So...um...my parents are meeting my BF tonight.

[eyesroll]

I haven't done the meet-the-parents thing since I was 18. This is the first post-divorce incident of such, and I'm a bit....petrified.

Wish me luck.

:scared:

[BlondieK143]

1. Good luck!

I'm sure things will go fine!

[Wickerman]

2. The post divorce meetings are harder than the teen thing

I think. Now you actually have the world experience to measure with your parents' eye. YMMV.

Good luck, I am sure it will be a pleasant evening.

[eyesroll]

4. Thanks; it should be fine.

Yeah, the teen things carry a lot less weight.

My ex and my parents never really bonded (they didn't hate each other, but they didn't have a lot in common), so my biggest concern is unrealistic expectations. Specifically, as the BF and my dad are both yappy (as am I), I'm worried that they'll over-bond and alienate my mom in the process.

But, I guess, that's small potatoes compared to what it could be -- I'm not worried that my parents will like or dislike J, and it's not like they're going to ground me or anything.

[Beware the Beast Man]

3. Best of luck!

:pals:

[terrya]

5. Good luck! My best wishes for a nice evening.

:hug:

[WCGreen]

6. Really, good luck.....

[LynzM]

7. Good luck, dude!

I hope everyone gets along well! :)

[NewJeffCT]

8. I went through the same thing about 4 years ago...

Good luck!

My ex filed for divorce in late '99, divorce was finalized in 2000 and I brought home a woman that would eventually be my 2nd wife probably around 4 years ago now. To top it off, this new woman was not white, not an American citizen and English was not her native language.

I was strangely not very nervous, though. I think she was more nervous than me, though she did pretty well.

But, my parents love my wife now and never really liked my ex-wife. So, it all worked out in the end.

[eyesroll]

9. Ah...there are a few things my parents dislike on paper about the BF

His divorce still isn't final (but neither was mine when we started dating), he has a child, he doesn't have a college degree (he's going back to school this fall), and he's currently unemployed.

But, he doesn't smoke and is only a light drinker, so that's a big plus in my parents' eyes.

[NewJeffCT]

10. just tell him to be himself

and hopefully you won't have to worry.

I'm lucky that my wife now did not have any kids and had not been married.

[eyesroll]

12. Oh, I'm not worried about him.

He's charming. People like him. (I guarantee -- if/when my parents meet his daughter, which they won't be doing tonight, they will shed whatever objections they had to me dating someone with a child, because she, at 2.75, can win just about anyone over.)

I'm not worried about my parents either.

Or me, for that matter.

I'm just generically nervous, I guess.

[underpants]

11. As they end any statement say the following

"Yeah but compared to Al"


:bounce::bounce::bounce:

[eyesroll]

13. Heh...

I suppose that's a concern of mine -- of course they'll be making comparisons in their head. For some reason, I'm specifically concerned that any minor PDA (even hand holding, let alone a quick kiss) will be scrutinized and picked apart (not to my face, but still), as Hedges and I started dating when we were teenagers, and as a teenager, I did not do any PDA whatsoever in front of my parents, and the habit just stuck.

[Niccolo_Macchiavelli]

14. hey easy way

argue in front of them who was against using condoms which is why you are preggers now.

then unveil the joke...