Can someone give me a hug right now?

[cally]

I just got a call from my doctor and I have breast cancer. :scared: Supposedly, it's very early and treatable but because it's an unusual (sic) case, he wants to confer with other doctors before proceeding. Yeah, that makes me feel real confident. :sarcasm:

My husband's on a plane, my sisters and Mom are not answering their phones, and my local friends have been suggesting alternative therapies. I know they are trying to help and eventually I would like to hear their ideas. Just not now. I love where I live but sometimes the new age stuff is just a little too much for me.

I need a hug.

[Bunny]

1. OMG! - What a shocking thing to have to absorb alone.

:hug: to you! Thank god it was discovered early. You should have a real chance to beat this. :hug:

[Zomby Woof]

2. ZombyHugs and more

:hug: Since it is early and treatable, that counts! We'll be behind you all the way, cally.

[ohiosmith]

3. You will be fine.

:pals:

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

4. Here's a hug

and some hope. If you are into alternatives for healing, pm me. I have some information for you that might help.

[blueknight]

7. in the last month

i have had three different friends come down with cancer.they are all optimitic as you are. hang in there, all of us here at du send are love

[progmom]

oh sweetie

we'll get through this :hug:

[enigmatic]

5. Oh Cally

:hug:

I'm so sorry..

[crispini]

6. ((((( HUG ))))))

:hug:

One day at a time. One moment at a time. You can do it. :hug:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

8. Many hugs...

:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:
:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:
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:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:
:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

Keeping you in my thoughts...

[Not Me]

9. Oh my dear,

I wish that I could wrap my arms around you.
I wish you all the best.

[LisaM]

10. Oh no! Big hugs from me

Early is important and I think it's good if he wants to confer with other doctors.

[GOPisEvil]

11. One hug coming up.

:hug:

Best wishes for a quick and speedy recovery.

[GreenPartyVoter]

12. Here's a thousand hugs and prayers to get you through this *hugs

and prayers*

[Radio_Lady]

30. GreenPartyVoter, your pictures are beautiful!

We're leaving Portland, Oregon and bound for Victoria, B.C., Canada.

Taking the ferry from Anacortes, Washington over to Vancouver Island.

We've been there before -- from Christmas to New Year's -- but this is the first summer trip.

I can't wait until Friday!!!

[GreenPartyVoter]

41. Thank you. I would love to go to B.C. one day. If you take pictures,

please let me know? :)

[Radio_Lady]

49. I will. I've just begun to convince my husband to use a digital camera.

Right now, we're having film developed into prints, along with a digital CD, to try and experiment.

Thanks for the post.

[cally]

13. THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH

This makes me feel so much better. More than you will ever know. :grouphug:

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

14. You can have a hug and if you need to talk call me..check your PM

GO with traditional care....I have two friends that got their cancer caught early and both are free of cancer for over 5 years now.

HUG! :hug:

[flakey_foont]

15. Hug

big, strong, sympathetic hug

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

16. Oh no!! I'm so sorry!

Hang in there, kiddo - you have lots of friends here for support. :hug: :pals:

[Radio_Lady]

17. Stay calm and focus on the people who you have around you.

Is there a breast cancer support group in your area? If so, contact them. Can people on the DU private message you with suggestions?
Make sure that feature is turned on.

This was a cruel way to tell you about this -- by telephone -- with no one to support you immediately. The doctor was not following protocol, which involves (usually) giving this information IN PERSON with another adult present who can drive you home if you become distraught. Please accept my condolences on the methods that doctors without consciences utilize today in the name of the Almighty Dollar. I will think of you mightily as you decide how to treat this illness. (I don't pray, but others will...)

Making peace the priority,

Radio Lady

[cally]

20. I've been very insistent on knowing as soon as possible

It's just bad luck that my family is unreachable in the next few hours. I'm glad he let me know.

Thanks for the kind wishes.

[Radio_Lady]

26. I know what you mean about wanting to know. Maybe he thought he was

doing you a favor.

You might need some anti-anxiety medication for a couple of weeks while you explore your options.

