Simba is sick again. Taking him to the vet.

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

He vomited green bile this morning and then hid under the china hutch. I got him to come out with the promise of "treats," but he wouldn't eat any of them; he just sat and purred at me (at least he's purring). I always worry myself sick over him with these incidents and don't know what's wrong with him; the vets always seem stumped, too. This is a new vet for him; we'll see if this guy has any answers.

Monty is also going; I found a tapeworm on his leg yesterday (YUCK). I've seen no signs of fleas in the house, and they don't ever go outside, so I don't know what's up with him.

My husband is like Bush in that he never wants to hear bad news. I was fretting about Simba this morning and he told me not to talk about it. When I get cancer (and I have every expectation that I eventually will) I don't know how he'll handle it.

[Midlodemocrat]

1. What makes you think that you

are going to get cancer?

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

2. I know I don't eat right; I'm trying to work on that.

My mom died of colon cancer and my sister of breast cancer. I'm proactive about screening for these things, though, so hopefully I can ward them off.

Yes, I'm a negative thinker! Trying to work on that, too!

[Midlodemocrat]

4. Please do work on eating right and

think positively!!!! There is a good chance that you will escape having the dreaded big 'c'.

:hug:

[kick-ass-bob]

3. "When I get cancer (and I have every expectation that I eventually will)"

well, with that kind of attitude, I have no doubt either.

It seems like you thrive on bad news, and that might be why your husband doesn't want to hear any, because you bring up too much.

Obviously, I don't know any of this for sure, and this was unsolicited, but I think you need to see someone and get some help.

:hug:

[Patiod]

6. Nonsense.

My boss died of a very nasty genetic type of ovarian cancer which killed her mother, her grandmother, and an aunt (there are highly genetic types, and more random types). Her three daughters each have a greater than 50% chance of getting either ovarian or breast cancer - two have already married very young so they could have a family and "get everything taken out". If they assume they are going to get cancer, it allows them to make sensible plans based on their chances. This has nothing to do with "attitude" but a sensible approach to their family history and current science on genetics and cancer.

I have four or five large dysplastic nevi (irregular moles) on my chest and stomach. My derm told me that each has about a 50% chance of becoming cancerous. Am I going to die of cancer? Who knows? Am I going to GET cancer? A bsolutely.

You look at the odds like the OP feels she has, it allows you make sensible choices about when to bear children, what to eat, getting regular check-ups and/or tests and keeping a job you hate that has good medical coverage, etc.

Not to beat up on you, either, KAB

Realism does not equal "thriving on bad news" or needing help

[kick-ass-bob]

8. I beg to differ.

Negativity does not equal realism, correct.

Say I have a 60% chance of getting cancer.

A realist says I have a 60% chance of getting cancer, let me do what I can to reduce those risks.

A negative person says I am getting cancer.

Plus, I am not basing the "negativity" based on this one post.

[SoCalDem]

9. I knew a young woman once who had a double mastectomy

at age 26.. Elective surgery.. EVERY female relative over 40 had gotten breast cancer..her Momth had ovarian cancer as well, and an aunt had uterine cancer.

Sarah was so freaked out, that she deliberately had and breast fed her 3 kids by the time she was 25, and then sought out doctors who woild "remove her girlie parts" (as she called them).. She had to undergo psychiatric counselling, and more than a few doctors said she was crazy, but she finally found a doctor who did it for her, and did a hysterectomy.. He actually repositioned the one ovary he left her with, so that they could carefully monitor her..

We moved away, but I have often wondered how she fared..

She would lay awake nights from worry that she might not live to see her kids grown up..

She was so much happier when she was "rid of those things"...She said that if she got cancer later on, she would at least have the satisfaction that she tried everything to avoid it.. (and she was a health nut before it was in vogue)

[bertha katzenengel]

5. keep us updated, D-K

Why do you expect that you will get cancer?

Strange . . . I am the same way when it's not my pet - can't stand to hear of the suffering - but in our house, I am the cat nurse and I do the vet runs. :shrug:

[miss_kitty]

7. hey I never expected I'd get cancer

and even when I had it and didn't know-it was the furthest thing from my mind as to what was troubling me.

I hope it works that way for you-that is that you expect and it NEVER comes. Try to get genetic testing-maybe that'll put your mind at ease...a lot of stuff happens during meiosis-the genes you suspect you have may have been masked

Good luck honey :hi: I hope things get better for you. you seem very sad.