Put my mother in a nursing home today.

[lumberingbear]

She has Alzheimer's and is 92. I've taken care of her 24/7 for the last three years. It went well. She is very confused but not upset. Will go to see her tomorrow.

Now I will return to my Florida home and try to kick-start my life that has been on hold. My sister lives a few blocks from the nursing home and will keep an I on our mother. I plan to visit occasionaly, but will spend most of my time now in Florida.

Please send prayers and good vibes to my mother.

Thanks...lumberingbear

[Left Is Write]

1. Best wishes for your mother and your family.

Even though it was for the best, it couldn't have been easy for you.

[lumberingbear]

4. Thank you

I told my sister to not be upset, because we have done the right thing.

[flamingyouth]

2. Good vibes to all of you

That must have been very difficult but I'm quite sure you did what's best for her. Take care. :hug:

[lumberingbear]

6. Thanks flamingyouth

Yes, we all needed those good vibes.

[Hugin]

3. Sad story...

But, it's probably the best thing you can do.

You have my sympathy.

[lumberingbear]

7. Yes it is sad to have her go through this, but...

she had a wonderful life up until she was 89. We will try to remember all those good times, rather than the bad at the end of her life.

[Darth_Kitten]

5. Your mother is lucky to have you!

You are doing your best by your Mom, and I wish you all very well. :)

[lumberingbear]

8. I have learned a lot about life these last three years...

I would do it all again, she is a wonderful mother.

[Kahuna]

9. Prayers and good vibes to your mother, you and your entire family.

:pals:

[lumberingbear]

10. Thanks Kahuna...

it means alot.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

11. My dearest lumberingbear....

You have taken a very important and necessary step...

Both for your mom and for you...

I'm sure you are aware that as Alzheimer's progresses, it becomes more and more troublesome to care for the person who has it....

The end of life is such a fragile time...much like the beginning...

She is in the best place for her now....to end her days...

And you can resume the life you are meant to lead...no longer on hold...

:grouphug: :pals:

[lumberingbear]

14. Thank you Peggy.

Your "my dearest" made me cry. I needed the release. I have held in lot of emotion the past 3 years. Thanks for helping me cry.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

27. If I may say it once again...my dearest lumberingbear....

Your words touch my heart so profoundly.......

I remembered what you said to me yesterday..and I wanted so much to be able to do that for you...

And today you presented me with this opportunity.......

I am so happy that I helped your tears flow...they are so necessary...

I hope this release will be ongoing for you.......


:hug:

:pals:

[The Backlash Cometh]

12. God Bless you, your mom and your sis, Lumberingbear.

[lumberingbear]

15. Thank You Backlash!

Please send some of those blessings to my brother also. (He is a right-wingnut who did not help at all these last three years, but I know he is feeling sad today also.)

[The Backlash Cometh]

18. I'd rather bless you twice for having to put up with him.

OH, okay. God Bless your right-wing brother too.

[Initech]

13. I'm in the same boat as you!

I get to put my grandma in a nursing home next month. Should be quite fun. :sarcasm:

[lumberingbear]

17. I'm really thankful how easy it has went.

Hope it goes easy for you and your grandmother. :hug:

[DawgHouse]

16. We just did the exact same thing with DH's Mom

I know what you're going through. You have done the right thing for her and she will receive the level of care she needs. Sending good vibes to Mama Bear.

[lumberingbear]

19. Bless You my friend.

:pals:

[trof]

20. Been there, done that. You reach a point...

where you have to go ahead and live your life.
I'm glad she's not upset.
If she was compos mentis, she'd make the same decision.
:grouphug:

[lumberingbear]

22. Thanks Trof

She told us many times during her later years to put her in a home when the time comes.

[Baclava]

21. My mom has been in one for 6 years...she's 92, also.

We just moved her to another one with an Alzheimer's Unit...no medical patients. She's healthy otherwise...she moves around in her wheelchair becasue of her arthritis, but, it's a nice set-up.

She's now only 5 minutes away from my brothers house so he can see her every day. She has her "good" times of the day and is pretty lucid most of the time.

[lumberingbear]

23. Thanks Baclava

and bless you and your mother too.

[sundog]

24. best wishes mr. bear

:pals:

[lumberingbear]

25. Thanks Mr. Dog

and thanks for keeping me entertained during this trying time in my life.
:pals:

[Beausoir]

26. Good blessings on you all.

I really mean that.

I had to make that most difficult choice twice, once with dad and then again with mom. I really think there is almost nothing has stressful as what you have come through.

[lumberingbear]

28. Thank you Beausoir

Sorry you had to go through that also.

[yellowdogintexas]

29. we had to do that last year. It was a tough decision to make

but it just finally had to happen.

You will be in my thoughts.

[lumberingbear]

32. Thanks yellowdog

:pals:

[Poiuyt]

30. It's tough but you did a loving thing

We put my mother in a home 2 years ago (also with Alzheimers). It was very hard on me as I was the caregiver and it made me realize that I was no longer capable of taking care of her. I thought she would hate it and would go downhill rapidly, but instead she has flourished. She loves it there (I don't think she knows where she is) gets MUCH better care than I could ever give her, and is surrounded by people. I can't believe how well it's turned out for us. We put her in a home that is old and unelegant, but the people who work there are the tops...and that's what's important.

I wish you well.

[lumberingbear]

33. Thanks Poiuyt

I'm heading over to the nursing home shortly, hopeing everything is going alright.

[caty]

31. We had to put my mother

in a nursing home three years before she passed away. Some advice that was given us when we did this is: Don't visit on the same day of the week or the same time of day. Mix it up. You can get a better idea of how well she is being taken care of this way.

[lumberingbear]

34. Thanks for the advice caty.

My sister is just a few blocks away from the nursing home and will be dropping in at different times. Luckily this is a small town and everyone knows everyone. From what all I hear, everyone is well taken care of.

[JimmyJazz]

35. You and your mother are in my thoughts and prayers.

:hug:

[lumberingbear]

36. Thanks JJ !

And thanks for the entertaining threads that have kept me company during this trying time.