BlondieK143
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Mon Jul-18-05 03:46 PM
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What do you do when you're replaced? |
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When the people that you care about most in the world no longer have a need for you? How do you move on from a loss that hurts so badly it feels like your heart is ripping into pieces? How do you move on?
You can't. Because somehow they're always going to be a part of you.
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Mon Jul-18-05 03:47 PM
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1. Years Ago, I turned to the Beatles........ |
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For No One...
Your day breaks, your mind aches You find that all the words of kindness linger on When she no longer needs you
She wakes up, she makes up She takes her time and doesn’t feel she has to hurry She no longer needs you
And in her eyes you see nothing No sign of love behind the tears Cried for no one A love that should have lasted years!
You want her, you need her And yet you don’t believe her when she said her love is dead You think she needs you
And in her eyes you see nothing No sign of love behind the tears Cried for no one A love that should have lasted years!
You stay home, she goes out She says that long ago she knew someone but now he’s gone She doesn’t need him
Your day breaks, your mind aches There will be time when all the things she said will fil your head You won’t forget her
And in her eyes you see nothing No sign of love behind the tears Cried for no one A love that should have lasted years!
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Mon Jul-18-05 03:55 PM
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10. I'd recommend some of these: |
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"Total Eclipse of the Heart" by Bonnie Tyler, "Black" by Pearl Jam
Black
Sheets of empty canvas, untouched sheets of clay Were laid spread out before me as her body once did All five horizons revolved around her soul As the earth to the sun Now the air I tasted and breathed has taken a turn Ooh, and all I taught her was everything Ooh, I know she gave me all that she wore And now my bitter hands chafe beneath the clouds Of what was everything? Oh, the pictures have all been washed in black, tattooed everything.
I take a walk outside I’m surrounded by some kids at play I can feel their laughter, so why do I sear Oh, and twisted thoughts that spin round my head I’m spinning, oh, I’m spinning How quick the sun can, drop away And now my bitter hands cradle broken glass Of what was everything (note the lack of question mark) All the pictures have all been washed in black, tattooed everything.
All the love gone bad turned my world to black Tattooed all I see, all that I am, all I’ll ever be.
I know someday you’ll have a beautiful life, I know you’ll be a star In somebody else’s sky, but why Why, why can’t it be, why can’t it be mine
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Mon Jul-18-05 03:48 PM
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blood relatives, then time will heal that shitty feeling.
:hug:
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Mon Jul-18-05 03:50 PM
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Even if it doesn't go away completely. :hug:
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Mon Jul-18-05 03:49 PM
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4. You get through it a day at a time |
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and you have faith that this loss is making room for something better to come to you.
Hang in there.
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Mon Jul-18-05 03:50 PM
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Edited on Mon Jul-18-05 03:50 PM by lectrobyte
Heavy drinking in the short term. Nothing is forever.
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Mon Jul-18-05 03:51 PM
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7. Take some time to heal yourself. |
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Mon Jul-18-05 03:52 PM
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8. Acceptance. It doesn't happen til you're ready. |
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Mon Jul-18-05 03:52 PM
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Power through, and one day you will wake up and realize that most of the hurt is gone.
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Mon Jul-18-05 03:58 PM
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You can't go under it Oh no You have to go through it.
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Mon Jul-18-05 04:00 PM
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Be sad and cry and eventually you get through it and understand yourself better. I'm sorry you're hurting, Blondie. :hug:
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Mon Jul-18-05 04:03 PM
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13. I rely on bitterness and name calling. For instance, my entire family |
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are judgmental wing nuts whom I would not piss on if they were on fire. There, I feel better.
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Mon Jul-18-05 04:08 PM
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I guess after everything I've been through this past month, this is just the icing on the cake. *sigh* Sorry for polluting the Lounge once again with whiny antics. I just needed to feel loved for a moment.
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Mon Jul-18-05 04:45 PM
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I wish stupid guys who can't appreciate a good woman would just STAY AWAY from them, instead of giving ALL men a bad rap based on these bums.
In the meantime, be good to yourself, do what makes you feel good, and be with people who truly appreciate you.
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Mon Jul-18-05 04:16 PM
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First, you get lots of hugs from your friends:
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
Then, said friends take you out for (cyber-)beers:
:beer: :beer: :beer: :beer:
Then you cry a bunch:
:cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
Lather, rinse, repeat. It gets better with time, but it hurts a hell of a lot in the meantime. Hang in there, call me if you want to talk, ok? :hug:
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Mon Jul-18-05 04:42 PM
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17. You can never be replaced |
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You are wondrous and irreplaceable though you may be for a short time temporarily supplanted.
Look. . . if you have a handful of people you can really rely on over the course of your life, then you are truly blessed.
It's impossible to tell when you first connect, whether someone is a "keeper" or not. Sometimes humans are very simply aligned for brief periods of time. But luckily, other times, it's for the long haul.
You are a total sweetie. Don't forget that.
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Mon Jul-18-05 04:51 PM
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19. you don't move on ... |
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you just be ... you just hurt ... and perhaps, if you pay attention, you grow ... and then you are elsewhere ...
if you figure out how to deal with loss, please let me know ...
sorry you're hurting, my friend ... just do whatever you're able to ...
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Mon Jul-18-05 04:53 PM
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20. Make something better... |
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Then the hurt will only be a memory that you can use to the advantage of others by exhibiting compassion. :hug:
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Mon Jul-18-05 04:55 PM
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Does it involve the marine guy? :hug:
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Mon Jul-18-05 05:04 PM
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22. well, for starters, you can eat ice cream |
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