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Wed Jun-15-05 09:19 AM
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Which "courtesy titles" do you hate? |
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Someone called me "lady" this morning and, for some reason, it bugged me. I, sir, am no lady. :) So, which ones bug you?
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:20 AM
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:21 AM
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2. Yeah, that one always chaps my hide too. |
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Wed Jun-15-05 10:21 AM
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35. What's wrong with that? I'm kinda flattered when I hear it. |
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It's as American as can be.
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PS: That was goddaam funny. Thanks for the laugh.
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:21 AM
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It made me feel really old the first time someone called me Ma'am.
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:27 AM
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I hate ma'am too. I'm too young for that dammit!!!!
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Wed Jun-15-05 10:10 AM
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30. I feel the need to say ma'am and sir, |
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since it it a respect thing in the south. I, on the other hand, do not want to be called ma'am at least until I am in my 30's. I don't call people ma'am or sir unless they are considerably older than I am.
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Wed Jun-15-05 10:11 AM
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31. The title ma'am really has nothing to do with age, though people |
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Wed Jun-15-05 10:27 AM
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36. I know, but as a child (in the South anyway) we were |
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taught to say ma'am and sir to adults and it just sticks with you as you get older. I know 50 year old people who use those terms with people older than they.
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Wed Jun-15-05 11:45 AM
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46. It is truly regional - makes me very uncomfortable |
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a lot of "sirs" or "ma'ams" make me uncomfortable - I'm sure Southerner think we're horribly rude for not training our kids to say that, but to some of us, it sounds kind of servile. To other ears, it simply sounds respectful. All depends how you wuz raised!
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Wed Jun-15-05 11:45 AM
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Wed Jun-15-05 10:12 AM
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33. That's a good rule of thumb. |
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Wed Jun-15-05 11:51 AM
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It's for old ladies. And I'm neither. :P
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:21 AM
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4. I got called "young girl" in an office-supply store once. |
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I was 21. Didn't appreciate that.
Now, at 29, I don't get "young girl" anymore. I hate "miss." I'm OK with "m'am" most of the time, except when it was the teenage girl at Bath and Body Works trying to sell me stuff to obliterate the lines around my eyes.
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:25 AM
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10. You prefer ma'am to miss? |
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:52 AM
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"Miss" just sounds...I don't know...too young to me. (I realize that it doesn't work that way for everyone, and I'm happy to call others "miss" if they so desire.)
Then again, I was a little adult when I was 12.
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Wed Jun-15-05 10:09 AM
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28. If someone called me Miss, I would think they were trying to flatter me. |
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Wed Jun-15-05 11:07 AM
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41. To me, Ma'am is someone that needs help crossing the street. |
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Though maybe that's a regional thing.
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:11 PM
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55. A Judge called me "lil' lady" once |
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When I first started practicing law. Looking back, I was probably losing my cool a bit; I was only about 25; he and opposing counsel were probably mid-50s, and had clearly known each other since childhood. It was getting frustrating. Anyway, in a deeeeeeeeeep southern drawl he said, "Nah Lil Lady; thar izzn'any need to be getting all feisty. We ahll friends in heahr" He and opposing counsel got a good giggle out of it.
Home cooking in the court room. Gotta love it.
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:23 AM
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5. A cashier at Wendy's called me "dog" once- but I thought it was cool. |
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It was cool, a lily-white guy like myself, being someone's dog.
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Wed Jun-15-05 10:02 AM
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25. I think that's "dawg" |
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but then I'm so white I can get moonburn so I could be wrong.
Edit: spelling
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:23 AM
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6. I think these are largely specific to guitar stores, but: |
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"Hey, chief!" "Hey, guy!" "Hey, buddy!" "Hey, bro!"
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:25 AM
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11. How about "Hey, bub!" I kind of like bub for some reason. |
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:31 AM
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14. "Bub" sounds like a Philly/Jersey thing. |
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Maybe it's not in the training manual's list of appropriately dudelike greetings for the *midwest* Guitar Centers? :shrug:
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Wed Jun-15-05 11:06 AM
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39. Well, I am from Jersey, so perhaps that's the case. |
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I hear a lot more "Bub" now that those X-Men movies came out. I think Hugh Jackman said it once and now it's hip or something.
