Tell me about a drama in your life.

[friesianrider]

Because mine are boring even ME.

Any kind of drama in your life - family, friends, SOs, etc. Go.

[GirlinContempt]

1. A girl I know through my little sister

(just turned 18) is addicted to crystal meth (nothing new there) and has a severe eating disorder (nothing new there either, its why her and my sister are such good friends). She recently got pregnant. She isn't going to have an abortion, which means she'll lose her university scholarship because theres no one to help with the kid or $, plus I doubt she'll stay off the dirty drugs for 9 full months, so the kid will probably be born all screwed up. She seems to be living in this fantasy where she'll have this baby and go on with her life only as a mother, as well as a student/drug addict who sleeps around for meth. She's the most selfish person I think I know, and she's getting ready for a rude awakening.

Hows that?

[friesianrider]

6. Yikes!

Now THAT'S drama (and sounds like more is to come)!

[obxhead]

14. oh

brutal,
Meth is tough. Seen it. Tough.
Get her out if you can......

[GirlinContempt]

16. She's been in and out of rehab so many times

I don't know how much hope there is

[obxhead]

17. doubt rehab will work.

Need to get her to a city with less Meth around. Away from all the "friends" in her circle. Thats one of the ugliest drugs out there.

[GirlinContempt]

21. Thats basically what rehab is

[obxhead]

23. Yeah I agree (kinda)

Rehab puts you in with other people that can still talk your "drug talk". Unless you move away or change your circle of "friends" when you get out what really changes? Getting off drugs takes a life change. not a break from your culture.

[GirlinContempt]

25. Well

you gotta be prepared to make those changes. And I don't think she is.

[obxhead]

26. 'sigh'

another stat that fuels another broken machine.

[orleans]

59. tell her if she doesn't get her shit together

you're gonna report her to children and family services. (you don't live in florida do you? i hear they keep losing children)

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

2. No drama here.

I wish. My life: Get up. Go to work. Go home. Feed cats. Feed self. Watch TV while surfing/blogging. Go to bed. Repeat.

[Krupskaya]

3. I'm living with my in-laws...

...without the buffer of my SO around.

[Droopy]

4. I ran out of beer one time

That was pretty dramatic. Or should I say traumatic.

[friesianrider]

5. Ok, I'll tell mine anyway ;)

I was supposed to go to FL for my boyfriend's cousin's wedding. BUT I'm afraid to fly so bagged the trip for me. BUT, drama about the bride-to-be...

She's someone who just never seemed to fit into my BFs family. They are a very typical family...she is very...whorish. In her style of dress, her mannerisms, and in reality. Whelp, a few weeks after my BFs sister's wedding, Jess decides she wants to get engaged - immediately. So she gives Nick (my BFs cousin) exactly 4 weeks to propose or, in her words, "it is over for good." At the time, she was living with Nick and his parents, so naturally Nick's mother said that they might consider waiting a year as Nick just started a great new job, Jess wasn't working yet, etc. After everyone leaves for work, Jess leaves a nasty note to Nick's mother and packs up and leaves. Still, Nick borrows money from his parents to buy an engagement ring. He proposes.

Less than 48 hours after the proposal, Jess tells Nick and his family that HER parents are moving to Florida and she wants to move there too. And now that they're engaged they can just buy a house! Yay for all! Unbeknownst to us, at the time she issued her ultimatum, she knew her parents said they were moving to Florida and wanted her to move down with them. She practically admitted that she wanted to be engaged rather than risk a break-up/long-term relationship failure.

So, Jess has tricked Nick into becoming engaged to a woman he thought would be with him in PA - now must move to FL. So they find a house but no money. Once again, they hit up Nick's parents for the down payment. Oh, and some new furniture. And new carpet. And the wedding, and the honeymoon - but everything else they're doing on their own! Once the house is bought, yet another surprise. Jess' parents will need a place to stay until they find THEIR new home...and, Jess' newly graduated brother will be attending college nearby, so since they already have a house...

Needless to say, I am seriously sorry that I will be missing the drama this weekend.

[madeline_con]

12. It's their own fault...

for buying all that crap. Some people like to believe in fairy tales.

