This fucking sucks.

[Sannum]

I just got back from my interview. I don't think that it went well. He seemed to want to talk about everything but the job. I am just so fucking sick of all of this. I can't handle any more rejection. I am at the point of a nervous breakdown. I have no money, no prospects, and nowhere to go. I am useless, despondent, incompitent, and soon to be fat because I just ate an entire package of fun-size kit-kat bars. I have another one tomorrow, but I am half tempted to not go, because it won't do any good anyway. If I don't go, I won't be rejected yet again.

[LaurenG]

1. It's going to work out. Did you like the guy who interviewed you?

[Sannum]

7. I liked him, but I have learned to protect myslef so much that

I am so hesitant to even think that I will get anything, because so many times, the sure things have failed. I have a gut feeling that I won't be getting this, and I hate it because the salary is perfect, the position is perfect, and it is so easy to get to. I get on a bus in front of my apartment, and get off at the Sears Tower stop and it is just one building away from that. It would be so perfect.:cry:

[LaurenG]

13. Oh, I'm sorry, I know how it feels when stuff like that happens.

You'll get a job. The perfect job for you is out there. Try to be really nice to yourself and cry and talk as much as you need to.:hug:

[Shell Beau]

Go. You never know when it will happen for you.

Rejection does suck, but all will work out the way it should. I wish you luck. Don't give up, though! :hug:

[mourningdove92]

2. Hey, chill. It will work out eventually.

I really wish I had something to say that would convince you. Please don't give up. You are not useless!

Will a hug help?
:pals:

[ewagner]

3. SLAP!

Snap out of it!

You've gotta go through a lot of rejection before the right opportunity pops up. Don't get down.

Don't get down on yourself!

Buck up and get on with it!

You're going to be okay!

[SheepyMcSheepster]

4. if you don't go

you won't get a job again either.

i know it sounds lame, but stay positive. your expectations have a lot to do with what happens to you.

try not to dwell on your problems.

take care and keep trying, that is all you can do.

[seemunkee]

5. You are NOT useless.

Try to adapt the salesman attitude. Each rejection gets you closet to the job that will hire you. You just never know which one it will be.

[Felix Mala]

6. This sounds a little too pat, excuse me, but try volunteering for

a few hours somewhere throughout the week. Sure it doesn't bring money in, but you do get a feeling that you're making a contribution. Job search in the morning and then spend a couple of hours with people. Be sure to let everyone you know and everyone you meet that you're looking for a job. You might even find one that way. It's better than getting in the bad habit of watching TV, neglecting to shower and living in pajamas.

[usedtobesick]

8. you still don't know this one rejected you...

and you can't give up, living under a bridge in a box really sucks, this just mostly sucks! But you can't go into the interview feeling beat before you start. I guess all the "inspiration" in the world dosen't help some days but you just got to fight thru it.

[wtmusic]

9. Drag

Shit. It's hard, but keep at it.

(LOL about the Kit-kats...something I would do)

[HEyHEY]

10. Do you walk in to interviews with this manner reflected?

[Mutley]

11. Don't give up!

My SO was looking for a job from January through May of this year. Just when he started feeling like you are now an opportunity came out from nowhere, and now he has a great job. Just keep at it and something will come up. :hug:

[The_Casual_Observer]

12. Keep knocking on them doors, one will open for you.

You are tougher than that!

Best Regards!

T_C_O

[LiberalEsto]

14. You're right

it does suck.

I hate the way companies and corporations are in the drivers' seat, and we all have to bow and cringe and beg for a chance to do honest work.

You shouldn't have to go through this. Nobody should. I hate this economy and I hate this Misadministration and I hate the way our jobs are vanishing to other countries where labor is cheaper.

A nation should exist, and be run for the benefit of its people. Ours, unfortunately is run for the benefit of corporations and for a small number of obscenely rich people.

What's happening to you is not your fault. You haven't failed. This country has failed to take care of its citizens.

I went through two periods of unemployment and rejection within the past 3 years and I know how hard it is. Try not to turn your anger inward into depression. Keep your anger focused where it belongs -- on the bastards running our country into the ground!

