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Thu Jul-21-05 11:35 AM
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Do guys like "nice" girls? |
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Or do they like the trashy, skanky, can't take home to your mother type?
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Thu Jul-21-05 11:36 AM
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I imagine it depends on what the guy is looking for...
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Thu Jul-21-05 11:36 AM
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2. I like girls who appear to be "nice girls" on the surface... |
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... but who can be a "can't take home to mother type" under the right circumstances.
I consider myself lucky -- I married one like that!
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Thu Jul-21-05 11:37 AM
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4. Good for you! I guess y'all have some fun times. |
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Thu Jul-21-05 11:42 AM
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8. I like girls who appear to be "trashy, skanky" on the surface... |
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Edited on Thu Jul-21-05 11:43 AM by Locrian
... but who are actually take home to mother type.
;)
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Thu Jul-21-05 11:43 AM
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10. Do they exist? Ha ha! |
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Thu Jul-21-05 11:44 AM
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I knew quite a few "stippers with a heart of gold" that fit the picture.
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Thu Jul-21-05 12:58 PM
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25. Well there you go. I didn't even think of that. |
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Thu Jul-21-05 02:06 PM
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36. only in john hughes movies |
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Thu Jul-21-05 04:36 PM
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64. I heard there are some |
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Thu Jul-21-05 08:38 PM
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69. I married just such a woman myself. Wonderful isn't it? |
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Thu Jul-21-05 11:37 AM
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3. I don't like girls I can walk all over |
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I want a woman who is mentally strong, doesn't pit up with shit, and has standards. I consider that nice as well but many men will consider that a "bitch"
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Thu Jul-21-05 11:38 AM
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5. That sounds like me! I am pretty much that type! |
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Not bitchy though, there is a difference.
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Thu Jul-21-05 11:48 AM
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Edited on Thu Jul-21-05 11:50 AM by Champ
Being a guy and growing up around guys, they prefer the type that they can easily fool, walk all over and submit to their unfair requests, put up with their asshole behavior, etc and when they hook up with a woman who is a very intelligent, smart, and attractive that won't put up with something she doesn't like, won't up with asshole behavior for long, and don't fool themselves into that "he will change" "he loves me" they automatically label her a "bitch" and all men should stay away from her. :)
on edit: not every guy prefers that type
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Thu Jul-21-05 12:58 PM
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24. Well I grew up around 2 brothers and |
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I had to learn early that I had to be tough. I personally think it has helped me a lot. I don't understand why some people allow others to walk all over them. I guess it is something I'll never understand.
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Actually that sounds like self-esteem to me! :)
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Thu Jul-21-05 11:40 AM
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6. Somewhere in between... |
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but my most important criteria are: intelligent, independent, has a mind of her own and backbone...I find clingy, helpless women to be very off-putting.
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Thu Jul-21-05 11:41 AM
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7. Sure, I would too if I were a guy. Clinginess is |
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Thu Jul-21-05 11:42 AM
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9. they all have their uses |
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Thu Jul-21-05 11:43 AM
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You went there, you better run and hide! ;-)
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Thu Jul-21-05 11:59 AM
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16. it's much too late for hiding, I'm afraid |
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Why does the Lounge completely lose its sense of humor once the sun comes up?
Seriously, though, WRT to "nice girls" versus not-so-nice girls . . . variety is the spice of life. Besides, "nice" is in the, um, sensory receptors of the beholder.
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Thu Jul-21-05 12:59 PM
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26. I try to keep my humor in tact! Always. |
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Thu Jul-21-05 11:44 AM
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Thu Jul-21-05 11:45 AM
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14. Try to build a tavern and not a temple with the lumber of your life |
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and remember, it's more fun to get ahead in life by tearing other people down...
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27. I don't have fun tearing people down. Did it sound like that? |
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Thu Jul-21-05 01:58 PM
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33. You ought to--it's fun! |
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Remember, you DO have to pet to be popular!
Just horsing around with cliches...
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Thu Jul-21-05 02:09 PM
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37. Ahh! I got in late last night! I am a little slow today. Forgive me or |
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tear me to peices! :silly:
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Thu Jul-21-05 03:31 PM
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Feel better. Tomato juice helps if you're hungover.
