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Edited on Thu Jul-14-05 11:37 AM by Coventina
Here's the situation:
My sister, her husband & I are very liberal. In fact my BIL is also a member here (:hi:)
My father is very conservative. Been Republican all his life, very staunch, voted for Bush twice, etc. Basically, he likes everything about Bush except the Iraq war.
My mother is deceased.
My grandmother (father's mother) is a life-long conservative Democrat.
My father recently began dating a woman we have all yet to meet.
My sister and I were taking Grandma shopping the other day & she had photos of this new woman so she showed us. I joked, "Well, as long as she's not a right-wing wacko I'm prepared to love her." It was totally meant as a joke, because everything I've heard about her indicates that she's probably more liberal than my dad is. In fact, I think I was even laughing as I said it.
Yesterday, I received an angry phone call from my dad! Apparently Grandma had repeated my comment to him and he took great offense. He then proceeded to lecture me about how he is sick of us talking politics all the time, and he's especially offended by the bumper stickers on my sister & BIL's vehicles.
I was just kind of stunned at the time, and just tried to pacify him for the most part. But after it was all over I started to get madder and madder. At one point my dad said, "If you want to divide this family over politics, then fine! Consider it divided!"
I told my sister the whole story, and she's pretty pist. Both she & BIL think my dad's a jerk for yelling at me about their bumper stickers (& I'm inclined to agree). She wants to call my dad & confront him on this.
My only reservations about her doing that are:
1) I'm also angry at my Grandma for "tattling" on me to my dad to "get me in trouble". If my sister calls my dad, does that put me in the position of what I'm angry at my grandmother for?
2) I'm also concerned that the situation might escalate and we may end up a family divided. I've already lost my mother. "Losing" my father as well is a little bit of a heavy trip. But if it came down to choosing between my sister, who I love most in the world next to my husband, my dad doesn't stand a chance.
I'm just not sure what to do, if anything. Any thoughts?
I also promised to do a small favor for my Grandmother, but now that I feel stabbed in the back, I'm sort of dis-inclined to do it for her. I'm afraid that's being petty, though. What do you think?
Oh, and my sister suggested I call Grandma and confront her about the "tattling", but then I'm afraid if I do that, she'll just tell my dad AGAIN and I'll be in "more trouble."
Ok, I'm done.
on edit: clarity
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