A friend of mine has some DVDs I need to get back...

[Deja Q]

I'd like for a coworker to get to see the DVDs too.

I also know (okay, I'm certain) that after I see him again to get the discs back, he will break off ties. (for a "Democrat" he's surprisingly snide and cruel toward me though I feel we get along... And at this point I shall have to learn to do without; my perception is that things are going nowhere... not that I am suggesting anything interesting happened, but any thoughts of that went out the window on our last date together...)

He also ignores my calls and sends e-mails when it's convenient for him (but there may be logical reasons behind this...)

If it's the end, then so be it. But it's important my discs go to my other friend. She'll love them!

What can I do?

Thanks!

[Kenneth ken]

1. ask to have the DVDs

returned, and mention that you have another friend who wants to borrow them; that being the reason you are asking they be returned.

You're linking unconnected things.

He may have already broken ties, and hopes to gain said DVDs for free. Or he may not break ties, and you're worried over nothing.

The status of that friendship is not relevant to asking for your DVDs to be returned. Wanting to loan them to someone else is the only thing relevant to asking for them back.

[Deja Q]

4. I do not believe that is the case;

he'd sent me a lengthy e-mail a few days ago and there's another reason too... Oh, he's moral enough - of that I have not a doubt whatsoever. It's probably just personality conflict from his POV that's going to be the end of things eventually. (he's never quite understood me; we'll just leave it at that since that is the universal yet most polite way of categorizing it...)

[Kenneth ken]

7. that's fine

but your friendship with him and whether it survives or not is still unrelated to wanting to get your DVDs back and loan them to someone else. So you still need to ask for them back, and ought to mention that you want to lend them to someone else.

[fishnfla]

2. have your co-worker ask for them ?

she can say "hypno toad said I could have them" and " he said you were a real so-and-so too"

[aquaman]

3. Lets all go to this guy's house.....

and demand your DVDs back. If he refuses, we beat his ass.......

[Deja Q]

5. I apologize, I might have wrote the original post wrong...

maybe I'm still buzzed. I don't know.

My previous response should hopefully clear things up...

[Floogeldy]

6. Call him up, whimpering and crying, begging . . .

. . . "Please, man, I'll do anything. J-j-j-j-j-j-ust give it back, whimper whimper whimper, man." Lord, don't cross me again. :cry: I'll give you some money, or something. Just don't, don't.

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