Wcross
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Wed Jun-22-05 08:11 PM
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I managed to screw up by NOT having a workplace romance. |
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I work in a factory. I transferred to a new department about a year ago. I happen to work with a woman who is the same height as I (tall). Suddenly I have the "ladies self help society" urging me to ask this woman out. I am a firm believer in not mixing my work with my private life. The "society" has been working on me for over 3 months. One even offered to pay for the date! (Now I am just a prostitute?) Even a few of the woman’s male friends have urged me to take her out. I have tried to be polite and tell these people I wouldn't date anyone I work with. They keep pushing. I think you might as well just quit as having your life opened up to 100- 200 people who are for the most part, strangers. I have told these people I would be VERY uncomfortable dating a co-worker. I am not being a hypocrite, even if this woman was my type I would not date her for the complications involved. Now the rumors start. A guy comes up and says something about un-specified rumors. He didn't tell me specifics but it has added another dimension of stress to the job. I don't know if the rumors are about my job performance or that I am going to get fired for whatever reason. The woman is a good worker and friendly with my supervisor. I get no feedback from management about my performance. I am staff the other workers are union. I don't want to get involved with anyone at work! How freaking hard is that to understand? I would hate to lose my job (it pays more than the median household income for my area). All I want is for people to leave me alone and do my work.
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sam sarrha
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Wed Jun-22-05 08:25 PM
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1. What part of SEXUAL HARASSMENT dont those people understand.? |
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This is way over the line and you need to go to HR Immediately.!!!!. and tell them..
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Spinzonner
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Wed Jun-22-05 08:37 PM
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2. Tell them you're gay ? |
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Of course that might just be swapping one problem for another ....
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Wcross
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Wed Jun-22-05 08:43 PM
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3. The ratio of men to women would make it 4x the problem! |
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I want to stick to my theory that dating co-workers isn't a good thing. If I turn down the guys, rumors will start about my owning six dogs............. People at work just can't seem to leave well enough alone.
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Wed Jun-22-05 08:46 PM
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4. Have you talked to the lady in question |
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either about it or just in general ?
Not suggesting a relationship or even a date - though that might put a stop to all the lobbying activity.
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Wcross
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Wed Jun-22-05 08:55 PM
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5. I talk to her from time to time ... |
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...as part of my job requirements. I hesitate to bring it up because I don't know if its her doing or her friends trying to fix her up. I would hope word would get back either way that I am not interested.
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Wed Jun-22-05 09:16 PM
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6. Tell them you are already |
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involved with someone else. I'm not big on lying about things like that, but if it will get them off your back, bring out that imaginary girlfriend.:dilemma:
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