[tjdee]

18. What's with women who give ultimatums?

Nothing like threatening a man into marrying you, because nothing says true love like succumbing to a threat. :eyes:

[distantearlywarning]

30. And what's with men that give in to them?

Just the act of the ultimatum itself would make me sketchy about being with someone the rest of my life. Are these guys just desperate or is it that they don't want to hurt her feelings or what? I don't get it.

[Mrs_Beastman]

55. um, has Nick ever considered breaking off the engagement?

or not hitting his parents up for money? :shrug: problem solved.

[friesianrider]

62. Nick is a TOTAL pushover.

(in case you didn't already get that). He's hopeless - wedding is in two days...Saturday.

[Yupster]

7. Back in college

I was hitchhiking down the Dalmatian coast.

When night came, I'd just go into a farmer's field or a forest on a hill and sleep in my sleeping bag.

So there I was in my bag when a carlight came up off the main road onto the dirt road right near me.

I figured the neighbor saw my flashlight and I didn't speak Serbo-Croatian so I was worried.

A guy got out of the car about 30 feet from me, urinated against a tree, got back into the car and drove away.

Seemed more dramatic at the time. I guess you had to be there. This would have been in 1980.

[texanwitch]

8. I don't know if this is a drama to any one else but me,

but I decided to do a major housecleaning and dejunk my life.

I just couldn't stand all the crap anymore, so I started room by room, and I feel so much better now. Found lots things I thought I had lost, and got rid things I never use, everything went to good homes.

I am a much happier person, and I feel better.

Not much of a drama but felt like one to me.

[friesianrider]

9. Hey clutter IS drama...

I should know, since I have so much STUFF. I have read that it is psychologically taxing to look at "all this crap" day in and day out.

[Sugar Smack]

27. Plus, it's a huge distraction.

My bookshelves are always distracting me! I need to thin them out a little, but it ain't easy.

[LastKnight]

10. as if i havent spread my drama around enough... but you asked for it.

well this goes way back with the problems in my head... ive had somewhat a history of depression, just know that as some background info. and last summer i was ready to take my own life. in a last ditch effort i decided to give myself 1 year to try and turn my life around. i was going off to college for that year, so a new start was possible.

so i just stick it out through the summer. school starts, stuff doesnt look like its gonna change. but out of nowhere i meet this girl. we become close friends... tell each other everything, ect. as predicitble as i or any other guy is... i fall for this girl...problem: shes attached. this plunges me deeper into my emotional hole. i could write a whole drama story about that alone. anyway... this relationship eventuially ends, the details... not important. anyway, after awhile, we start going out... this complimented by unannounced visits to the college by her ex, harrassment, ect. and middle-of-the-night phone call death threats to me from him, because my number was in her cell phone, which was actuially his cell phone... imagine the stress on our relationship at that point. as much as i felt like giving up... i stuck around... because i loved her to death... and even though it was tough i was willing to work through it. after the ex finially accepts it, the calls/visits die down a bit... and we finially make some progress on through the year. eventuially summer comes around, and at this point, niether of us ever wanted to be in school more... honestly.

summer starts out fine, i guess. nightly calls, usuially lasting 3+hours... and despite frequent visits to each other... i can feel her drifting away. and about 2 weeks ago... she up and left me out of nowhere, giving no reason. when a few days before that she was saying she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me (not the first time she had said it).

now - thats not something she would ever say lightly, infact she says im the only person shes said it to. and i feel the same way about her, and shes indeed been the only one ive said it about. but now its over, for reasons unclear. and i added that to all the other personal problems i have, so here i am, a year later... nothings really better, infact much of it is worse, but im not in the same depression i was. and im not going anywhere.

i still would like to understand women, though.

is that drama? even if im ok with it at the end? or doesnt that count?

-LK

EDIT: this is the short version, by the way.

[Sugar Smack]

40. Hey.

Smilies don't really help drama, but-

:hug:

[elehhhhna]

57. Honey, the typical length of time infatuation lasts is 68 days.

Keep that in mind.

You're in a better space and you will therefore attract a better person this time around.

Ask yourself every day : How GOOD am I willing to let things be?
Then let things be good.

E

[fortyfeetunder]

11. Preparing to tell someone you don't trust them

I can't go into detail but there is a colleague who I cannot trust for several reasons. This person comes to me often for leadership advice and direction.

I want to finally tell this person, you don't bite the hands of the people whose ass you have to kiss later --I don't trust you, therefore I keep you at arm's reach.

But I am still trying to frame it diplomatically...:evilgrin:

Or I should shut up and let this person hang on their own rope. I figure it's a matter of time.

[madeline_con]

13. Give them advice...

that will help tighten the noose for them.

[sandnsea]

15. A bat just flew into my house

Boring sounds better now, doesn't it? :)

[SarahB]

19. My life is finally settling into sane.

I like it. :)

I've had enough useless drama to last me for a long, long time.

[ScreamingMeemie]

20. My brother (38 going on 19) is expecting a baby with his girlfriend

( who won't take his calls at the present time) in July. pretty dramatic even for my family. ;)

[Sugar Smack]

22. My best friend and I just wanted to go fishing.

I really had to persuade her to cut loose and have some fun, but her husband was the oppressive type. Well, she snuck away with me anyway, leaving a microwave dinner for him. She looked like she was having fun. We went line-dancing and this sleaze came over and started getting a little possessive. I came out of the ladies' to find that he was trying to force himself on her. Next thing you know, "BLAM!", I shot him.

We had to hit the road. I had my wonderful boyfriend wire us some money. We picked up a gorgeous hitch-hiker who turned out to have the hots for my best friend. She let him stay with her, and he disappeared with all our money! I blamed myself, not her. Later, she had to hold up a gas station at gunpoint, but she was really polite about it. Unfortunately, they had the whole thing on tape.

At one point, we had 30 cop cars chasing us across the desert, and we outran them. We stopped wearing makeup. We kept meeting up with this rude fellow, and we were forced to blow up his truck and steal his hat.

It was all downhill from there....

[GOPisEvil]

32. You should turn that into a movie.

;)

[Sugar Smack]

37. Maybe! People've told me that before!

But who would I get to play me? She'd have to be sassy & older. And I want my best friend played by some tall, amazonian, olympic archer with dimples. If it's not too much to ask.

;)

[GOPisEvil]

41. If you work at it, you can do anything.

;)

[Sugar Smack]

45. Don't EVEN get me started on when we were in Transylvania,

my man and I, and suddenly found ourselves surrounded by mad scientist transvestites, garters, shoes, rice, and orgyin' all around.

High, high drama there!

[GOPisEvil]

46. .

:rofl:

Did they make you dance the "Time Warp"?

[Sugar Smack]

47. I KNEW it!!!!!!

You were there, weren't you! I though I recognized you, but without the wig and the stilletos.

:evilgrin:

[GOPisEvil]

49. You found me out!

:blush:

[Nikia]

24. One of our middle aged friends

Who has been having problems with his wife lately. He seems to have become obsessed with teenage girls. I was a little concerned about the one who turned eighteen a month or two after they met. I am very concerned about his current admiration of a couple of girls a few years younger. He works with all of these young women.
I don't think that he would actually do anything with these girls, but it still concerns me.

[GOPisEvil]

28. My job is sucking the soul right out of me.

It's getting so I really, really hate going in to the office every day. But, I need to eat and pay the mortgage. So, until things improve (which might be soon) or I find another job, I have to suck it up. *sigh* At least I only have to put in 40 hours a week.

[Nikia]

31. I have that problem too

It is especially vital that I work since my husband is unemployed, have a dog (hard to find cheap housing that allows dogs), are in debt including medical debt, and need the health insurance. Because of that and other unfortunate events, I have developed an eating disorder, worsened anxiety, and think that I may be developing depression. I don't know if I am in the position healthwise to get a different job that pays the same or more. It is so hard to get better though when I experience a sense of dread each day about going to work.

[friesianrider]

33. Well good for you though for...

Not giving up your doggie. I work at a shelter and see people who just don't "feel" like looking for a place that they can afford which takes dogs - so they dump the dog at the shelter and 9 days later the dog is usually put to sleep.

