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Droopy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:17 AM
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Stories from the road
This post is rated R. If you are under the age of 17 please get your parents' permission before you read it. This post has the potential to make you upset and/or disturbed. If you are feeling sensitive right now you may want to reconsider reading this post.

That little deal ought to get me a few responses. In all seriousness this is a thread about a couple of evil people and it might leave you wondering how far we've actually progressed since the civil war. Or rather if we have progressed that much at all when it comes to attitudes about race.

This story is about Martha and Tony. That is not their real names and if I were to tell you their real names and if they were to see this thread they'd probably kill me. Literally. The events that I'm about to describe are true. Although this story is not from when I was truck driving, it is related to being on the road and it has a truck driver in it.

Martha was a friend of my step-mother's when I was 15. She had her own plant maintenance business and she worked on her own at it. When I say plant maintenance I mean that she would go to restaurants and take care of their plants. Be they live or fake. One day she was talking to my step-mother and said that she could really use a hand with her business. She was putting in long days because the work load was getting so heavy. My step-mother recommended me. One day shortly after that conversation I met with Martha and she hired me on the spot. It was summer time so I had my days free. Martha hired me on for $25 a day. That was big money to me. Martha paid me under the table. We worked five days a week.

Much of our time was spent driving from restaurant to restaurant. She had several accounts in the city where we were from, but she also had a few that were out in the country a bit. We'd talk sometimes while we were on a little road trip. One day she started talking about racial issues. I don't know why she brought it up. She didn't know much about me and I was just a kid so I wondered why she was bringing up a subject that was kind of heavy. I soon saw the dark side of Martha. She said that she could not understand inter-racial couples. She said that she thought bringing a bi-racial person into this world was horrible. She said they would never know who they really are and would always be conflicted or confused. She said that people should, "stick to their own kind."

That kind of pissed me off. At 15 I was more enlightened than this lady who was in her 30s. One of my best friends at the time had a white mom and a black dad. He was a very nice guy and mature beyond his years. He knew exactly who he was. I often found myself thinking that I wished I could be more like him. I could be kind of a punk sometimes so I told the lady that I was reading a book on my family's history and it turned out that I had a couple of black ancestors. That was only half true. Such a book exists about my family, but I'm 100% white boy beyond a Native American ancestor. I don't know if she believed me or not, but she shut up about the subject.

Martha's husband was named Tony and he was a truck driver. He was gone a lot because of his job, but one day when he had some time off he decided to join Martha and me on our daily rounds to the restaurants. I didn't like Tony from the beginning. He was really arrogant and overt about his racism. I had a feeling that a reason Martha was somewhat racist was that her husband thought the KKK was a good idea. Martha seemed like the kind of person that didn't think for herself on such matters. Or maybe it was a match made in hell. Hard to say looking back on it through a 15 year old's eyes. There is good evidence for the hell option in what I'm about to relate.

We were cruising through downtown Dayton, Ohio on I-75 that day Tony decided to tag along. Martha liked to drive fast and she was cruising down the slow lane at 75 mph in a 55 mph zone passing traffic on the right because the left lane was clogged with slower drivers. That's a bad idea in Dayton because the highway has many short ramps and drivers often do not have enough time to build up enough speed to merge with traffic properly. And that's what happened. A car was coming up a ramp as Martha was getting close to it. The other car was probably doing about 55. The driver of the car coming up the ramp probably should have slowed a little and let Martha go by, but instead swung out in the lane and cut Martha off. After some cussing Martha pull into the middle lane to pass the other car. They drove up along side the car and there was a black couple that was in it. Tony flipped the driver the bird. The other guy shot the bird back at Tony and then hit the accelerator. Typical road rage. At first. Tony then said to Martha, "Catch that fuckin' n-word," and then started rummaging under the seat for something.

Martha pulled up along side the black couple's car. The driver wasn't looking at them. Then I saw what Tony had been fishing for under the seat. A hand gun. Martha honked the horn to get the other driver's attention. When he looked over at them Tony wiggled the gun at him. The other guy's eyes looked like they grew to the size of saucers. It was probably the same look I had on my face. Then the black driver hammered down on the accelerator. I don't remember what kind of car they were in, but it was faster than Martha's Mercury Topaz. Thank God. I got to thinking about what I had said to Martha about having black people in my family history and started praying that she hadn't said anything to Tony. I looked over at Martha with what probably was a "what the fuck?" look on my face and I saw that she was smiling.

When we got done with that day's work and Martha pulled up to my house I hopped out of the car and didn't even get my pay I was in such a rush to get away from them. Martha fired me the next day. I wasn't going to get back in that car with her again anyway.



