Life's little surprises (I need to vent!)

[giant_robot]

OK, so put yourself in my shoes. You've just completed your doctoral dissertation in March after a long stint in grad school. A good friend is going to be out of town from March until August, and asks you to house-sit for him. Your lease expires in April. Recognizing a good situation, you eagerly accept and decide to do some leisurely job hunting while enjoying the summer and spending lots of time with your new girlfriend, whom you have a wonderful relationship with, and whom you didn't want to leave, anyway.

Life sounds pretty good, doesn't it? It's been a beautiful summer, the future's bright, and you don't have a care in the world. So what two words can throw cold water on such a happy scenario?



















Wait for it..........



















"I'm pregnant." :wow: :wow: :wow: :wow: :wow: :wow: :wow:

[MissMillie]

1. congratulations! (n/t)

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[yvr girl]

2. How does your girlfriend feel about YOU being pregnant?

And HOW did this happen? ;-)

[giant_robot]

7. OK, this is kind of embarrasing,

But you guys are really cool and it's kind of anonymous, so here goes: It happened because the "withdrawal method" is not 100% effective. Even when the man does his part, and even if you only did it that way twice.

[Pale Blue Dot]

13. It always worked for me!

Of course, since I only had to worry about it twice a year...

Hey, congratulations. Being a parent is an incredible experience. :bounce::beer:

[sam sarrha]

15. oh...

:spray: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

[yvr girl]

19. I meant YOU as a man (trying to be funny)

Not YOU as a couple.

Thanks for the cautionary tale though.

[giant_robot]

34. Ooops! Well, I think it turned out funnier that I misunderstood, anyway.

"Ooops!" That's a phrase I seem to be using a lot today. LOL!

[GreenPartyVoter]

46. Hey, that's how we got kid #2 *g*

[Amaya]

48. dude, that doesn't work

now you know...

[4morewars]

3. Congratulations !

:hi:

[JimmyJazz]

4. Congratulations!

:bounce:

[Droopy]

5. Too bad that is seen as a negative at this point in your life

Does your girlfriend feel the same way you do?

[giant_robot]

10. Yes. We're deeply in love, and we want to have children someday,

but the timing is all wrong right now. I'm still totally dumbstruck by this. I still haven't found a "real" job in my field. What a bolt from the blue!

On the bright side, we are committed to staying together, no matter what.

[GreenPartyVoter]

47. Hey. If people waited until the perfect time to have kids, we'd never have

any. It's been a struggle having our kids with minimal $ coming into the house, but it has been doable and they are wonderful brilliant little people.

I say have your sweet baby because things will work out in the long run. :) The cookie monster below showed up for the same reason yours did. *g* Hubby was.. not pleased.. with me for telling him "Sure, it'll be fine. this is a "safe" time of month."

Oops! :P

[giant_robot]

50. What a beautiful child!

Yes, oops! seems to be the word of the day.

I feel like such an ass. Just this Saturday, a friend of mine was telling me that his plans to relocate to a new job were on hold because his girlfriend was pregnant. So of course, I get on my high-horse and tell him, "Well, you know, that's life. There never really is a right time. Blah-blah-blah, yada yada yada..." Little did I know that my girlfriend was two months pregnant as I gave my speech. D'oh!

LBN! As I was posting this, my girlfriend called with the results of a second home pregnancy test. Positive again. Damn! We're preggers.

[GreenPartyVoter]

51. Thanks..2 kids actually. Here is what they look like now :^)

The hand eater is on the left and the cookie monster is on the right.

Anyway, congrats and enjoy having one of your own. They really are wonderful! :D

[sniffa]

6. caLL the enquirer and the weekLy worLd news

this is front page worthy

[sam sarrha]

8. The Party is over.!! you are a parent like it or not, make the adjustment

Oh brave new world

you need to make arrangements for Lamaze Child Birth class's there may be a waiting list so you need to do that NOW.. impress her.
you have to practice together daily.. it is best to do it in the morning and in the evening.. This IS Imporant... childbirth without Lamaze is torture.. with it it is a wonderful experience, but you have to practice practice practice

congratulations

I got a vasectomy...

[giant_robot]

12. LOL! Vasectomy!

Why didn't I think of that? :rofl:

[progressoid]

9. Ah yes,

Been there, done that.

Now things will get really interesting for you! :popcorn:

[giant_robot]

14. Life was already interesting *enough*, thank you very much!

Ah, well, C'est la vie. :)

[progressoid]

27. Oh hell, you'll survive....probably

Here you were scripting your life and one little squirmy decides to do a re-write. Whoa! Plot change? Now?

I jest because, ummm, well, because its easier than getting all beat up over it. I know this from experience (my little graduation surprise is now about to attend college herself!). If you are both sane, reasonable individuals, this will work out.

[giant_robot]

36. Thanks for the jest!

I need to laugh about this right now, and I need to know that other folks have been through the same thing, and have survived. Thanks! :hug:

[LynzM]

11. Been there, dude

Except with the caveat of not yet having graduated, either of us. You can do it, but it's certainly a challenge. We are the classic 'it only takes once' people :) :hug:

[giant_robot]

17. Thanks for the hugs, Lynz,

but dammit, why do we have to be so freakin' fertile?

[ulysses]

21. don't knock it.

why do we have to be so freakin' fertile?

Be happy you are. And buy some rubbers. :)

[giant_robot]

26. LOL!

Thanks, but I might not need them for the next nine months or so! :rofl:

[ulysses]

29. indeed,

but unless you want the next little_robot nine months and five minutes after the first one...get some rubbers. :)

[LynzM]

30. I know, dude....

PM me if you wanna chat about it... I have lots to say but alas, I am at work!

