ha ha!

U gonna live to be 100?

Pardon me if I do not understand the term "middle."

B-)

[GreenPartyVoter]

44. Why not? :^) My great aunt came close at 93

[MaryBear]

24. The older I get, the later it starts

and ends.

[Guy Fawkes]

25. Between 312 A.D and 476 A.D., depending...

[IChing]

26. Isn't that the dark ages?

:rofl: :rofl:


the term "Dark Ages" was originally used to denote the 900-year period between the fall of the western Roman Empire in the 5th century and the reappropriation and interpretation of classical Greek and Roman culture embodied in the Renaissance

[Nothing Without Hope]

27. 10 years older than your current age. It's a sliding scale. n/t

[tigereye]

32. good answer!

I always thought it was the 40s-50s... 35 seems pretty young for that description!

[Nothing Without Hope]

33. When you're 25, 35 seems middle-aged. I remember thinking that.

Needless to say, I'm wiser now! ;)

And surely you recall being 15 and 25-year-olds seemed so OLD. For that matter, when you were 5, 15-year-olds seemed like mature adults. I distinctly remember feeling that way. Ten years is enough to make a sort of generational barrier.

[libodem]

31. I was thinkin' 50

the older I get the further along middle age becomes. I think this is my 800th post. woo hoo

[Deja Q]

34. Around 1200AD, if not 2006AD...

Whoops, wrong question.

[Heidi]

35. Later. (nt)

[Skip Intro]

36. It doesn't begin at an age, it begins at a state of mind

in other words, and its true - you're as young as you feel

:D

[Hardrada]

37. It IS a state of mind.

I'm 60 and I am annoyed at the incuriousity of so many my age. I can see in so many of their eyes that they've given up and locked the store. Not me ever.

[Blue_In_AK]

38. More important, when does it end?

Please tell me it's after 70 or something.

[6000eliot]

40. But you don't have to have a colonoscopy

until 50! I'll keep telling myself that this week as I turn 46.

[UdoKier]

41. I say 35 (I'm 36)

Only because that's halfway through a typical lifespan. Saying middle age begins at 40 or 50 is like saying your formative years didn't count. Mine sure as hell did, and I used to think 2005 and age 36 were a million miles away. I don't want to be in denial that I'm in middle age, and put off doing all the things I really want to accomplish.


But that being said, I look at it as a matter of chronology and life experience and awareness of mortality, not stereotypes about how people of different ages should look and act. I think many people well into their 50s, 60s and 70s are quite sexy and live youthful lives. But I don't want to pretend that the clock isn't ticking. I want to make every moment count.

[radfringe]

43. other:

When happy hour is nappy time

[China_cat]

45. When you decide that you are

finally an adult...and have to start acting like one. And then doing it.

[Phentex]

47. Whew! I'm safe!

:)

[qnr]

46. 82!

or five years past whatever age I happen to be.

[qnr]

48. Tell her she's middle-aged, see what she says. n/t

[Orsino]

49. Not 'til I bloody well say so! n/t

[liontamer]

50. i'd say 40

but 35 is plenty old enough to get married. especially if you want kids. of course if you don't want to marry your gf there's no point pretending your age is the biggest issue.