RPM
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Tue Aug-30-05 10:56 PM
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JVS's and my father is dying. |
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Colon cancer diagosed ~3 years ago.
He has been deterioriating... saw him today... looked bad... stomach distended, eyes sunken, skin jaundiced, and lacking the mental acuity he always used to destroy any of the family in an argument. Enough appitite to knock back 3 wings and 2 pints of beer - but not enough strength to make the 50 foot wal between the table and car without a rest.
at a time when so many are so fucked, i feel awful for even complaining about my own problems here 1100 feeet above sea level in a dry house with electricity, running water, and my loved ones a phone call away....
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Tue Aug-30-05 10:58 PM
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:hug:
your pain is just as valid as anyone's.
i am really sorry.
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Tue Aug-30-05 10:58 PM
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:hug::hug::hug:
Don't feel bad about complaining. When life is overwhelming, it just is.
I'll be thinking about you.
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Tue Aug-30-05 10:58 PM
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3. Oh man, buddy - I'm so sorry |
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My mom died of colon cancer back in 1987; it wasn't pretty. So I can say that I sort of know what you're going through, but of course I can't really. Hang in there - you guys have lots of friends here on DU.
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Tue Aug-30-05 10:59 PM
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Pain is pain...please be good to yourself and JVS, and of course, your dad.
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Tue Aug-30-05 11:00 PM
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Tue Aug-30-05 11:01 PM
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It's hard to watch someone you love slip away an inch at a time. Hang in.
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Tue Aug-30-05 11:01 PM
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Hugs for you both. :hug: My mom died of colon cancer 3 yrs ago.
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Tue Aug-30-05 11:02 PM
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8. My own dad died of cancer before his time. |
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Words don't work well at times like these, but I empathize. Believe me.
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Tue Aug-30-05 11:08 PM
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9. I am so very sorry. Cancer is evil. |
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There's no other word for it. Evil. What it does to good people...:cry:
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Tue Aug-30-05 11:10 PM
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10. I'm sorry, RPM and JVS . . . |
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Wishing you guidance and protection.
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Tue Aug-30-05 11:13 PM
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11. RPM and JVS you have my deepest sympathy |
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for what you are facing at this time. I lost my Mum to colon cancer. It's hard to feel so helpless and so hopeless.
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Tue Aug-30-05 11:16 PM
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Wed Aug-31-05 11:44 PM
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15. UPDATE: The old man is in the nursing home |
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where our two grandmothers have both died (1997 & 1999)
sigh - it won't be long now...
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Wed Aug-31-05 11:49 PM
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16. I would appreciate it if you'd not discuss father's illness/demise here |
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Edited on Wed Aug-31-05 11:53 PM by JVS
I'll explain to you on the phone next time we talk. I'll call you tomorrow some time. Have a good night. :hug:
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Wed Aug-31-05 11:54 PM
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Wed Aug-31-05 11:56 PM
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25. Not necessary, but on "the day" I don't want to see our father's death... |
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get less responses than a dead dog or cat. It just kind of bugs me.
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Wed Aug-31-05 11:59 PM
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it's hard, and it won't get easier. My mother passed away 2 years after being diagnosed with colon cancer. I'm still angry .. you will feel every emotion imagineable.
my best to you .. godspeed to your father.
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Wed Aug-31-05 11:54 PM
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21. If it's a big deal, wouldn't your message be more appropriate as a PM? |
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Wed Aug-31-05 11:50 PM
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17. Thanks for the sympathetic posts people. |
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Wed Aug-31-05 11:53 PM
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I can't say anything that could comfort you... I wish I could, but I don't know how, I've never experienced such a loss. One thing though, you and JVS are great guys, and that says your Dad must be a terrific guy too. Chin up you two.
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Wed Aug-31-05 11:54 PM
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22. We take more after our mother |
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Wed Aug-31-05 11:55 PM
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I'd like to meet your folks, they seem (from what I've heard) like good people.
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Wed Aug-31-05 11:54 PM
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I remember how difficult it was when my grandmother had colon cancer. It spread to her liver, which was what killed her ultimately. Love him while you can, dear. :hug:
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Wed Aug-31-05 11:55 PM
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:hug: You are NOT complaining.
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