My father has cancer.

[Sannum]

Lymphoma to be specific. I am just in shock right now. I don't know what to say or do.

Oh my god.

[auntAgonist]

1. I know

the feeling of shock.

:hug: just reach out and don't shut out those who would want / need to help you handle this.


:hug:

[benburch]

2. I have been there with both of my parents.

What is the prognosis? How old is he?

If you need to talk, most days I am on Skype at ben_burch.

[bonito]

19. good questions

There is alternative medicine.

[Sannum]

22. They will know more next week.

he is in his late 50's.

[lastknowngood]

3. So Sorry. Say the things that need to be said, spend as much time

as possible and be as strong as you can for him. He is very scared now and he needs you more than ever.

[Crazy Guggenheim]

4. Our thoughts are with you and yours.

[RevCheesehead]

5. I'm so sorry.

My prayers are with you, your dad, and your whole family. :hug:

[nytemare]

6. I am so sorry Sannum

:hug:

[knowbody0]

7. so sorry Sannum

all you can do is make the days with him count. good luck to you and your family
peace and love

[Tallison]

8. I'm so sorry

A parent's illness can shake the very foundation of our existence and sense of security. My thoughts and prayers are w/you.

[u4ic]

9. I'm so sorry

:hug:

I don't think I'll ever forget how I felt when I was told my mother had terminal cancer 8 years ago (she lived only another 5 months). Words cannot even begin to describe it.

[auntAgonist]

11. u4ic

:hug: it's going to be 8 years on the 23rd of this month that my mum passed away.


:hug:

[u4ic]

24. Hugs back to you, auntAgonist

looks like our mums passed within 6 weeks of each other. :hug:

[bigwillq]

10. Very sorry to hear this.

I wish him the best.:hug:

[Wapsie B]

12. I'm so sorry Sannum.

:hug:

[Sannum]

15. Thanks everyone

I am in the middle of a panic attack right now. The last five years have been hell for my family and now, it has taken another turn. We can't deal with another tragedy. I can't deal with death or emotion. Now he is probably going to die and the tragedies will continue. I will be alone, and then die. Fuck.

[MelissaB]

20. Hang in there, Sannum.

Wait until you get test results before you panic too much. Lymphomia is treatable. :hug:

[Redstone]

13. Damn. Just remember that you have friends.

And they're here for you.

Redstone

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

14. I'm sorry. Does he live nearby so you can see him?

[Sannum]

17. no.

I also can't afford to travel down there. I can hardly afford to take the fucking subway these days.

[Left Is Write]

16. I'm sorry, Sannum.

[LeighAnn]

18. Hodgkins or Non-Hodgkins?

Very sorry for what you're family is feeling right now. Good thing you've got the internet, you'll be a Lymphoma expert by the end of next week, I'll bet.

http://www.google.com/search?q=Lymphoma+%22clinical+trials%22

Add your state to that search and there might be several options for clinical trials in your area.

Also there's this
http://www.clinicaltrials.gov/

A lot more people are winning the fight against cancer. Lots and Lots and Lots more.

~*~*~*Prayers*~*~*~*~

[Sannum]

21. non-hodgkins

thanks for the links:hug:

[LeighAnn]

23. Survival Rates High

Non-Hodgkins lymphoma is by no means a death sentence. Here are a couple of more links I found

http://www.lymphomainfo.net/nhl/index.html

and this looks like a pretty active message board

http://forums.webmagic.com/ubbthreads/postlist.php?Cat=&Board=UBB2

Peace, my friend, and comfort to you tonight. I'm awfully sorry for your sadness and worry.

[Sannum]

26. Thanks LeighAnn

:hug:

I am a basket case right now. :cry:

[MelissaB]

27. My uncle is going through treatment right now.

Have hope. Surrival rates are high.

[likesmountains 52]

29. Agreed, a cancer diagnosis sucks...but this is one of the less lethal ones

good luck to you all...am hoping for the best.

[Vinnie From Indy]

25. Talk about the good times and laugh

Laughter about shared experience is what life is about! I wish you the very best and the longest time with your father. Salute!

[graywarrior]

28. Cancer is not a death sentence. One of my friends had lymphoma

Docs told her to "get your affairs in order" about 15 years ago. She's healthier than I am now. Diet change helped her.

Offer him hope. Never give up.

[Southsideirish]

32. Some information on diet, please?

[graywarrior]

37. I PM'd you.

[bliss_eternal]

30. Oh gosh. I'm SO sorry...

:hug:

[roguevalley]

31. I've done this too. Its not a death sentence anymore. Just do the

treatment, laugh A LOT (videos, etc) and keep the calories up. You will beat it. You just have to believe it.

[Sannum]

33. My first comment was I am going to get him some primo bud...

I never show my emotions to those I am frightened for. I can show anger, but not fright.

I am so tired right now.:cry:

Why does this happen to good people? To Andy, to my Dad....why is this planet so fucking unfair.

[cally]

34. I'm sorry Sannum

but there is hope. :hug:

[GOPisEvil]

35. Best wishes for your father.

Non-Hodkins lymphoma is very treatable, with a high survival rate.

[rockymountaindem]

36. Best wishes.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[tibbir]

38. Your falther may go into remission from Lymphoma for a long time.

My brother had it and the treatment, although pretty awful, was very successful. Just take advantage of the time you have with him and enjoy each moment.

It's very difficult to see someone go through the treatment. Just give your dad all of your love and support. He'll appreciate it.

[RFKHumphreyObama]

39. My thoughts, prayers and best wishes to you and your family

And especially to your father :hug: :hug: My best wishes, positive vibes and warm thoughts to you all

[gardenista]

40. Toughts and prayers and sincere wishes for strength to you and your

father for the fight ahead.

I hope he can beat this thing into submission and live a long and healthy life.

[KitchenWitch]

41. You have mail

:hug:

[merh]

42. You and yours are in my prayers Sannum.

:hug:

[smartvoter]

43. Everyone out here is right -- there is always hope and cancer is no

longer what it once was on the survival side.

That said, I know -- we all know -- it sucks.

I'm sorry you're facing this. You and your father will be in my thoughts.