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maveric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-19-05 01:31 PM
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Father's Day Tribute to Fathers no longer with us.
My dad, James M.Lenane was born to an Irish-American family in Watertown NY in 1931, Two weeks later my grandparents moved back to their hometown of Lawrence MA. A year later they moved across the state line to Salem NH.
Dad was an only child and when his mom died when he was 12 he began to write. A hobby that turned into his livelihood. He got a small scholarship to UNH where he graduated with a degree in journalism in 1954. That same year he married Ma, a beautiful Sicilian girl from Lawrence. Both families were incensed for the "breaking the bloodline" thing that was rooted so deeply in Irish and Italian/Sicilian families back then. That marriage lasted for all eternity.
Dad went to work for William Loeb, publisher for the Manchester Union Leader. Mr. Loeb liked my dad's style but later had to fire him for his expressions of liberalism. The UL was and is a very conservative paper. He then heard the word on the streets of an upstart newspaper opening up in Haverhill MA.
"The Haverhill Journal" went into print in 1959. A very progressive paper for its time and in fierce competition with the "Haverhill Gazette", the long-standing, local paper. The "Journal" went under in 1969 and Dad went to work for the ever-hated "Gazette", where he would work for the rest of his life as reporter, columnist ans editor.
Dad won many local news awards and was nominated for a Pulitzer for a story he wrote about the stabbing of a teenage girl. He actually did some legwork and gained info that led to the killer of the girl. He was an old-time reporter who loved his work.
Dad died in his sleep om May 1, 2000. Prior to his death we spoke often about the quality of media/journalism in the country and he was sick at what had become of it. He warned me that it would get worse due to corporate interference. He was sickened by this.

I miss you Dad and miss our political conversations. I can only imagine what he'd be saying about whats happening now.
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Justice Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-19-05 01:37 PM
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1. Grandfather's Too

My mom's grandfather took me as a kid to my first Red Sox game, back in the days when it was still okay to smoke cigars in your seat. My younger brother and I with my grandfather and my uncle. We had excellent seats two rows from the field between 3rd and home.

He was a banker, and then went back to the bank after he retired. He was walking to work one day in January, and had a fatal heart attack in front of the Parker House Hotel. He was 78.

He was smart, a neat freak, and extraordinary generous with his time, and caring. He was devoted to my mom, and had great respect for my dad.

His birthday was the 4th of July.
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stlsaxman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-19-05 02:16 PM
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2. George Washington Schaeffer
My father died when i was 2 years of age. I wrote this for a Family Reunion back in 2001

Thoughts and Memories of My Father:

This is my father. From what I recall hearing about him when I was young, the word 'father' was stressed. Never "dad" or "daddy". Father. His name was George Washington Schaeffer. Actually that's Junior. George W. (argh!) Schaeffer, Jr. Born and raised in Oak Park, Illinois, George was a Boy Scout through to the rank of Eagle Scout. I often wore the sash for displaying his earned merit badges, not knowing what they stood for but enjoying the spectacular weaving of them. I had heard from my older siblings that he was a firm disciplinarian, bordering on being emotionally abusive. I wouldn't know; George died when I was two years of age. George had two siblings, Don and Evelyn. Don I had met on several occasions and he put me on the mailing list of "The Underground Grammarian", a periodical he contributed to frequently. Aunt Ev, as we knew her, was as obscure to me as George was. All I knew of her was she married a "famous artist", Richard M. Powers, and lived in Connecticut. My sister Maria and I visited them in 1963 with our mother, Rita, but the only thing I remember from that trip was being too frightened by the paintings in the bottom of their pool to go swimming!

(portrait of George by Richard Gorman Powers)

These are memories, some real, some possibly imagined that have accumulated over my life.

My impression of George, however misplaced, was one of a staunch conservative who would have voted for Goldwater, Nixon and Reagan had he been alive. The only indication to the contrary was during the first Nixon campaign when Rita and I were watching the news in her room and her saying "George always said, 'if that man ever got into office this country would be in loads of trouble'". Other than that, Rita rarely spoke of him, sadly. Not that I was one to question her about him, sadder still. This hard right Republican vision of George lasted up to 1998, when during a conversation with Nora, we opened up about him. But first, a little about myself.

Coming of age in the late '60s and early '70s, the grade school Maria, Benet and I attended was operated by rather liberal nuns. The sisters of the order of The Blessed Virgin Mary had taken an anti-war stance during the police action in Viet Nam and had hired several of the teachers we had on a war deferment. To say we had a "liberal education" would be putting it lightly. Aside from the curriculum, some of the more aware students were given books by these teachers. By the seventh grade I had read "Black Like Me", "Steal This Book", "Do It!", and "The Autobiography Of Malcolm X". More like a radical education, to say the least. And it was through this filter that memories of George were filtered as I was growing up. To me George was "The Man". The conversation with Nora was revelatory and epiphanous. Some things I learned were:

George and Rita worked on the editorial board of the Catholic Worker, a publication that ran soup kitchens and clothing outlets for the homeless headed by social activist and author, Dorothy Day;

It is believed that George testified on behalf of his boss at the Manhattan Project, Hermann Schlesinger, before the House Un-American Activities Committee.

There was, we understand from conversations with his peers, talk of George being nominated for a Nobel Prize;

George was directly responsible for the first African-American receiving a Ph. D. from St. Louis University. He had threatened his resignation as head of the Chemistry Dept. if Al Stewart were not awarded his doctorate. Dr. Stewart went on to become Vice-president of Union Carbide;

Some years after his death, a Jewish family, The Heymanns from Baltimore, moved in across the street from us on our little cul du sac. Ours was the only family to approach them and make them welcome. All others ignored them for months;

The Society Of Inorganic Chemists dedicated Vol. 1, No. 1 of its periodical "Inorganic Chemistry" to George and two of his peers. Prof. Schlesinger and Wendell M. Latimer;

I hear that while his brother Don was in Bermuda (?), he met Robert Oppenhiemer and when asked if he knew of George replied, "Yes, George Schaeffer was a wonderful man and a brilliant scientist!"

As one might imagine, I was totally overwhelmed to learn these things. My heart swelled with pride to realize that I was the progeny of such a great man. Here was a man who, from what were my unfounded beliefs, I was almost glad died when I was such a young age, suddenly becoming one of my all-time heroes. Rita rarely spoke of her husband and, retrospectively, I can hold no malice toward her. She was left with six children to raise and it is no great secret that in the wake of all this, she turned to drink. I personally have dealt with the demons of alcoholism. As stated earlier, I was never one to ask about George. Maybe it was in the nature of his work on the Manhattan Project, being sworn to secrecy, and Rita's absolute compliance with that oath that had her of the mind that she shouldn't talk of him and his work. Understandable, given the time and the age, yet an absolute shame that his life should be so shrouded from his children.

Below are some excerpts of letters Monica has sent to various parties in her arduous research into establishing the cause of George's death. They fill in many empty spaces surrounding this special man who I am now so very proud to call my father.

stlsaxman
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Bunny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-19-05 02:40 PM
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3. My Dad, Bob D. Gone two years now, missed terribly every day.
:cry:
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djeseru Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-19-05 02:49 PM
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4. I lost mine suddenly, violently...
...over 15 years ago - Tommy Biesemeier was the one solid touchstone in my life next to my grandmother, who raised me. I was so lucky to have him my first 21 years.

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blondeatlast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-19-05 03:03 PM
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5. To my loving, strong, marvelous Dad who passed away
two years ago in May.

WW2 vet, schoolteacher to school principal to administrator for programs for the developmentally disabled.

I found out last year he really wanted to be an electrical engineer, but cast it aside in order to provide for his then 2 daughters (I came along much later).

A confirmed yellow-dog Dem, never missed an election.

Above all, the man my son aspires to be; loving, generous to a fault, smart, and hardworking.

Thanks, dad. I hope you went to your reward knowing that you were loved and respected by your progeny. God bless you.
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ls317 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-19-05 03:44 PM
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6. Fathers Day 2005
Memo to Fathers


We may have had our differences of the years on a host of issues big and small ones. Although you are not around because you passed away a few years ago.
I just wanted to thank you for riding my ass while I was growing up.I will admit I didn't understand what you where trying to achieve.
But as I got older they started to make since in the big picture of life.I will admit at times I was an asshole as a kid.But that is the nature of human beings as a whole.
We may look alike( family) but yet we are not one in the same.Looking back during my younger days I wasn't trying listen to anything that you said. That would be the hardheadedness that runs in the family
I just want to thank you for the values and ideas and beliefs that you instilled in me as a child.
Because once I became a father myself things had a whole different outlook on them.
Hell kids don't come with instructions,its trial and error on the some issues and hopefully finding a middle ground with his mother on them.
As I became older those same things that you spoke to me as a child, I started to see how they made since in the big picture of life as a whole.
Just a note saying thank you for all the difference that you made in my life.



P.S- Happy Fathers Day to All,
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