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Spacemom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 04:51 PM
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This is why I've been a bit weird


My mom passed away on Wednesday June 15. She fought ovarian cancer for a year and a half. She was my best friend. Some of you may remember back in February when I posted that she was hospitalized. The doctors gave her from 2 weeks to 2 months. She lasted 4. She was 55 years old and the nicest person you could hope to meet. Everyone was her friend, and she never met a person she didn't like.

I guess I've gone a bit around the bend. I've been drinking too much. I feel like part of myself has been amputated.

My husband was making a briskett today and I said I would make pinto beans and potato salad. As I began to make the potato salad I realized I was making my mom's potato salad. She taught me how. Every BBQ or picnic we ever went to, she made the potato salad. Everybody loved it.

It's so hard. I'll miss her every day for the rest of my life. I was there with her at the end. She was at home in hospice care. I held her hand to the very end.

I'm not looking for sympathy. Just to let the world know that this wonderful person lived, and the world will be a sadder place for her passing.

I love you mom.
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LibraLiz1973 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 04:53 PM
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1. My deepest, deepest sympathies
I just said a prayer for you.
Hang in there- god bless!
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Mayberry Machiavelli Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 04:53 PM
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2. That's as nice a tribute as any Mom could hope for.
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 04:54 PM
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3. I'm sorry for your loss Spacemom
:hug:
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 04:55 PM
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4. so sorry Spacemom
you were very privileged to have a mom like her
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auntAgonist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 04:56 PM
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5. A world without our Moms
Edited on Sun Jun-26-05 04:56 PM by auntAgonist
is a very difficult place. Please know that you are not alone in your grief. May the memories of your Mom / best friend be in your heart always and comfort you when you need comforting.
It does get better over time, the hole in your heart never heals but you will not hurt near as badly as you're hurting now. I know this to be true for me.

:hug:
May your mother rest in peace, and may you rest with the knowledge that you were loved by a special woman, your Mother.
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progmom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 04:57 PM
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6. oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh you poor sweet woman. :hug:

I am so sorry. Really. :hug:
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Cyndee_Lou_Who Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 04:57 PM
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7. That was a beautiful tribute to a beautiful woman.
:hug:
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deadparrot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 04:59 PM
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8. I'm sorry.
Your mom seemed like a great lady (and a great cook)!

Best wishes for your family's, and your own, continued healing. :)
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yardwork Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 05:00 PM
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9. I'm very sorry.
My father passed away seven years ago on June 17. I still miss him. He too died at home, with his family around him.

I'm sorry for your loss. Let yourself grief as hard as possible. It's better to grieve and grieve and grieve than to hold it back.
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knowbody0 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 05:05 PM
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10. what beautiful words for her from you
my mum passed four years ago. every now and again i get a strange feeling followed by her scent. i still talk to her each day.
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Ikonoklast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 05:07 PM
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11. You are the legacy of a loving mother
and as long as you are alive and remember her she, too, still lives.
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hyphenate Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 05:08 PM
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12. My condolences to you
Glad you were able to be there for her at the end. It's tough to lose someone so very close. Many of us here can attest to that grief as of late. There's been a lot of death surrounding us all lately.
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ET Awful Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 05:17 PM
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13. My condolences Spacemom
:hug:
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skygazer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 06:18 PM
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14. Oh, I'm so sorry
Loss is always so difficult - losing a mom is one of the hardest, I think. Your mom is someone so unique, so special, especially when you have such a good relationship as it seems you did.

Yes, you will always miss her but she will always be with you, too. Memory can be painful but also wonderful. :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Lars39 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 06:18 PM
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15. I'm so sorry for your loss, Spacemom.
:hug:
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ismnotwasm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 06:41 PM
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16. She looks like a wonderful lady
My husband always tells people going through grief, that "there is no statute of limitations on the grieving process" meaning you grieve as long as you need to grieve. (he's a slow speaking hippie guy, and it sounds much better when he says it) My heart is out to you.
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Theres-a Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 06:42 PM
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17. So sorry for your loss Spacemom.
That's a beautiful picture,she has a very kind face.
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Tsiyu Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 06:52 PM
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18. Her beautiful spirit shows in that picture
and your love for her is written in all of your sorrow-filled words.

Life really doesn't make sense sometimes, but I see she is near you in your heart. So she's there, in all the things she taught you and all the memories of those family picnics and time spent together.

Sending peaceful thoughts your way...:hug:
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proud2BlibKansan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 06:57 PM
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19. My deepest sympathy
I lost my dad in 1999 and I still miss him every day. It gets easier but the pain never really goes away.
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TOhioLiberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-26-05 06:57 PM
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20. I'm so sorry...
:cry:...I know how you feel; I lost my mom this past October, and it has been tough.

:hug: Feel free to PM me anytime, talking helps more than drinking. :hug:
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