BlueJazz
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Sun Sep-04-05 08:13 PM
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Any of you Guys have this problem (when Dating) ?? |
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I've just about gotten to the point that when I take a Lady to the Movies, I have to make sure that it's not going to be a film that's sappy or rather emotional. I'm one of those people that cry watching a love story...Yeah OK..I can be a Wuss when it comes to the scene where the 2 lovers (at the end of the film ) are rushing across the field to reassure each other that they are totally, completely in love. I've had to almost shut my eyes and think of car-racing or something when those types of scenes are playing.
..Or now I think about it..Maybe I just need a better class of Woman (Date)
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Sun Sep-04-05 08:16 PM
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1. Why would that be an issue? |
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I would think the right kind of woman would think it was sweet that you can be sentimental.
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Sun Sep-04-05 08:21 PM
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if this gets around, it might be like those old hi karate aftershave commercials.
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Sun Sep-04-05 08:27 PM
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3. I love it when my husband cries at movies |
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It's a sign of strength to be able to show emotion, I think.
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Sun Sep-04-05 08:28 PM
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4. Why bother with movies and dinner? Just ask them for sex! |
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Just get to the point! ;)
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Sun Sep-04-05 10:07 PM
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13. They are more likely to agree |
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IF THEY GOT DINNER AND A MOVIE FIRST.
Duh!
The ol' "Hi, my name is _____. Let's have sex" will get you a swift kick in the wedding tackle. Nothing more.
A good dinner, and a movie which you cry at? That might have more bargaining power.
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Sun Sep-04-05 11:17 PM
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27. Yes, and cry when you ask |
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Sun Sep-04-05 08:30 PM
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5. there is a difference if it's a first date or 10th or beyond |
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I think *some* women may think it strange that a guy cries at a movie on the first date, as it is not a normal thing for a guy to do.
however, once you get to know a woman, I'm sure it would be fine.
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Sun Sep-04-05 08:35 PM
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:loveya: you already.
My ex used to cry at movies, weddings, etc...he is far more emotional than I am. I never judged him for it, in fact I respected his feelings, and the fact he felt comfortable enough to do it. (the ex part had nothing to do with him crying, he still is a wonderful man)
If a woman can't handle a guy crying...it's her loss.
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Sun Sep-04-05 09:29 PM
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7. So, is the field full of landmines? |
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Otherwise, I don't really know what kind of movie you mean...
However, I do think that sobbing on a first date will generally not lead to a second. Showing emotion is great once the relationship is developed, but I do think that everything on a first date gets invested with an extra helping of significance, and crying will probably send the wrong message...
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Sun Sep-04-05 09:34 PM
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8. i cried at the exocist |
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Sun Sep-04-05 11:21 PM
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Sun Sep-04-05 09:44 PM
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9. My problem is that most of the girls: |
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Edited on Sun Sep-04-05 09:44 PM by sakabatou
1. Are my friends 2. See me as a "father figure" 3. See me as a giant brain 4. See me as a geek 5. Don't know I exist 6. Know that I exist but won't acknowledge it
Haven't had a girlfriend in over a decade...
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BlueJazz
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Sun Sep-04-05 10:00 PM
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I play in a Jazz Group so I do get to meet women but ..May I suggest some volunteer work? ...or maybe one of those on-line dating sites. (I don't know..I'm just grabbing straws)
Geez..There has to be Someone out there for you...
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Sun Sep-04-05 11:10 PM
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Sun Sep-04-05 10:59 PM
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20. Someday you'll surprise them all. |
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Sun Sep-04-05 11:17 PM
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Edited on Sun Sep-04-05 11:26 PM by TOJ
except for the last unnumbered one. I am sort of average looking, but besides that am near the top in most categories. Maybe I am setting my sights too high. Right now I am trying to get a beautiful woman of my own age group, with whom I've been friends for years, to have dinner with me. I am up to strike 4, and I think I'm out.
Edit: They don't really think of me as a "father figure", since I only am interested in those in my own general age group (I'm 48). But the others apply, I think.
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Sun Sep-04-05 09:44 PM
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10. Be like Benjamin Braddock; take her to see strippers. |
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Sun Sep-04-05 10:28 PM
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16. Yet another move worthy |
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of the parting kick to the wedding tackle.
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Sun Sep-04-05 11:19 PM
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29. Sounds like something Frank Burns would pull |
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Sun Sep-04-05 10:03 PM
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12. That's a wonderful thing! If they tease you or find it odd... |
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then they ain't worth it baby! :hi:
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Sun Sep-04-05 10:13 PM
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14. Good Point.. MrsGrumpy! |
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Sun Sep-04-05 10:20 PM
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15. I shed a few tears watching MARCH OF THE PENGUINS |
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The story is just that touching. Any woman worth her salt will appreciate a man showing some emotion.
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Sun Sep-04-05 10:35 PM
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17. i was crying at the opening part |
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with the icebergs... i am that sappy.
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Sun Sep-04-05 10:46 PM
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18. Be who you are. Cry at a movie if you feel like it. |
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If the date has a problem with it, she's not the right one.
Game-playing during dating is BS. There, I said it.
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Sun Sep-04-05 10:52 PM
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19. I cry at the movies all the time |
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However, I would not want to do it on a first date. I would spend much of the first date trying to figure out if she's someone who could handle it if I cried at the movies. If not, I wouldn't bother with a second date.
You're a hopeless romantic. That's a good thing. It's serving me well. :thumbsup:
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Sun Sep-04-05 11:06 PM
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21. I have no problem with the love stories |
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it's the "inspirational teacher" or "father/son" genres that always get me going.
BTW, I agree with some of the earlier responses. Cry like a baby. It will show that you are sensitive and tender.
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Sun Sep-04-05 11:08 PM
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22. Feh, I'd rather see action or horror movies on a date anways... |
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... You can pay less attention to the movie itself ;)
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Sun Sep-04-05 11:13 PM
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24. I'm more likely to laugh out loud |
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at those sappy movies. I usually try to daydream about something not so sappy. To keep from laughing or dozing off.
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Sun Sep-04-05 11:15 PM
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25. You shouldn't go to a movie on a first date |
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Do something where you can talk and interact. If you go to a movie, you two are just sitting there like two blobs. You need to be able to converse throughout the date. No movies til third date.
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Sun Sep-04-05 11:18 PM
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I think live music (you can talk during the breaks), or an art fair, or a ball game if she likes sports, are better - more interactive.
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