If you insulted your next-door neighbor,

[Beware the Beast Man]

would you apologize to someone across town?

I wouldn't.

[ScreamingMeemie]

1. Depends on the circumstances...but I will say I'm glad that I've

been so wrapped up in myself that I haven't been here enough to really know what's going on...because the whole thing sounds ridiculous.

[Beware the Beast Man]

4. It's a principle thing.

[SOteric]

5. MrsG!!!!

How're ya doin' cutie? :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

21. I'm okay. Dreading Thursday...sick about Friday...and now playing

George Jones on my CD drive now that whoisalhedges put it in my head. :hug: Good to see you.

[auntAgonist]

12. hiya Mrs G

hope you're doing ok.
I don't have a clue what's going on here, and gladly so!

:hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

22. I'm okay.

Just waiting. And freezing foods for the Grumpy family. :hi:

[Bullwinkle925]

2. ??

:shrug:

[SOteric]

3. That very much depends

on whether the person across town was in any way involved with or a witness to the insult.

[Beware the Beast Man]

7. Yeah, the guy across the street was passing though on his morning jog.

He happened to see the whole thing, but that's about it. The neighbor was insulting the other neighbor, but he apologized to the jogger. :wtf:

[SOteric]

11. Then yeah, I think it's appropriate and called for to apologise

to a random stranger for exposing him/her/them to one's petty disputes.

But then I was raised that way. :shrug:

[Beware the Beast Man]

13. dupe

[Beware the Beast Man]

14. No, you don't understand.

Said neighbor did not offer an apology to the insultee at all. Just the guy across the street.

[SOteric]

16. I think I do.

Frex, let's say Fred called George (I don't know why I enjoy seeing people named George insulted, it's a personal thing) a goat-sucking, monkey-blowing poo-flinger out on the front lawn one Saturday morning. Just as the epithet was being hurled, Frank came jogging by and got an earfull.

So what you're saying is Fred didn't apologise to George for calling him a goat-sucking, monkey-blowing, poo-flinger. But Fred did apologise to Frank for losing his temper in public and exposing him to the unpleasant exchange when he was plainly just jogging by minding his own business.

[Beware the Beast Man]

19. Let's broaden the scope some.

Fred apologized to the townspeople at one of their weekly meetings. When George decided to give Fred a call saying it was all good, maybe I didn't approach you the right way and He was sorry as well, yadayadayada, he discovered, to his shock, that Fred was not accepting his phone calls, nor would he ever. Makes the apology somewhat disingenuous.

[SOteric]

20. I still don't see it that way.

But I'm alright with agreeing to disagree here. I think it might be cultural.

My parents were Europeans and brought us up with very European
manners.

I think my own mother would have encouraged me to apologise to the local folks for behaving like an ass. But, especially if George had managed to piss me off in the past, or with some regularity, she'd no doubt have encouraged me to ignore him.

I've been known to apologise to my students when they had to witness a fellow student's bad behaviour and forceable removal from class. I'm not sorry that I've had the young offender removed, and if any one is doing any apologising in that interaction I very much hope it will be said hooligan. But that does not lessen the disruption to their studies nor the fact that they've had to witness an unpleasant exchange.

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[petronius]

28. Well, if I found that Fred wasn't taking my calls,

I wouldn't announce that to the whole town, either. At most, I would ask a mutual friend to mediate, and if it turned out that Fred was in an unforgiving and uncommunicative mood, I would call that Fred's problem (and not really town business)...

All in all, it's a rather tempestuous teapot.

[Beware the Beast Man]

29. Like I said, it's not just George, it's the whole damn block.

George is passionate. He wants to communicate with Fred, but at this point, it seems pointless.

[JimmyJazz]

27. BINGO!

:)

[HEyHEY]

6. Well, I probably owe someone there an apology anyway

[Beware the Beast Man]

9. Damn right, assface.

:hi:

[ismnotwasm]

8. I love my next door neighbors

It's the crackheads across the street I can't stand. I ignore 'em. My husband insults them. We call them the liceheads. No apology needed, trust me. I enjoy it everytime one of them goes to jail, which is every other week or so

[sundog]

10. ..

:spray:

[jpgray]

15. I hate these word problems (nt)

[hfojvt]

17. if the guy across town

was a beast man, I might apologize just to be safe. I understand you need to beware of them, and you never know when your next door neighbor is their bestest friend ever. :hide:

[no name no slogan]

18. No, I would invade Iraq instead.

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[Beware the Beast Man]

25. It's so American to expect an apology when one insults you.

:eyes:

[barb162]

26. hell no

[progmom]

30. I'm still trying to understand why I insulted my neighbor,

:shrug:

[Moderator]

31. I'm locking this thread

reason :

continuation of a locked flamewar