datasuspect
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Sat Aug-20-05 06:51 AM
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i wish i had the courage to tell her that.
why do i have to be such a hardass?
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Sat Aug-20-05 07:21 AM
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you ain't no hardass. I am. :-)
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Sat Aug-20-05 07:22 AM
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just tell her.
my Mum passed away 8 years ago on Aug 23. Let her know you love her.
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Sat Aug-20-05 07:24 AM
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There will come a day when she won't be around for you to tell her. Let her enjoy that feeling here and now.
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Sat Aug-20-05 07:24 AM
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4. You should tell her, datasuspect. |
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If doing it face-to-face is absolutely impossible for you, then write it (don't TYPE it; too impersonal) in _your own handwriting_ and send it to you. That'll break the ice for actually telling her face to face.
You can do it. :pals:
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I Have A Dream
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Sat Aug-20-05 09:10 AM
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10. I agree with Heidi. Sometimes it's difficult to say it face-to-face... |
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initially. (It will get easier over time.) Also, if you put it in a letter, she can keep it. (I'm positive that she'll cherish it for the rest of her life.)
You are so lucky to have a wonderful mother, and she's lucky to have someone who realizes her worth.
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Sat Aug-20-05 07:35 AM
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Just say it.
When she asks you why you're telling here that, just say that you just want to tell her.
"I love you, Mom."
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Sat Aug-20-05 08:16 AM
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6. Tell her this weekend. |
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Believe me, you will feel so much better about it, and she will feel GREAT. I did the same thing many years ago. I lived far from her in another state for many years and whenever we would talk on the phone, I would end the conversation by saying, "I love you, Mom." The first time or two, she was so taken aback, she did not reply. But soon thereafter, she would respond, "I love you, too." It became a very natural thing to say, for both of us.
When she died a few years ago, she knew that I loved her very much. That was so important, and it helped me to deal with my grief.
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Sat Aug-20-05 08:17 AM
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7. You are so lucky. Tell her. |
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Think of the people here, and everywhere, who do not love their moms.
My mother is abusive, a lair and a fundie. I have not lived under her roof for years, but she still tries to mess in my life.
I keep up my obligations. I visit her and my dad. I keep in touch. But it is duty, not love.
It is great that you have a lovable mom.
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Sat Aug-20-05 08:42 AM
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what you won't regret that you didn't tomorrow:loveya: You'll be happy you did
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Sat Aug-20-05 08:45 AM
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9. Tell her. The last thing I ever told my mom was, "No we don't |
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want a ham for Superbowl Sunday."
I wish I had sent her out with "I love you" instead. :(
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Sat Aug-20-05 09:12 AM
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Sat Aug-20-05 09:20 AM
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17. *hugs* It's ok. In all honesty I am sure the last thing I really told |
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her was "I'll talk to you tomorrow", but the no ham dinner was the gist of our entire conversation.
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Sat Aug-20-05 09:30 AM
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19. Well, optimism is a little better. |
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This kind of stuff tears me up.
Still, I imagine she knew how you felt.
Some people don't.
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Sat Aug-20-05 09:56 AM
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22. Mom knew. Even though I still managed to be a brat sometimes at the |
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ripe old age of 33, she knew. :)
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Sat Aug-20-05 09:13 AM
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It will mean so much to her.
I have two sons, 18 and 22, and neither one has ever said "I love you" to me. No doubt that's because they're 18 and 22. We have a decent relationship, so I hope that some day I will hear it from them. I frequently tell them I love them, because I do, and they deserve to hear it.
And ending phone conversations with "I love you" is great. One of my sisters started doing that about ten years ago, and I was likewise startled the first few times. But it caught on. I never got along real well with my own mom, but learning to say "I love you" to her was one of the best things I did. She died six years ago, and I still miss her.
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Sat Aug-20-05 09:13 AM
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13. Tell her today, and at every opportunity thereafter. |
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Edited on Sat Aug-20-05 09:14 AM by Akoto
My mom and I had something of a turbulent relationship during my teenaged years. I said a lot of things to her that I deeply regret.
I'm in my twenties now, our wounds have been mended and she's possibly my best friend in the world. I can tell her anything. It's great. Now, every night before we go to bed, we say that we love each other.
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Sat Aug-20-05 09:18 AM
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Life is too short and hard not to.
When my little sister died... you know what I regretted? All the times I could have told her I loved her and didn't. She knew it, but I should have said it more often.
So say it - in the end you won't regret saying it, you'll regret not saying it.
Khash.
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Sat Aug-20-05 09:19 AM
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15. What the other's have said |
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Treat it like voting in Chicago: tell her early and often.
(I used to be a registered Democrat in Chicago; I get to make that joke, thank you.)
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Sat Aug-20-05 09:19 AM
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16. If you love someone...ALWAYS tell them |
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Sat Aug-20-05 09:21 AM
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18. My S.O. was razzing me all evening last night because... |
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I called my Mom "sweetheart" in a phone call.
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Sat Aug-20-05 09:39 AM
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20. No matter what kind of relationship, you should tell her |
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My mother and I were very close. We said "I love you" frequently. Many, many times a day.
She died in June and I regret I didn't have a thousand more chances to say "I love you.
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