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:33 AM
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who called everyone "chief"; he wasn't very popular...
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:24 AM
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I hate when people call me that; it's MASSA Cracker, yo. :silly:
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:34 AM
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:spray: :rofl: :hide: That's bad. REALLY bad.
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:24 AM
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I sometimes have to remind the s.o. that I have a damn name, so use it, dammit!
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:25 AM
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:35 AM
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Hey "MISS"..... "MISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS" I hate that shit.
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:37 AM
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:40 AM
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"dear" and "sweetheart", but don't mind "boo." For some reason
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:43 AM
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:47 AM
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I hadn't thought of that one. That is so "Mel's Diner."
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Wed Jun-15-05 10:06 AM
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26. Had an almost 30 guy at work call me that |
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right after I became his boss. Told him he was about to get his ass fired if he ever called me that again. Never heard him call me that since.
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Wed Jun-15-05 10:07 AM
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he just thought he was being cute or something. But he won't do that again.
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Wed Jun-15-05 10:12 AM
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32. Toots isn't a courtesy title, though. |
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:26 PM
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63. Does anyone actually still use that? |
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The last guy I heard use that one was my moms hairy, mullet headed ex-boyfriend 20+ years ago. I thought that term had died out :shrug:
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Wed Jun-15-05 09:58 AM
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24. I hate "Your Majesty" |
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I much prefer Sire; simple and elegant.
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Wed Jun-15-05 10:15 AM
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34. Madame, M' Lady are fine for me. I like being referred to with |
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respect actually, and I use Madame and lady when addressing or referring to a female stranger, and "gentleman" and "sir" when addressing or referring to male strangers.
I have a title actually... recently acquired, and not sure how to actually use it. So far it looks nice on my Mileage Plus card.
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Wed Jun-15-05 10:29 AM
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Sorry, I prefer "Mistress" :P
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Wed Jun-15-05 11:05 AM
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i had a cashier call me "boo" and there was a service station owner that called every woman that went there "baby". he was middle-eastern and i always thought maybe someone played a joke on him and told him that is how american women like to be addressed. he say things like "it was only a blown fuse, baby."
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Wed Jun-15-05 11:10 AM
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where I grew up. I like it because it makes me think of nice old Cajun women calling me boo. *Warm and fuzzy*
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Wed Jun-15-05 11:18 AM
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43. i liked it when she called me that. |
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she was so friendly and that just made me feel welcome. even if it was a wal-mart before i boycotted them.
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Wed Jun-15-05 11:06 AM
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40. Don't you Ma'am ME!!!!! |
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Wed Jun-15-05 11:21 AM
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44. "Chief" rather chaps my ass. |
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I think it's usually disrespectful, spoken to anyone but one's own boss, and of course Native Americans would have a definite complaint about it.
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:30 PM
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65. Chief is a European word, not Native American. |
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It's descended from the old Latin word for "head", and has been used to describe the head of a group for millenia. It was white settlers who began the practice of referring to a Native American tribal head as the "Chief".
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Wed Jun-15-05 11:40 AM
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45. Not a title, but "hunk" annoys me. |
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If opinions can be formulated so quickly, how will I convince them that monosyllabic lifestyles are so offensive to me?
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Wed Jun-15-05 11:47 AM
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48. Earl of Shropshire kinda pisses me off. |
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I get that ALL the time! :P
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Wed Jun-15-05 11:55 AM
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"Miss" is okay. "Ma'am" is barely tolerable. However, I can not tolerate being called "Missy" or "Little Missy."
:mad: :grr: :mad: :grr: :mad: :grr: :mad: :grr: :mad: :grr:
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Wed Jun-15-05 11:55 AM
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51. I Guess I'm the Last Dinosaur of Civility. |
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:crazy: I would've never even thought of such a term as "courtesy titles":silly:
After Mom + Prep School + military = "Sir and Ma'am" until the day I shuffle off this mortal coil.
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Wed Jun-15-05 11:59 AM
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52. A lot of the terms being discussed here are not courtesy titles. |
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I think the discussion just spun off in a different direction. :D
To me, "courtesy title" refers to Mr., Mrs., Ms., and Miss. "Sir" and "Ma'am" are considered polite terms of address, but aren't actually titles.
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:10 PM
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53. Point Well Taken..this thread skidded in to a ditch. |
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LiW...I'm an Old Dawg, who holds doors, lights cigarettes, always,always, is overly chivalrous until I REALLY get to know you......then:smoke: :evilfrown:
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:10 PM
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54. I was just having trouble |
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deciding on a phrase that would cover all the terms I wanted people to talk about. Good job, by the way.
I can't belive this hit over 50. I feel so estatic...
*Spinning on top of the Alps like Julie Andrews on speed*
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:11 PM
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56. Nothing quite like getting the little flames on your thread title! |
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I love it!!
My first flame thread.
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:15 PM
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59. Just as long as it doesn't turn into a flame-THROWING thread. |
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:16 PM
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:13 PM
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58. I hate it when people call me "miss" or "ma'am." |
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It just bugs the sh*t out of me.
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:16 PM
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60. Senor - Because I don't speak Spanish |
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And Dr. because I am not a doctor, nor do I play one on TV.
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:18 PM
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62. Being called by my first name by salespeople |
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Really fuckin' annoys me.
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:27 PM
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64. Actually, it annoys me too. |
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Don't act like you know me just because you read my name on my credit card.
I know some stores require their employees to do this, which makes it all the more annoying. Besides, I don't go by the name that's on my credit card.
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:35 PM
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68. And I have a name that can be shortened, and invariably they choose the |
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shortened, more casual, more "friendly", relaxing, buddy-buddy form of my name, I guess because they feel it makes me feel the saleperson is my friend and that I can trust him/her.
My friends, however, know that I do not allow even them to use any of the shortened forms of my name because each and every one of them ANNOY THE LIVING FUCK OUT OF ME (the shortened names, not my friends).
I never write the shortened forms, all my IDs and cards have the full name, I always introduce myself by my full name, and yet, for some reason, the majority of people feel the need to shorten it.
Well, FUCK YOU, people. When someone TELLS you what their name is, that's the goddamn name to use!
(though on DU it's okay to call me Rab)
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:39 PM
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My name is Barbara...it has three syllables. It is not "Barb" or "Barbie" or "Babs". *grrrrrr*
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:45 PM
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70. My son has the exact same problem. |
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His name is Thomas, and that is the name everyone who knows him uses. Close friends and family call him Tommy sometimes, but that's it.
And yet, people INSIST on calling him Tom. His name is NOT Tom, it never has been Tom, and it probably never WILL be Tom, but people get absofreakinglutely ANNOYED when they get corrected on it. We've actually had people tell us that "Thomas" is old fashioned and that we're burdening him with that name. I also had one person who refused to stop calling him Tom, claiming that "all Thomases are Toms, the names are interchangeable".
People just don't get it. :banghead:
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:47 PM
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who refuses to stop calling him Tom is so clueless. It's like calling Vanessa Susan and refusing to stop. Very different names.
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:52 PM
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People also sometimes get annoyed with me for me, for god's sake you selfish fuck, wanting people to use my name, imagine my insensitivity to their need to use one syllable, and not the TWO syllable that I am so burdening them with for the love of Christ.
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:32 PM
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67. Being called by my first name by ANYONE I don't know |
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It implies a familiarity that doesn't exist. If you don't know me, I'm Mr. Xithras.
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Wed Jun-15-05 01:04 PM
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74. I get treated like a fuddy-duddy if I want to be called Mrs. Write. |
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"Oh, loosen up!" people say.
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Wed Jun-15-05 12:31 PM
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66. Someone called me ma'am in front of my dad last week |
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and he just thought that was sooooo funny. :eyes:
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