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Thu Jul-21-05 12:01 PM
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17. I can't take any home to mom. |
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She'll start blabbing about how I was toilet trained at six months. Yeah, rubbing my nose in it was a great way to learn to stop...
When it comes to selecting gals, many guys are like those weather vanes...
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Thu Jul-21-05 12:03 PM
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18. I like girls who say yes..... |
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Seriously, I would perfer a good companion, whether she is sleezy, wicked and dirty or nice and composed......
Whatever. You know when you click and you know when you don't....
Circumstance really dictates a whole lot of what attracts you at any particular time....
If you only like one type of man or woman, boy are you winnowing down the field...
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Thu Jul-21-05 12:04 PM
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19. I like women I can be proud of, if that makes sense. |
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28. Well there goes a lot of women! |
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Thu Jul-21-05 01:03 PM
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30. I've never lied about being selective. |
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Are you saying I should lower my standards? :P
Also...there is a large variety of things I can be proud of. :evilgrin:
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Thu Jul-21-05 08:39 PM
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70. Don't forget us old ladies! |
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Thu Jul-21-05 10:02 PM
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Edited on Thu Jul-21-05 10:10 PM by GOPisEvil
:hi:
Let me edit this by saying I hope you are doing well. I've missed seeing you around lately.
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Thu Jul-21-05 11:31 PM
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awww...I feel so :loveya:ed
I'm ok, and I hope you are, too.
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21. Yes, but they can't be overly... nice. |
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Thu Jul-21-05 12:13 PM
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22. Any woman who is an anarchist and libertine at heart |
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29. When I read it quickly ,I thought |
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your post said any woman who is an antichrist. :crazy:
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Thu Jul-21-05 02:24 PM
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38. Hmmmm I did date a few which I checked for the 666 marking afterwards |
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But I can't say they were good dates as a whole...
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40. Yeah, just be aware of the mark of the beast! |
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Thu Jul-21-05 03:13 PM
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44. are you talking about me again? |
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my ears were burning... :P
btw, have you picked up 'Chomsky on Anarchism' yet? Wicked good. :thumbsup:
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Thu Jul-21-05 03:15 PM
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47. Loves me some Chomsky |
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Loved "Manufacturing Consent" - was kinda my bible in Grad school...
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Thu Jul-21-05 12:25 PM
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23. Get a clue!! GUYS LIKE GIRLS!!, nice girls, bad girls, the ... |
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operative word here is GIRLS. If she's breathing and talking to us then we like her.
Men are not complex creatures you know.
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Thu Jul-21-05 01:03 PM
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31. Finally, it has been confirmed! |
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34. I like ALL girls / women / females....:) |
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35. I prefer honest women |
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The last one I was involved with neglected to tell me that she was married.
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55. It may have been helpful to know that! |
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57. Luckily for me I did not have to find out the hard way |
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jealous husband, etc.
I began to have suspicions when she only wanted to see me at certain times and places, etc. So, I came right out and asked her, "Are you married or something?" She hemmed and hawed, then finally admitted it. At that point I said, "good by".
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59. Some people really have some nerve, I tell ya! |
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Thu Jul-21-05 04:34 PM
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63. As we say down south: "Ain't that the truth!" |
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65. You bet! I hear that! |
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Thu Jul-21-05 02:32 PM
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I like women. And I love the one woman in my life who is not only nice (too bland a word, she is much more, actually), but super-intelligent, courageous, funny, generous, and beautiful.
Yes, I have it made. :bounce:
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most of us are women, after all.
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46. Well this was a play on the "bad boy, nice boy" threads. |
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I, too, am a woman!! woo hoo!
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But using the term "girl" sounds condescending and not a little bit sexist. :-) Just trying to offset some of the morans.
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Thu Jul-21-05 02:33 PM
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41. They have to be smart. Even the hottest girl would become a ball n chain |
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if she couldn't hold a decent conversation, solve simple problems, etc. Smart and hot, good combination. :hi:
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those dichotomies, like "nice" vs. "skanky" are part of the problem. Most of us are a little of both!
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like a combo! We all have a little bad in us!
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If she's got what they think to be a cute face, or a great body, or both, much else doesn't matter. They'll deal with the attitude, or lack of personality, or any faults, as byproducts.
If they luck out and get a girl who's smart, got a great personality....they marry her or date her long term.
And beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I don't think anybody dates someone they find unattractive.
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Thu Jul-21-05 04:20 PM
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58. I'm not saying you're wrong |
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but it is true that if the genders in your post were reversed, there'd be a huge flamewar.
That said, I pretty much agree with you.
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Thu Jul-21-05 06:27 PM
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66. That's because reversing genders in my post would make the post invalid |
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LOL!
Like I said in another thread, one day I will write the book on "Women don't care about looks as much as men".
They just don't. Men are more visual than women, I'm pretty sure that's a proven fact.
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76. You took me too literally |
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I meant that if a male DUer made as sweeping a judgement of women as you did about men, they'd be yelled at a lot, for right or for wrong.
But yes, without doubt, men are more visual creatures.
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Thu Jul-21-05 03:36 PM
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51. Give me an intelligent, creative woman who is a decent person |
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any day of the week! I prefer women my height, as I am short, but I don't have a litmus. No need to be gorgeous or anything, in the typical misogynistic way. "Average" looking women are actually still pretty damn good looking, I don't understand the harshness of the beauty standards that women have to deal with. I find most women to be pretty attractive, then even more so once I get to know them a little. I'd be willing to give pretty much any woman a shot, providing they are a decent person with something going for them.
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Thu Jul-21-05 03:52 PM
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52. The two things that would most put me off about a woman are |
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neediness to an extreme. Everybody is needy in someway but I couldn't put up with someone who wouldn't know what to do with themselves if they didn't have someone to depend on.
She's a Republican. Call it closed minded but I couldn't imagine spending any considerable amount of time with a hardcore right winger.
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53. I'm going with the second one. nt |
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in one package is best...
Nice for mom and church and neighbors
Nasty for the bedroom
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Thu Jul-21-05 04:26 PM
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61. Why do we insist on trying to label everyone? |
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Is anyone really THAT one-dimensional? Really?
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Thu Jul-21-05 04:27 PM
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62. I'm never disappointed when a man who wants a skank |
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isn't into me.
Most of the women I've known who throw themselves at men do it with the expectation that they can use sex to bait them into something serious. Of course the last thing most men who go for them want is something serious.
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You're worth more than that, you know? A good woman shouldn't sacrifice anything in that regard. If you're a good catch, have some things going for you, well, then you'll have your chance at love with someone who will be good for you in the end anyway.
One thing I would like to add, I know women who don't necessarily use sex in the manner in which you described. I see a good amount of women who use sex as a way of seeking approval, as a form of intimacy from someone who isn't all that intimate. As a way to get male attention that they feel they need. Most of my closest male friends -and one of my brothers- have all been promiscuous, to a sickening degree in my opinion. I know guys who have slept with well over a hundred women each. And, in a lot of instances I watched women simply seek approval or intimacy from them. Not necessarily to trap, maybe in some cases, but I just think there are a lot of factors going on there. As is they felt the only way to get their attention was through sex so they used that as a way to get what they felt they needed. Tough to explain, I'm not sure if I'm making much sense about this.
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71. I don't think you want to be that far ahead |
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I know guys who have completely lost the ability to even know what love is. The only see women as sex toys. I'm not talking about women you would be interested in having anything with either. I mean just sleeping with anything. Pick up some drunk woman at a bar, not know her name, take her out parked in an alley somewhere. It's not good at all.
Just get a good woman that you can love and are compatible with. If you are lucky enough to find a few good relationships in your life, than you're doing pretty well for yourself.
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73. I agree with you entirely and am a romantic at heart. |
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I was just doing my horny teenage jerk impression!!
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75. we all do that impression from time to time |
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Thu Jul-21-05 08:46 PM
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72. Yes on the nice girls. |
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"Nice" equals one who is smart, empathetic, fair minded, and acts with integrity. And yes, one you can take home to mother and father.
I married just such a woman.
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Sixteen years and still rolling!
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Thu Jul-21-05 10:03 PM
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78. I think both varieties are nice |
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79. I don't care. There are so many who have appealing qualities. |
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80. Both. Or either. I judge people individually. |
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81. No nice girls for me. |
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Skanky women all the way!
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83. There's a song in The Music Man |
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"The older and wiser girl for me...."
Blessings on Meredith Willson.
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84. Genuine nice... I like n/t |
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