DU Women: Ever have this problem? (re: PMS)

[bicentennial_baby]

Ok, so I'm having some issues with situations/people in my life right now that are exasperating and frustrating me quite a bit. Earlier today, I threw a complete hissy fit in my hotel room, accompanied by crying and throwing things at the wall. I'm a very emotional person anyway, so this isn't exactly out of character for me, hehe. :P

But, I can't tell if it's
A) My actual aforementioned feelings,
B) My oncoming PMS, albeit a tad early,
or C) a combination of A and B.

I'm inclined to think it's option C, but i just don't know, sigh. Regardless, it's disconcerting. I'm not looking for advice or anything like that, just wondering if any of y'all feel like this sometimes. x(

and DU men, please, no smart remarks... :)

[Dastard Stepchild]

1. oh, of course...

But aren't you also in another country? The stress of that has a way of subtly creeping up on you.

:hug:

[bicentennial_baby]

3. No, it's not that, really

Paris is fine, and my stress about that was the first week and a half :P I'm acclimated now, and having a good time. This is entirely unrelated, unfortunately. I wish it was the trip, then I could just leave it behind when I go home next week, sigh. :)

[Rising Phoenix]

2. sometimes the emotions sneak up on you

Hi sweet baby, hope you are feeling better

[bicentennial_baby]

5. I wish I was...

I can't shake this yucky feeling, somewhat pissed and somewhat depressive...but, I still loooove you. :)

[Rising Phoenix]

8. mwah

[Coventina]

4. PMS amplifies feelings I already have, especially anger and sorrow

If I'm angry, I get angrier.

If I'm sad, I start the waterworks for sure.

Also, I'm prone to maudlin sentimentality.

[bicentennial_baby]

6. Wow, we should hang out!

:D

I never used to cry very much, but it seems the older I get, the easier it happens...hell, I cried at Notre Dame, and I'm not even religious! :P

[Coventina]

9. The sheer beauty of Gothic cathedrals could make anyone cry

I've never had the opportunity to see one in person, but I wouldn't be surprised if I cried, PMS or no PMS.

When you think about the whole community, working on the structure for generations. Pouring their time, money, love and faith into the structure, not living to see it completed, it is an emotional thought. And they are things of beauty. Great things of beauty.

But then, I'm an Art History major, so I'm a little biased.

[KitchenWitch]

7. Stress can mess with the cycle

So I am inclined to say it is choice C

[MercutioATC]

10. You might consider some simple blood testing.

It might be a hormonal issue that could be easily treated.

My rule of thumb is if it's an issue for you, get it checked out.

[supernova]

11. Could also be adjusting to a new environment

For all Paris is a western city in a western nation, it is different than here. You hear a different language all day, and that can be tiring. I know as much as I loved being in Vienna one summer, and I picked up A LOT of German, listeing to a second language all day is very absorbing.

So you might also be experiencing some adjustments to your new envirnment.

[pitohui]

12. throwing things at the wall?

no don't seriously feel violence is a normal symptom of pms

complete hissy fit w. screaming and throwing is to me something that needs treatment or behavior mod

[bicentennial_baby]

15. uh, no, but thanks anyway

I like to throw stuff! I like to kick stuff too! I'm a wicked baby when I get upset...I've always been this way, every once in a while, and I'm doing just fine in my life, all things considered. Treatment? Ha! No fucking way...been there, done that.

[pitohui]

34. well you did ask if it was normal

it ain't normal

but if you're happy as you are, more power to ya

i stay well away from kickers and screamers, just never seen a good reason to have that in my personal life expression, ha ha

would you feel it normal and OK if a male person was throwing things around, i would feel threatened

[bicentennial_baby]

35. no, i never did ask that

I asked if anyone else has felt this way...anecdotal experience, not "normal" :eyes:

and if you read the thread, you'll find you are in quite a small minority...too bad for you.

btw, i'm like 5 feet tall and way just over 100 pounds...and I was alone at the time...so who I could possibly be threatening is unknown to me. :)

[redqueen]

13. Oh hell yes.

:pals:

Feel better soon.

[Hell Hath No Fury]

14. Hey, BB...

I can't remember if you are anywhere near the dreaded perimenopausal phase of your life (35+). That type of worsening of PMS/emotional stuff can be part of the hormonal change. I have found that my early years of peri made me more vulnerable to being overwhelmed emotionally/physically by stuff that I could have handled no problem just a few years earlier. And my emotional responses were amplified: if angry, I was really angry, if sad, really sad.

Doin' the girlie thing ain't for sissies. :)

It probably is a combination of factors for you -- just recognize what is going on and do everything you need to take care of yourself during this stressful time.