Hang in there. The best thing you can do is try to take care of yourself in terms of your eating disorder. We're all here for you if you ever need to talk - and feel free to PM me anytime you need a shoulder to lean on :hug:

[Nikia]

34. Thanks for being supportive

It means a lot to me to have people here like you.

[TripAndFall]

29. Just read my blog

Damned If I Know

[skygazer]

35. Do you have all day?

Unfortunately my life for the past 44 years has been nothing but drama. Let's see, which one shall I share?

How about the story of my son? He's 17, I've seen him once in the last 6 1/2 years. You see, his father is a jerk and a career criminal - he managed to lure me into his evil clutches and once I was committed with a small baby began to treat me like his personal punching bag. I had no idea when I met him that he was a drug dealer but eventually discovered that he was a very big coke and heroin dealer. By the time I realized what a nightmare all this was, I was afraid to leave - he told me more than once that he would kill me and take my kids if I did and I believed him. Nor did I call the cops since I knew he was very able to work the system and would probably never do a single minute's time for anything he did to me.

So I waited. I was with that man for 8 years (it took several years for the true monster to come to light so "only" about 5 of those years were spent in fear and misery) until he was finally stopped for a highway violation and found with 42 grams of coke. He went to jail, was convicted of trafficking and I promptly filed for divorce. Then I had a full scale nervous breakdown that nearly drove me to suicide and put me in a nuthouse at one point.

When he got out of jail, he petitioned for visitation rights and won them. After a year, my son begged to go live with him. The Jerk was working and on parole - I figured he wasn't going to be getting into any trouble since he had to report to his parole officer every week so I reluctantly agreed - my son had some major abandonment issues and at 11 was very hard for me to handle. The Jerk promptly moved to Virginia and sued me for child support. Though I tried to get visitation, the court was not sympathetic, seemingly looking at me as a woman who abandoned her kid (the fact that I had never called the cops on him for abusing me played against me here - I had no proof of his abuse). Since I now pay over $600 a month in child support, I can't afford a lawyer to fight any of this. The Jerk knows the ins and outs of working the system - I, as a law abiding person, do not. The only way I have of seeing my son is to take time off from work and go to Virginia, spending money I don't have on flights, lodging, rental cars, meals and entertainment. I've done it once - it nearly broke me. Now I bide my time, writing regularly to my son and calling him occasionally (I hate to call because I hate to talk to his father) and hoping that when he is of age, he will decide to see more of me.

Despite all this, he's a great kid, does well in school, is polite and well mannered and ALWAYS tells me he loves me when we talk.

Is that enough drama or would you like more? ;)

[fortyfeetunder]

38. What is it with Virginia courts?

I know of another woman who had as rough time with settling custody in a VA court. It was a complete farce....

[Debbi801]

44. I'm so sorry....

Custody things SUCK! It is amazing that the courts will consider these men fit parents. I'm going through a very similar thing right now, although my kids (10 & 12) currently don't want anything to do with their father, but are being forced by the courts to see him.

:hug:

Debbi

[sandnsea]

48. Sorry to say

That's the story of almost every ex-husband and ex-boyfriend in America. You'd treat him that way if the situation were reversed and not even think twice when he complained, arrest record or no, abuse or no.

[skygazer]

50. How dare you assume that I would treat him the same way?

First of all, I was the one who initiated visitation when he first got out of jail, feeling that it was important that his son see his father, jerk or not.

Second of all, though we were separated for three years before he got custody, I NEVER filed for any kind of child support, preferring instead to have as little to do with him as I could (without sacrificing my son's right to know his father).

Third of all, I was voluntarily paying him $200 per month in support without him ever asking for it, before he filed in court to force me to pay more (had he simply asked, I would have tried to come to an agreement).

You know NOTHING about me or what I would have done, or would do, or anything else. Don't make assumptions - not all people are the same.

[sandnsea]

58. Visitation & child support?

I fail to see the difference between him having visitation and paying child support and you having visitation and paying child support. I know lots of dads with $600 a month support obligations. If he had to move for a job or you had to move for a job, and you had your son, he'd have the travel expenses. It wasn't an accusation of wrong doing, it was a statement on the fact that that's the way it works. It sucks to be the non-custodial parent, no matter who it is. That's all.

