Why is it when a guy wears a wedding band

[commander bunnypants]

women are actually much nicer, willing to talk, start conversations, but without the band treat a guy like a pirraha?

Just curious


DDQM

[Richardo]

1. Piranha or Pariah?

Whichever - I'd say they rightly assume that any single guy will sooner or later hit on them and they're just raising their shields until they get a lay of the land.

There. Mix enough metaphors for ya? :-)

[commander bunnypants]

3. Spelling Schmelling

DDQM

[ScreamingMeemie]

2. Thrill of the chase?...some woman-friends of mine included- like

to flirt with married men, in some twisted competition. Kind of like, I can have any man I want. I don't know, it seems that way to me. The stitch for me is when we are out and about and cashiers and waitresses treat my husband like a God, and me like a jar of baby food. Okay, maybe it's not a stitch, but I notice.

[ewagner]

5. Married men are "safe" n/t

[hussar]

4. Strange experience

There is a woman at college that came on to me, sat by me and gave me loads of signals, I was polite and played along a bit next couple of days later she must have noticed the band on my pinky.

She freaks out accusing me of being married like I had tried to keep it a secret, women eh?
:shrug:

[av8rdave]

6. I think it's because

a married man is "safe." Unless he's a philanderer (sp?) she can have a conversation with him without having to worry about what he will expect or press for.

Just a theory

av8rdave

[XNASA]

7. Think so?

I hardly ever wear my wedding band, except on our anniversary, or to weddings, etc.

I've never noticed the difference either way, to tell the truth.

Besides, Demman, "all" women are nice regardless. Isn't that what you mean?

:hi:

[commander bunnypants]

8. of course

except for one or two.

BAWhahah

DDQM

[FreedomSpirit]

11. Very diplomatic

nyuk nyuk

[ProfessorGAC]

13. I Always Wear My Ring And Women Are NEVER Nice To Me

I don't think i look trustworthy or something. Too swarthy? Or maybe just too short? Maybe just look like a psycho? Dunno!

When i played in the band regularly, it was always "the other guy" the girls thought was the hottie. Never me, except once in a great while, some heavy set "mommy" type would flirt with me. Maybe they thought i needed saving. The ring didn't seem to matter and it was always in plain sight.
The Professor

[XNASA]

14. Maybe it's your sense of direction.

Hehehe.

:hi:

[ProfessorGAC]

15. Hey! I Could Get Lost In A Phone Booth

I don't try to hide that fact. It just is, what it is!
The Professor

[FreedomSpirit]

9. Maybe because

he's perceived as being less likely to hit on women sexually because he's "spoken for"?

That's not necessarily true in my experience (as a female) but it may be an underlying perception for many. There are lots of married men who don't wear wedding bands for various reasons and I wonder if they observe this phenomenon as well.

[hussar]

12. I wore a wedding ring for ages

when I was married the first time but I jumped out of a truck one day and it caught on a piece of metal and nearly took my finger off!

De-gloving I think the medical term is, I had to go to the hopital and have the ring cut off with a special cutter that just happened to be blunt.

[SOteric]

10. I don't think anyone knows for sure, but I submit for consideration

that most 'married' men broadcast a sense of themselves that isn't on the prowl, isn't sexually intimidating (and the same could be said of gay men with regard to women). While men who are available, even eager for female attention can broadcast some fairly uninviting vibes.

Sometimes a woman just wants to have a nice conversation with a guy, but the fear, the baggage of whether this is going to lead to some sort of unwelcome sexual attention can be inhibiting.

In short, people are funny.

[radwriter0555]

16. Because you aren't a threat if you're not on the prowl, so to speak..

as a marked man, you're emotionally 'safe'.

[phaseolus]

17. Speaking of womens' flirting --

What am I supposed to make of women who touch a lot?? Maybe a woman who just smiles more than usual while constantly touching my hand and forearm... or that one waitress who caressed my face for some reason.

So... are they on the prowl? Is it just how they talk to men? Or do they perhaps get a kick out of making slightly shy guys turn red and start stuttering??

I've always assumed it's *not* choice #1, just to avoid getting slapped.

It doesn't happen to me all that much, but often enough to make me think "what the hell just happened?" a couple minutes later...