Please take care of yourself. I don't know how old you are, but whatever age, you need to get other opinions. Did they do a breast biopsy? Or was this information from mammography?

Let us know.

Have you reached your family yet?

When is your husband going to be reachable?

[cally]

32. two biopsies, three pathologists

and two mammograms. Two of the pathologists weren't sure. I still think I need another opinion.

[Radio_Lady]

46. Get as many opinions as you can under your health plan. You need

enough to make an informed decision about what to do. If two weren't certain, ask yourself what is needed to come to a conclusion. I don't know enough about pathology to advise you.

Do you have a history of breast cancer in your family?

[ashling]

18. Hugs!

[flamingyouth]

19. Here's a hug and my best wishes for a full recovery.

I'm sorry that no one is there with you in person right now but please know that your friends here all send you love and support. :hug:
:grouphug:

[donheld]

21. cally, I'm so sorry

:hug: i will send out good thoughts for you.

[Niccolo_Macchiavelli]

22. from an ex- and allways again cancie

:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

ow you just wanted ONE hug..xcuse, my mistake

[LynzM]

23. Love and hugs to you, cally

What a bad way for your doc to give you that info :hug: :hug: :hug: You have lots of support and knowledge available to you here, and I hope it helps you. Lots of people will be thinking of you, sending healing vibes your way, and praying for you! :hug:

[Lars39]

24. Oh, Cally.

:hug: Concentrate on "early and treatable". I was diagnosed last June.
Your friends mean well, they just want it to all go away for you.
Good site: www.susanlove.com/ and another :hug:

[JimmyJazz]

25. Hugs and good wishes headed your way.

:hug:

[Wapsie B]

27. Hugs and good Karma headed your way.

You can beat this.

[Cyndee_Lou_Who]

28. Peace and love... I wish you the best in getting through this.

Hang in there...

[Eloriel]

29. Oh, Cally

I'm so sorry to hear that.

But the survival rate is SO good these days. Concentrate on that if you can.

Big hugs: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[spooky3]

31. Cally, positive vibes and good thoughts to you+++++++++++++++++.

Right now you need therapies that SCIENCE has shown to be best for you, not unproven alternatives, and I hope that is what your doctor is seeking info about. And you can always seek another opinion from another highly regarded physician.

[tigereye]

33. hugs and healing vibes to you Cally

:grouphug:

Wishing you well.

[Aristus]

34. Oh sweetie.......

:hug:((((((((((cally)))))))))):hug:

[Midlodemocrat]

35. Cally.

I worked in the health care field. If the doctor told you it was in its early stage, it is.

I have many, many friends who have survived breast cancer, including one who had significant lymph node involvement.

I am pulling for you. Find a support group. The hospital should have one and it will make a tremendous difference in your dealing with this.

Best wishes and prayers.

:hug:

[Dastard Stepchild]

36. Oh my!

My thoughts go out to you.

:hug:

[Mutley]

37. Oh I'm so sorry!

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[alarcojon]

38. Best of luck Cally!

I think it is good that your doctor is conferring with others - presumably specialists. Stay spiritually grounded - this will help you stay strong.

At this point in the thread, its one of these: :grouphug:

[Sugar Smack]

39. here, cally-

:hug:

you tell me if you need anything else, OK?

[atommom]

40. So sorry to hear about this. I hope you're able to talk to some

supportive family members soon, and get a chance to deal with the shock. :grouphug:

[Samurai_Writer]

42. yes! Lots of hugs!

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

We're here for you, Cally.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

43. This is a shocker, my dear Cally.....

I'm sending all my good thoughts and hugs your way...

We are all rooting for you, today and always!

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

Keep hanging on to the very good thought: they caught it EARLY...

[swag]

44. I hope there's comfort and love for you tonight.

So many good wishes for you.

[Akoto]

45. You are in my thoughts. Just the same, though ...

You should be relieved, or at least proud, that you had the foresight to get tested and found it so early. There are a lot of people out there who haven't the bravery to do the same.