[giant_robot]

39. Thanks, Lynz..

...even though I'm an infrequent poster, you've always been a complete sweetheart to me. I appreciate that. :hug:

[LynzM]

45. You're welcome

Here, dude, have another one :hug:

[xmas74]

16. Take some Lamaze classes.

Find a decent midwife. And, if neither of you have any kind of benefits, apply for Medicaid at your local Family Services dept. Also, she might qualify for WIC.
No one wants to receive these services but they really can help in the short term while you are looking for a decent job.
There is alot of help out there. Don't be afraid to ask for it.

And congratulations! It's not as bad as you think.

[giant_robot]

24. Thanks for the advice and the encouragement...

...most importantly, we are in love and we'll stick together no matter what.

Like I said before, I'm just totally dumbstruck by this. I didn't post to elicit sympathy or anything, I'm just so full of conflicting emotions right now that I'm laughing despite myself. I'm glad I decided to vent my frustrations in the lounge, though. :hug:

[xmas74]

31. My daughter was very unexpected.

I got through it and you will too.
Do look into Family Services as a temp fix. They will be able to help w/ medical, WIC (free cheese, milk, eggs, tuna, carrots and peanut butter-I got it during my pregnancy and the first year after since I nursed. They also give formula and some provide breast pumps for nursing mothers. Plus, they can help w/ further contacts), possible food stamps-sometimes even rental assistance.

It would help you both until you get on your feet and get settled (since I don't really know her situation). Also, some Highway Patrol departments and fire departments will give away free car seats (a must to bring baby home!). The only thing that has to be done is to let them install them-no income limits. Car seats can easily be over $100 so every little bit helps.

[Shell Beau]

18. It can be scary at first.

You'll get used to the idea of being a dad eventually. I will say congrats!

[blondeatlast]

20. Be honest about how both of you feel, and regardless of any decisions that

must be made, you'll both be fine.

If you can say how you really feel about the situation to each other, you know you've found the one.

Do NOT feel it necessary to follow up on this with us if you don't want to.

Good luck. You'll be just fine, I believe.

[giant_robot]

44. Thanks, blondeatlast. I *have* found the one

The one thing that's certain about this situation is that we'll remain together.

Sheesh! Four months from "I love you" to "I'm pregnant". My head is still spinning. I think I'm going to get myself a large gin and tonic.

[MadHound]

22. Can you say OOPS? There now, I knew you could

I really shouldn't laugh at your "little suprise", but it is amusing in its own way. Congratulations on the kid though, even though the child was unexpected, it will still be a joy to both of you.

But now is the time for you to get prepared. Need to get a job, and a house of some sort. You are being rudely thrust into the role of a grown up, so you had better get ready.

You should also probably stock up on your sleep now, for once the kid is here, you won't be getting much for a few years.

But congratulations, you two had better enjoy your last days as free people, for once the kid arrives. But you've got a lot to prepare for in a short time. And hell, you might as well enjoy the sex now, after all, the deed is done, and it can't get any worse. Withdrawl method:eyes:Sheesh!

[giant_robot]

32. Oh feel free to laugh...

I'm doing a lot of laughing at myself right now, and I pretty much invited it by posting. Like I said in the OP, I just needed to vent. This is just between myself and my gf right now, so an anonymous message board is really the only way I can get this off my chest. Thanks for your response! :)

[Spacemom]

23. Congratulations!!

Your life will change in ways you can't begin to imagine. You are in for the ride of your life, enjoy it!

Also, withdrawal definately does not work. See proof below.

[giant_robot]

35. Thanks. I just don't know what to feel right now!

Beautiful kids, Spacemom! Believe me, we'll heed your warning from now on!

[Rabrrrrrr]

25. Whoooooops!!

Heh heh.

Well, if it's a good thing, congratulations.

If not, then my sympathies.

[LynneSin]

28. Well, we know what causes that

did you

Congrats hun!!!

[SarahB]

33. Best wishes!

Been there. (More than once.)

I'm now more vigilant than vigilant to not let it happen (at least not now).

[amazona]

37. I was an unwanted child

I'm over it now but my heart says don't ever do this to someone else. Don't bring someone into your home, dependent for their food and survival, that you will resent. Because the child will know. Ok, a word to the wise is sufficient and if my words do not apply then congratulations.

[giant_robot]

41. Rest assured, amazona,

that this is a surprise, not a curse. If we decide to have this child, it will be an addition to loving relationship and it will be welcome.

[micrometer_50]

38. It's all good

Any thoughts about boy or girl?






:hi:

[giant_robot]

40. Dunno. It's just a positive home pregnancy test right now.

It makes a lot of sense, though. Raging hormones can explain a lot of her behavior over the last few weeks.

She's going to the doctor for a real pregnancy test, but I've been a laboratory scientist for quite a few years now, and I know that those home pregnancy tests are dead accurate.

[Akoto]

42. Congrats! I predict octuplets.

:evilgrin:

[giant_robot]

43. !!!!

Apu: Hello, I'd like to take advantage of your baby prison.
Marge: Uuh, we're calling it daycare.
Apu: Yes, whatever just take them.
Homer: Oh, aren't they sweet. Any medical things I should know about?
Apu: :running: Yes, probably.

[Bossy Monkey]

49. Friend had the same situation except for two things:

1: He hadn't finished the dissertation; and
2: It was triplets.
You never saw a more dazed and confused person in your life for the first month or so after he got the news. Fast forward to now (three years later): he got a great job, they're turning into wonderful little boys, and Mom, while frazzled, is getting away finally to finish her grad degree. I think you'll come out fine. Best of luck!