Good luck!

[youspeakmylanguage]

15. This might not be what you want to hear...

...but if you approach the job search with an attitude like this, then it comes across in the interview. I learned this myself when I kept getting rejected for jobs and I started beating myself down mentally. I forced myself to approach each interview with a good attitude and eventually it worked.

Remember "I will sell this house today!" from American Beauty? It sounds ridiculous, but try waking up tomorrow with a fresh attitude and tell yourself "I will ace this interview today!". Keep a smile on your face the whole morning, not just in the interview room.

You can insult or deride me all you want if you don't want to take advice like this, but unless you find a company looking for despondent workers, you may be leaving yourself out in the cold for awhile. It's called tough love, or at least tough advice (I don't know you, so I can't say I love you). Take it or leave it.

[Moochy]

16. sounds ridiculous, but the universe is pretty ridiculous

Manifest Success! Thinking a mantra like this works, even if to keep your lower lip from quivering in doubt, but rather engaged in subvocalizing your own success!

The trick is to stay focused and not look desperate, because you arent. :)

besides the fun sized kitkats were fun!

[tjdee]

21. Yes, but it's hard to do that.

It's one thing to *say* "I'm going to get this job today!", but when you lose out on one job after another, you'd feel pretty stupid saying that I bet.

I agree with your post, especially the fact that employers pick up on despondence/self esteem issues/etc. I even agree that positive thinking is important. Fake it till you make it, all that.

But still. That's tough.

[youspeakmylanguage]

25. If he wants to find a job, it doesn't matter how tough it is...

...it's something he'll have to do.

I'm not talking out of my ass, to put it bluntly. I've been there myself and I'm speaking from experience.

[bigwillq]

17. Please go tomm.

And please stop saying you are uselss. You are not.
I know from experience that trying to land a job is a frustrating process. Hand in there. These are tough times in the job market despite the "growth" they keep telling us about.
I still don't know of anyone in my neck of the woods that actually got a "new" job recently.The ones that did had to take a pay cut and it was not in their desired field.
Ok, that part might make you feel worse but it wasn't intended too.
Point is--Jobs are hard to come by. You are certainly not alone in feeling this way.
Stay strong and best of luck.:hug:

[gmoney]

18. Consider offering to work a few days for free

Tell the guy that you'll work a few days, even a week, for free. If he doesn't think you're right for the job after the week, they owe you nothing. If they think you're right, they hire you.

My father did this years ago (he only did one day) and it worked for him. Plus it lets you see if the company/job are really as they appear to be.

Just a thought... keep your chin up and keep plugging. You'll get your turn at bat soon!

:hug:

[MissB]

19. Maybe he just wanted to see if you'd mesh with the rest of the co-workers

and maybe that's why he talked about everything but the job.

Cheer up. Attack the next interview head on, with a positive attitude. Do the stupid Stuart Smiley thing, if needed.

[ChavezSpeakstheTruth]

20. Be happy. Why live a regretful life?

[wovenpaint]

22. but....but.....but

you don't know yet-you're just going by your own thinking at the moment, right? As the others have said-think positively!!!! This may sound weird but visualize yourself going to work where you want to be (if this is the place-start NOW, tonight. Look at it thru your "third eye" and hang in there.

GO to the next interview tomorrow because "ya neva know" what's around that next corner-wouldn't it be funny if you ended up with TWO job offers? Good luck!

[Enraged_Ape]

23. One day, you will look back on this and laugh

Well, maybe not laugh, but it will still look a lot better in perspective.

Keep pushing. Keep trying. Tell yourself as soon as you wake up that this will be a great day, then believe it. I remember a famous writer (I think it was John Irving) who made it his goal to accumulate as many rejections as he could get in as short a time as possible. He even set about papering one wall of his house with the rejection notices. He knew that the law of averages would eventually pay off for him, and that every rejection meant he was one step closer to success. And he was right.

[Sannum]

24. Thanks everyone for your encouragement, wisdom and kind words.

I hope that I get this job. It would be a nice and much needed surprise, certanly.:hi: