I need some Major advice...

[More Than A Feeling]

This story involves three people: we will call them John, Priscilla, and Miles. John and Priscilla are in a serious long term relationship and have been for two years, and Miles is Priscilla's best friend and has been for seven years.

Unfortunately, Priscilla and Miles have always had serious sexual tension between them. Now it seems that they have gone and cheated on John.

They came to me for advice, since I have been their good friend as long as they have known each other, but I don't know John, except in passing. I wish they hadn't told me, but now that they have, I feel obligated to give them some advice, if only I knew what that should be.

What should I say/do? What is your take on this situation? I want to remain friends with both Miles and Priscilla.

[auntAgonist]

1. I'd stay out of it altogether

They were very selfish to even share this with you, it puts all of your friendships in jeopardy.

[supernova]

2. Priscilla needs to say goodbye to John

and pursue a relationship with Miles, with whom she has long-standing unresolved feelings.

Unless everyone's OK with a threesome. :shrug:

[Swede]

3. You sir are in a no-win sitiuation.

Your advice may be good or bad or none at all,but whatever you do someone is gonna get hurt. Run,maybe?

[supernova]

4. Yep,

It's just not going to be any fun at all.

[OldLeftieLawyer]

5. You won't

Accept the very real likelihood that the friendship is over. You've been placed in an impossible position.

John will be angry when he finds out you knew about them.

Priscilla will be angry if you don't back her up.

Miles will be angry if you don't side with him and Priscilla.

No matter what you say, you're going to lose.

So, say nothing. Let them work it out - after all, it's their baby, so let them rock it.

Good friends don't co-opt other good friends, but that's what just happened to you.

Good luck.

[graywarrior]

6. Stay the hell out of it.

Man, I hate when people confess their sins to their friends. They both need to confront John, but you don't need to get involved. You'll end up like a cop at a domestic call.

[mongo]

7. All you can do is listen and ask questions

to try to get them to figure out what they want to happen out of all of this.

There is no right answer to this. It is only a matter of them figuring out what they want. Personally, if you want to get involved, I would talk to Priscilla and Miles seperatly, and then together to at least make sure that they are communicating their feelings and intentions to each other - since John is out of the loop already.

Better advice might be to stay out of it altogether - but that's your call, and I realize how hard that might be now that you are somewhat caught in the middle of this.

[caty]

8. I agree with Swede.

You have been put in a no win situation. It is up to Priscilla and Miles to do the right thing. Does Priscilla want to break it off with John to be with Miles? If so, she should end it with John before he gets hurt even more by it being dragged out. If you can't trust someone, you can't respect them. And, how can you love someone you can't respect. But, it really isn't yours to tell. It is up to them to get this straightened out.:shrug:

[vogonjiltz]

9. Run away.

[vogonjiltz]

10. You should get new friends, they did you no favors...

by involving you.

[MichiganVote]

11. Some friends to have made you father/mother confessor

Better size up your friends better. They aren't doing you any favors.

They need a professional to straighten out their mess. Anything you say or do will just be construed as bias.

[acmavm]

12. Don't get involved. There is no such thing as an innocent bystander.

Especially this he/she is foolhardy enough to offer advice.

[Droopy]

13. I'm afraid there is nothing you can say or do

that will help anyone. I'll echo what others have said here and tell you to stay out of it. Just tell your friends that you do not know what to tell them.