[Tsiyu]

65. Complete and total bullshit

I know too many custodial fathers and too many shit-on mothers. NO gender is safe from idiotic judges. I am sick to death of hearing men complain that this is their burden alone.

And if a woman dares complain, she gets the fucking obligatory "now you know how all men feel." Bullshit. i know a lot of men who are great fathers. i know a lot who won't ever see their kids or pay child support.

DON'T make custody a gender thing. You will end up looking like an idiot...

[friesianrider]

63. Damn that is terrible.

I don't understand why bad shit happens so often to good people. Hang in there. Your son sounds like he is doing quite well despite all of this, and that's by FAR the most important thing. You did something right! :) Keep us updated on this, ok? We're all here if you ever need to talk! :hug:

[rustydog]

36. My brother and I were fishing.. Having an ok day of it

when my brother wandered off a few yards.
I heard rocks hitting the water which I thought odd because my brother is like Brad Pitt in "A river runs through it" a very serious fisherman.

Then I hear the unmistakeable splash. I ran aroundthe bend and there is my brother having a seizure in the water, slowly sinking and blood flowing from a gash in his head.

I jump in and try to hold his head above water as the seizure continued and I called out for help. a canoeist came to help me as another ran to the freeway North of us to flag downa car to go get help.

We lay him on the bank of the lake and await the ambulance.

[VOX]

53. Good God!

I hope he's all right! :scared: Your nerves must be fried.

So much for an easy day of fishing.

[xmas74]

39. You don't want to know.

[Debbi801]

42. I'm suing my ex-husband for custody of my 2 older kids...

Who are now 12 and 10. He likes to beat up his wives and girl friends and doesn't mind if the kids are there as spectators or not. :grr:

And, because in this great state of mine (maybe others, too), the courts do not like to take kids away from their parents, I am having a rough go of it. It doesn't matter that the kids do not want to see him and are afraid of him. It doesn't matter that they cry when they have to go with him and their school work and mental states are suffering. Since he has never used them as punching bags, he is considered a fit father. Even with a police record and 2 restraining orders against him currently. :banghead:

How's that for drama?

[Debbi801]

43. Self-delete

Not sure why it posted it twice. :shrug:

[Midlodemocrat]

51. Sigh. Where to begin. nt

[bertha katzenengel]

52. Oh, God, do I have to?

The thought just chaps my ass with boredom. I wouldn't even know where to begin. :freak:

:hi: Maybe later.

[Sugar Smack]

54. Your good deed for the day will be

to have made another DUer laugh by partying with your problems. That would be me, and you always do. If you must, make something up (like I did).

Did I say that out loud?

[Blue_In_AK]

56. My whole life has been a drama...

It's only settled down in the last couple of years or so as I approach seniorhood. I don't know how much more of that I could have stood.

[Skittles]

60. there is drama in my life every day, I kid you not

a therapist once told me that due to a childhood of instability and abandonment, I create chaos everywhere I go. I'd say there is some truth to that although of course it is not always my own doing. I often say my life is like a Seinfeld episode only not as funny. :o

Here's just one thing that happened yesterday - at work both printers in the huge room I'm in were not working - I knew of another printer but got a not-authorized message trying to add it. So I emailed what I wanted to another section of folk who I know use that printer, then walked back and asked a guy named Rick to print it please - he said JUST A MINUTE PLEASE- wrote "PRINT BITCH" on a nametag and stuck it on his chest and said OK NOW I'LL PRINT IT. I know this guy so I said OH COME ON NOW I CAME BACK HERE IN PERSON BECAUSE I KNEW YOU'D GIVE ME A HARD TIME etc. People observing us going at it were laughing their asses off :D

[orleans]

61. i teach drama

and i prefer very little in my personal life.

so far so good.

[Qanisqineq]

64. My whole life is a fucking drama

I'd love to have a husband that didn't lie every time he opened his mouth.

BTW, I am in a really pissy mood. If you haven't figured out why, read the sentence above. :P