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BelleCarolinaPeridot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:24 AM
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1. Sometimes I wonder why do such dumb idiots exist ...
Edited on Fri Jun-17-05 01:25 AM by CarolinaPeridot
and then I remind myself that they are here as examples of the kind of people not to be . I guess to her I am a " horrible " creation but I am for sure not conflicted or confused . Looks like she stuck to her own kind indeed : another person with a crappy mind .

I like your stories from the road Droopy ;) :hi: Keep them coming .
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Droopy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:27 AM
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4. Thank you
I bet you are beautiful.
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knowbody0 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:25 AM
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2. Droopy
i love your stories! and aint it strange how absolutely intense life can get?
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BelleCarolinaPeridot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:27 AM
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Especially for him . He was indeed a very mature 15 year old .
Droopy is the kind of person I would probably stay up for hours and talk over coffee . I like his posts .
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Droopy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:28 AM
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5. Thank you
Yeah sometimes intensity can be good. It can snap you out of a funk. But Martha and Tony can heep their form of intensity.
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knowbody0 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:36 AM
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11. thanks for sharing, Droopy
peace and love
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enigmatic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:27 AM
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3. Another great post, Droopy..
I mean it; you should start a blog w/ these stories; hell, I'll pimp it on my station's webby; they are that good..
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Droopy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:31 AM
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7. Thanks man
I'm afraid a blog might not do. I only write these stories when I remember something that happened to me. The first one I wrote was several months ago and then a few months passed until I wrote another one. They've been coming more frequently now, but it might not be for another couple of months until I write another one. I'm, afriad I would be able to keep up the interest in a blog.
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enigmatic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:33 AM
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9. Well, when you've got a good back up...
of stories, please consider it. I'll help any way I can to get it off the ground..
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Droopy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:35 AM
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10. Thank you
I will definitely consider it.
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Kenneth ken Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:30 AM
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6. ...
I don't really know what to say. I do know there is a lot of hate in the world.

Mostly I just wanted to say, I like reading these threads of yours, even though I don't typically reply to them. You tell them very well.

:hi:

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Droopy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:32 AM
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8. Thanks Ken
Yup there is a lot of hate in the world and I don't think Bush has done anything but create more of it.
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LastKnight Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:37 AM
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12. you ever thought of writing a column?
these are good stories man, shocking, sometimes, but they actuially have a point and a lesson. you should write for a paper or magazine... i saw the suggestion of a blog... whatever you do... you should get paid for this... this stuff is golden.

-LK
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Droopy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:45 AM
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15. Thank you
I've often thought of writing a book when I get older. I've got a lot of stories already and I have probably about 30 years of driving ahead of me. By then I should have enough for a nice book. But I will look up what I have written so far and start saving this stuff. You might be right. It could be worth something.
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enigmatic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:50 AM
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18. It is...
He's right..
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 02:06 AM
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21. Worth saving.
There's a lot of humanity in your writing and thought process, Droopy. I personally hope you don't wait until you're retired to write that book.
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Droopy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 02:19 AM
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23. Thank you
Haha. I have another idea for a book, too, and I have a little start on it. But I don't think I have a book in me right now. Possibly a novella I guess. I have my humanity thanks to my mom. She taught me so many things about people. She taught me to accept people for who they are, but not to let people walk on you. To have respect for others as well has yourself.
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LastKnight Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 02:34 AM
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27. not just the monetary value...
i honestly think these are stories people need to hear. every one of the 'stories of the road' ive had the fortune of reading has been seriously thought provoking, and well... we could use some of that in this country these days...

-LK
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NMMNG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:43 AM
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13. That kind of irrational hatred scares me
And the sad thing is that instead of dwindling down as I originally thought it would be doing (back when I was younger and more idealistic) it only seems to be rising nowadays with the surge in fundamentalism and dogmatic thinking. I recall an incident in high school when a blatant redneck racist a year ahead of me was ranting about how black people were inferior to whites just because they were black. I told him that was the stupidest thing I'd ever heard. He gave me a look that could have melted glass, but I stood my ground.

You did the right thing Droopy!


:thumbsup:
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Droopy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:48 AM
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16. You know it
I think you are correct in that the current political environment has brought along with it a resurgence of hatred. I know a few racist people who seem like they are emboldened by Bush. They feel empowered and their hatred swells.
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enigmatic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 03:08 AM
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36. Bingo
Edited on Fri Jun-17-05 03:10 AM by enigmatic
He's their validation to a degree to have those thoughts. That, and the rise of Limbaugh..
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MissHoneychurch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:43 AM
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14. that is just one sick couple
unfortunately they are not the only ones.
I am lucky enough to live in Germany where my relationship to a "horrible" person isn't considered bad. My bf's parents are a mixed couple. He is the best person I ever met in my live.
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Droopy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:50 AM
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17. Yep
I'm afraid the states are probably not as advanced as the Europeans. You all have a better political environment than us though last time I checked and I think that helps to keep the hatred to a minimum.
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MissHoneychurch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 03:05 AM
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35. There is still enough racism here in Europe
but so far I never had any problems being in a mixed relationship.

I remember when I was a teen in the former GDR there were coming people from Vietnam to our school to learn German. We didn't had any contact with them. Some of my classmates were making nasty comments about them. The typical stuff. I just wanted to know more about them. If I remember right I must have been 8th grade.
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 01:58 AM
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19. Wow.
Edited on Fri Jun-17-05 02:05 AM by Heidi
Thanks, Droopy. This post reminds me of the hell I get from otherwise liberal people who take pride in their race (and these aren't only "white" folks, but black, Latino and Native-American, as well) while I refuse to identify myself by ethnicity. My position is that one's race is a "given," while culture and character, which take work and singlemindedness to maintain, are accomplishments. I'll never understand the "race pride" thing, regardless of the "race" in question. :shrug:
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Droopy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 02:02 AM
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20. That reminds me of a wise quote
I heard a black professor giving a speech about race relations in America one time. I forget his name, but he ended the speech by saying that there is no such thing as race, but there is racism.
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 02:30 AM
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25. Your professor was a wise and courageous person.
Here's a watercolor I did a few years ago, titled "One Tribe." It's my "take" on who we are. Unfortunately, many of us think of ourselves foremost as members of a "race" when we truly are foremost members of humanity.

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Droopy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 02:34 AM
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28. It's a beautiful painting
Do you paint a lot? I might be interested in procuring a painting for my house as I have nothing on the walls right now. I'd love to have something like the painting in your post.
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 02:37 AM
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29. A lot.
It's what I do for a living. The painting you see above is about 8 x 10 inches, watercolor on handmade paper. It's in the private collection of a constitutional lawyer in the US.
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Droopy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 02:49 AM
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30. Dammit
You are going to have to make another one for me. Do you have any prints made of the piece? Wouldn't be as good as the real thing, but I like what it represents and it would look good in my living room.
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 02:52 AM
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31. Unfortunately . . .
I don't do giclee prints for a variety of reasons, but you are welcome to print out that painting on good paper and hang it in your home.

If you'd like me to email you a high-res scan of the painting for that purpose, Droopy, send me a PM. :pals:
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Droopy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 03:03 AM
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34. I'm afraid my printer sucks
It's a little $50 deal from CompUSA. Thanks for the offer, though. I know of one painter who has sold his paintings here on DU. If you ever decide to do such a thing let me know and I will put in a bid.
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enigmatic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 02:55 AM
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32. Wow Heidi, that's incredible...
What a beautiful watercolor; you're really talented..
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 02:56 AM
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33. Thanks, enigmatic . . .
I'm blessed to be in the company of other talented and good-hearted folks (yourself included) and that feeds my spirit. :hi:
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 02:17 AM
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22. Hi, Droopy....great post as always!
When I read your warning about how this story might be too upsetting for any sensitive person to read, I did pause. But I'm familiar with your writing style, and I thought it would be safe for me...it was.

You don't sensationalize these stories. You tell them with a simplicity and grace that is remarkable. The sentences roll out in a very straightforward manner. Yet the whole narrative is gripping and intensely interesting.

Please keep them coming...And save them for a book or whatever you deem best. I love them, and would love to have a book from you, autographed by you. I look forward to that day!



:pals:

:yourock:
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Droopy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 02:22 AM
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24. Thanks Peggy
Based on the feedback here I'm going to search the archives for all of my "stories from the road" posts and copy them in MS Word. It might take me a while, but I will eventually have enough for a book. You will be among the first to receive a book if I ever write one.
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 02:33 AM
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26. Thanks, Droopy...
Another very good reason for me to stay alive! (I may sound like I'm being funny, but I really do mean it.)

I appreciate your thoughts...
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BelleCarolinaPeridot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 03:38 AM
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37. Can I be the second to receive a book ?
Please ?
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Droopy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 02:55 PM
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39. Yes of course
If I ever write a book I will make it known here. You all will be the first to know.
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-17-05 10:32 AM
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38. Kick for the daytime crowd.
Droopy's telling the night shift some excellent and very human stories, and I thought ya'll might enjoy reading this one.
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