[Wetzelbill]

16. well, no matter what you have my love

I am quite dedicated like that. :loveya:

But, in no way do I have any answer whatsoever to your questions.

I am just here for support. :)

[bicentennial_baby]

17. awwww thank you so much!

:loveya:

[Wetzelbill]

29. shucks....you're welcome

:)

[LynzM]

18. Dude....

:hug:

Lemme just say, I got a punching bag (the 70 lb one!) for Christmas in high school, at my own request. Haven't needed it so much recently, but I've definitely been there.

If, per chance, you're on the pill, that can definitely make that stuff worse.

I hope your week gets better!

[bicentennial_baby]

20. Nah, I can't take the pill

It gave me a bunch of physical problems that I still have! Yay! :eyes: I wish I could take it, but hormonal birth control just isn't in da cards for me, sad to say...

But the punching bag idea, I will definitely take under consideration :D

[LynzM]

25. Yeah, no more hormones for me, either

Long convoluted story involving a pregnancy side effect called PUPPS. Which reoccurred when I tried to go back on the pill after being pregnant. Suffice it to say, no more extra hormones in my body, thanks! But less anger, too, which is good.

You're welcome to come borrow my punching bag when you're around, but unfortunately that doesn't do much good in Paris. Hitting pillows on your bed might be a decent substitute, for now :) :hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

19. My PMS exacerbates my legitmate feelings. Which is why it pisses me

off when hubby blames my outrage on my PMS. I have told him and told him that the underlying issue would still be there and I would still be upset, just not AS upset.

He doesn't get it though. He think PMS invents the problems, I guess.

[bicentennial_baby]

22. Yep, some men...

:eyes: I know exactly what you mean...I think it's just a convenient excuse for them to not deal with us when we're all real with our feelings, sigh. :hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

23. Yeah.. I think you are right

:hug:

[Mutley]

21. The same thing happens to me.

And I blame it on option C. :hi: I wouldn't worry too much about it. Crying is good for you.

[Dora]

24. Definitely PMS, compounded by travel

Oh, you have my sympathy. I hate pms tantrums: they're embarassing and they freak out my husband who starts trying to calm me down in all the wrong ways and then it escalates. It's horrible. Horrible.

Anyone who says pms fits can be controlled doesn't understand. A bad case of pms can sneak up on a person, exacerbated by changes in diet, travel, stress, hormones. I just had a doozy of a pms attack, my first one in over two years. It had been so long I didn't realize what was going on until a couple of days later.

And don't listen to those who tell you that you're violent and need professional help.

[bicentennial_baby]

26. Yeah, thanks

I know violence, and I'm not suffering from an excess of it...Sometimes it just feels good to chuck something at the wall...much better than hurting myself or someone else, which I would never, ever do...

:hug:

[Dora]

30. I threw a glass into a sink that was full of water,

and no other dishes.

Nothing broke, but some water splashed out of the sink and up onto the counter.

My husband called the county crisis line.

During pms, I find myself overwhelmed by the physicality of the emotional experience. Throwing feels good in the moment, so does climbing stairs, but we don't have any stairs.

Hey, go climb the Eiffel Tower!!! :hug:

[bicentennial_baby]

31. I climbed the Arc du Triomphe today, does that count?

:D I hit Eiffel two nights ago, via elevator. I hurt my knee on the Notre Dame stairs right after I got here, so I gotta be careful.

[Dora]

32. Oh, that SO counts!

I guess as far as pms goes, if you gotta have it, at least you're having it in Paris!

[Not_Giving_Up]

27. Oh yes...It's likely a combo

I have not had this problem since the hysterectomy.

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

28. I used to feel this way

I think I've calmed down a lot since unfortunately going through premature menopause. Believe me, you're not alone. I think it's better to let it out in a nonharmful way than to let things boil inside you.

[Sanity Claws]

33. Hints on to prevent it from recurring

Sweetie,

It think it's D, all of the above plus stress. Could I suggest that you do a few things to allow your body to feel less stressed? My suggestions: avoid coffee and alcohol (at least decrease), get enough sleep, eat nutritious food, and don't feel the need to do or see everything. Relax.

I hope you have a great time.

BTW, when I was in Paris, I had my hair redone. People here complimented me. I felt great saying, "Thanks, I just had it done in Paris."

[bicentennial_baby]

36. Yeah, I slept like crap last night

and I've been going for days, nonstop. I need to drink more water, and I'm going to bed early tonight. Coffee, I'm drinking so much less than I normally do, but I probably am a bit dehydrated. Thanks for the tips! :hug:

[bicentennial_baby]

37. Hey Thank You Ladies!!!

:bounce: You guys fucking rock! :hug: for all of you :)