Any other Step-Parents of teens here? ARRGGGHH!

[alphafemale]

Just ARRRRGHHH!!!!

Tried to be kind showing her how to drive a stick-shift.

All the horror's that involves.

Come back.

Spat with her Dad.

Suddenly I'm a f-c-in' bitch who fu-ks my own teen son.

Enough.

Back to her Momma for tonight.

Kids about used up all the relatives that will tolerate her.

Her Mom doesn't want her either.
But that's where she went.

But she was also getting violent.

And the cops were called but refused to take a juvenile in on simple assault.

Send us your vibes, wishes or prayers.

Thanks.

[liss681]

1. Nope

but I was one of those pain in the ass teenagers who had a step-parent... I sympathize with you!!!!

[alphafemale]

4. Thanks. You grew up. But....It's hard to see a future good result ...

...when the fur is flying.

[liss681]

5. My mom sent me to

juvenile detention. It tends to change your attitude on things.

[alphafemale]

8. Her Mom has final say on that. Keeps giving the little brat 3,452 chances

Bad call, against MANY people's advice to her.

She off to yet another person to alienate tomorrow.
(The sister of a brother-in-law)

Her grandparents are done, her older siblings are done, her aunts are done, her Mom's done, her younger brother is done, MY kids are done

I say rather than the 3,000 plus chance for "the poor thing" Yeah. I bought that game a while.

It's better for her to have some shock/boot camp now.

Than as an adult in 6 months.

The kid physically assaults.
Then threatens you to not defend yourself.

She's even laid marks on herself and called DFACS.

About 5 cases dropped so far on various people.

[RubyDuby in GA]

26. She sounds mentally unbalanced

Ever been checked out? If for no other reason than to protect your own children, I'd look into it.

Best wishes. Take care of yourself. :hug:

[JVS]

2. Wha?

[alphafemale]

3. That's what I said.

Beginning to think you can't be kind to some kids.

They'll suck it in and use you up.

[BikeWriter]

6. I used to be. Mine was in to stealing cars for joy rides...

Dozens of them! He turned out to be a great person! My own youngest son... Well, you don't want to know.

[alphafemale]

9. This one has some animal cruelty in her past

Hard to Rationalize that.

[BikeWriter]

13. She probably needs a shrink.

[alphafemale]

14. She's gone through about 4 of 5 of them now.

Her Mom keeps switching Doc's everytime the kid whimpers about not liking whoever she's seeing.

[Frances]

24. This sounds very bad indeed

The only other thing I can suggest is that perhaps you can consult someone about how to do a family intervention the way I've heard some people have done with alcoholics.

I gather that the way this works is that all the people she has hurt get together and talk with her at one time (in this person's case, I think you would definitely need a professional there).

[Frances]

7. My sympathy

Teens are tough! And they do play off parents against each other. I suggest family counseling.

[alphafemale]

10. Oh hell . Been doing THAT.

The Momma switches counselers every time the Kid moans she's uncomfortable.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

11. Keeping you in my thoughts...

I'm glad it wasn't that bad with my stepsons! It'll be best for your stepdaughter if all the adults are on the same wavelength, and don't allow her to manipulate them.

Try to find time when things have cooled down to talk with her about what you can all do to put a stop to this. Counseling will help, if you can get her to go.

:hug::hug::hug: for you and your family...

[alphafemale]

15. Thanks. Not sure the kid has a calm mode when you are trying to...

talk to her about her behavior.

She flashes to screaming, cursing, throwing things, kicking, swinging immediately.

And I do mean cursing.
Linda Blair has nothing on this one.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

21. Then I'd say definitely get her into counseling

for her own sake as much as everyone else's. That kind of anger can quickly lead to self-inflicted injuries.

Get together with her dad and mom and step-dad if she has one and work together to beat this thing. She may feel at first like you're ganging up on her; but she'll eventually realize how much you all love her.

Courage! :hug:

[liberaltrucker]

12. You have my sympathy

And prayers. My stepdaughter has had 2 beautiful daughters we had to adopt, 'cause she likes screwing, but not responsibility. Jeez, I should be a conservative....NOT!!

[alphafemale]

16. I really hope this one clues in before she gets in serious trouble.

She'll be a legal adult soon, and the cops and courts will suddenly stop playing with her.

[GalleryGod]

17. I Have Four (yes,4) StepChildren; Not Smooth Sailin'-but

I wouldn't give back the experience for another type of life.
Step Parenting is a thankless task..very difficult...but it sure beat the shit out of being a bachelor in Miami Beach.:puffpiece:

[alphafemale]

20. Wow. Talk about outnumbered!

:D

[Mizmoon]

18. Having been that kid once I'd like to say

that no one understood me. I was not bad. I was not crazy. I was angry because my parents were divorced, that I had to tolerate some strange woman who married my father and though that meant she had some kind of authority over me, and my life was a big jumbled mess no thanks to the selfish adults around me who thought they were god's gift to parenting.

These same adults expected me to shut up, sit up straight, and be quiet about it all. Oh, and to do what I was told and obey them like they were Lords and I was a serf. That is not the way I decided to handle it. I decided to make them as miserable as they made me. In the end we were all miserable.

Just trying to remind you there's two sides to every story.

edited to insert missing word

[alphafemale]

19. This kid is way past normal rebellion and teen angst.

Her issues are deeper than that.

[ArkDem]

22. Why did she and her dad spit?

[alphafemale]

23. Split?

Well.

It had nothing to do with me.

They'd split years before we even met.
And him and I have been together MUCH longer than they were.

Reason?
Just incompatible, I'd guess.

She's a racist, homophobe, rw zealot and he isn't.

[ArkDem]

25. >Spat with her Dad.

[alphafemale]

27. He tried to set limits on her internet use because she was abusing it.

A reasonible consequence for a kid's misbehavior, but she went ballistic.