I'm not a woman so I don't say this with any experience, but isn't breast cancer one of the most treatable forms when caught early? Both of my grandfathers went through cancer, and I've found that it helped me (and them) to try and keep an eye on the positives.

[CBHagman]

47. Come over here, cally.

:hug: :grouphug:

You are doing the right thing. Do give yourself time and go ahead and ask questions. You deserve answers, and you deserve support! Get whatever you need, whether that's here at DU or in the doctor's office or wherever.

Wishing you anything and everything you need for support...

CBH

On edit: Let us know how you're doing and what you need to get through this.

[elshiva]

48. :( !!!

:hug: :hug:

[AlienGirl]

50. Oh dear...yes, here's a hug from me

:hug: That's an awful phone call to get, and I wish nobody else ever had to hear their doctor telling them something is malignant.

My thoughts are with you.

Tucker

[dajoki]

51. here for you...

in our prayers and God bless you:hug:

[hvn_nbr_2]

52. A hug...

from me :hug:
and another from all of us :grouphug:

[peekaloo]

53. Positive vibes and a big hug.

:hug:

[cally]

54. Another thank you and I've spoken to my family

I reached my husband, sister, mother and daughters. I'm feeling stronger and ready to write down questions to ask the doctors.

Again all the caring thoughts and :hug: got me through that first hour when I couldn't reach my family. :grouphug:

[mikita]

60. more hugs and good thoughts

(((((((( :hug: )))))))))

My best friend went through this and is doing well 18 years later!
Positive thoughts your way....


Namaste,
Mikita

[Lydia Leftcoast]

55. Minnesota hugs

I've had two cancer scares, both benign fortunately, but I knew the agony of waiting for results.

(((cally)))

[latebloomer]

56. Hang in there!

My mom had breast cancer and it was not in an early stage. Almost 14 years later, she is well and kickin!

You will make it through this!!

:hug:

[Maddy McCall]

57. Cally, a big hug for you...

Just remember...your friends are well-meaning, but you don't need to be second guessing right now. Your doctor will assemble a team, with whom he will consult, to decide your best course of treatment. That shouldn't cause you to lose faith in your doctor. It's quite normal with cancer patients...my dad's doctor, a world renown gastric oncologist, assembled a consultation team during my father's treatment. He's 100% cancer free today.

I am saying a prayer for you and your family. If you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me.

:hug:

[Pithlet]

58. Major hugs.

:hugs: :grouphug: I'm so sorry for the bad news, although it's good news they caught it early. If the docs say it's treatable, that is a very good sign.

[VelmaD]

59. *big tight hug*

:hug:

[SarahB]

61. Lots of hugs.

:hug: :grouphug: :pals: :hug: :grouphug: :pals: :hug: :grouphug: :pals: :hug: :grouphug: :pals:

Wishing for nothing but the speediest and most painless recovery possible.

[nytemare]

62. Take heart, Cally.

My grandmother had breast cancer, and had a double mastectomy, and she survived to the age of 93 when she passed of alzheimers.

It was probably 25 or so years ago when she was diagnosed. Think of how far treatment has come since then!!

You have caught it early, that is such a great thing.

My hopes are with you!

:hug: :hug:

[Maat]

63. Hugs!

:grouphug:

My mother-in-law caught hers early too, and she's still around and kickin' 15 years later - no recurrence or anything like that.

Know that you will get through this with flying colors, and receive emotional support like you never dreamed you would!

[Cathyclysmic]

64. So sorry

We will be thinking of you.

:grouphug:

[Floogeldy]

65. Well . . .

Okay.

[Reciprocity]

66. BIG ((((( HUG ))))))

Positive thoughts, prayers and good vibes coming your way from Texas.

[hunter]

67. Hugs all through this.

:hug:

[fortyfeetunder]

68. Hang in there and keep the faith

You will make it.
And here are 10 hugs, cally:

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[SW FL Dem]

69. I'll add my hugs and good wishes

As hard as it is, try to focus on the words early and treatable. I have several friends who have sucessfully been treated for breast cancer and are now considered cancer-free. One friend was even stage 4 and given little chance, that was in 1999 and she is still in remission.

I hope you reach your family soon and that they are a great source of support. As you see, we at DU are also willing to listen and send long distance hugs.

[knowbody0]

70. here's a bear hug

you're gonna beat this!

[Technowitch]

71. I'm so sorry, Cally. You get a great big furry hug from me.

:hug:

Hang in there, and know you've got lots of healing energy coming your way -- not to mention the positive intentions of a whole lot of people.

hugs,
-Technowitch

[LisaLynne]

72. Oh, honey, I'm so, so sorry.

I'm sorry you had to find out about this when everybody's away. I completely understand what you're saying about people suggesting treatments at this stage.

So, hugs coming your way. It's good that it's early and at least your doctor is caring enough to take some extra time on your case. Sounds like you have a good one.

Hang in there. We're all thinking about you and here for you. :hug:

[MrScorpio]

73. Here's a hug from me

:hug:

Now you hang in there, you here?

[libnnc]

74. great big hug for you

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

You're going to be okay and the more opinions your doc gets the better you'll be for it. :hug: :hug: :hug:

[u4ic]

75. Cally

:hug: :pals: :hug: :pals: :hug: :pals: :hug:

and I'm sending some healing vibes down your way.

[Lori Price CLG]

76. *Hug,* and best wishes... I'm sure it will turn out all right...

all good vibes from here for you, Cally....
:)-Lori

[undergroundpanther]

77. (((furry purry hug!)))

Oh crap..I hope it turns out OK..I hope they can nab it right outta there bing bang boom ~gone..Radical masectomies are not done as much as they used to be.The imaging is better, the techiques are better..And I know you'll come through this.Because you are a warrior.

[auntAgonist]

78. here's a hug from me . and lots of good wishes

for a complete recovery! I will continue to keep you in my thoughts.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

I hope your husband gets home soon so that HE can hold you in his warm embrace. You're going to need his strength for the days when you are sad, mad and downright feeling bad!

I hope too, that your sisters also get checked out as a precaution for their good health.

Cancer IS beatable .. start beating it ! ! !

hang in there Cally!

[regnaD kciN]

79. One from me...

:hug:

(I wish I could make it bigger.)

[KitchenWitch]

80. Wow, I am so sorry to hear that

:hug: and healing thoughts are being sent your way!

[RevCheesehead]

81. Hugs and prayers for you, Cally.

Would you consider posting in the Christian Liberals group, (since you helped start it), as well as the prayer circle? People will want to know, and pray for you.

Here, have several: :hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

[NMMNG]

82. I'm so sorry to hear that cally

Try not to worry too much about the doctor wanting to discuss your case with colleagues. He may just want to be sure he understands the best way to go about treating your condition. In such cases it can be better to have several heads working together.

With metta

[lildreamer316]

83. Inspiration:

My mother had me at age 39. By the time I was 3 she had breast and ovarian cancer. I am now 32; mu mother passed away in jan of 2004 from lung cancer. she had a long and full life and her cancer was in remission until 2 1/2 years berfore her death. You can win this.
Sending much love and hugs.!:hug:

[deadparrot]

84. I'm so sorry.

:hug:

Best of luck.

[NMDemDist2]

85. lots of cyber hugs

:hug: :pals: :hug: :pals: :hug: :pals: :hug: :pals: :hug: :pals:

just hang in there and I'm so sorry you are facing this news

[newyawker99]

86. Cally, I am so sorry to hear this. I hope everthing

goes well for you.


:hug:

[lukasahero]

87. Wow, Just adding more hugs

Hi cally, my thoughts and good vibes are with you. I hope by now your family is with you, too. :grouphug:

While you have a difficult road ahead of you (be gentle with yourself), I know you will come through this just fine. :hug: again, just because.

[Misunderestimator]

88. Oh shit cally. Glad they caught it so soon.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
:hug: :hug::hug: :hug::hug: :hug:

[Avalux]

89. Hang in there -

If it's early, you'll be in good shape, and remember to do what you think is best for YOU. Your doc wanting to confer with others is a good thing.

Here's many hugs - take care cally. :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: