Women: would you marry a shorter guy?

[luckyluke]

...assuming you like him otherwise.

[onebigbadwulf]

1. I would never date a taller woman

short tiny girls with giant racks get me the hottest

[Kathy in Cambridge]

8. Sarcasm on, right?

[ablbodyed]

2. Yeah but it's the....

total (height + ....) that's important. Spoken from the full extention of my 5'5" Adonis-like physique.

[luckyluke]

3. I'm 5'4"

It's not an issue to me, but the general perception seems to be that it's a big deal to women.

-ll

[ablbodyed]

5. It's also a big deal with the voters....

Poor DK on his platform behind the podium. Love what he says though, sounds like a real progressive. BTW when did advocating helping people become a cudgel?

[phaseolus]

12. ...which is why Dubya

...insisted on some stupid rules for his televised "debates" in 2000. IIRC they stood on opposite sides of the room for one debate, and wer seated at a table for the other.

Even though he's something like 6'0", Gore is an inch or two taller. Rove didn't want them standing too close to each other.

Getting back to the general women & height thing, I've noticed that if you're tall, women will give you a second glance even if you're bald. Of course they always ran the other way when they found out I had no money...

[luckyluke]

13. Presidents...

...from Lincoln (193 centimetres, or 6ft 4in) through Clinton (188 centimetres, or 6ft 2in) to George W. Bush (183 centimetres, or 6ft) have been taller than the average American male.

[DemBones DemBones]

47. I don't believe George W.Bush is 6'0" except in Karl Rove's dreams

I don't think he's more than 5'7", 5'8". I don't care how tall a man is but I don't like it when they lie about their height.

[buddhamama]

4. i answered no, but i'm only five feet

but then again i can't be sure.
i haven't met any men shorter than me.

[Catfish]

17. Same here

I'm about 5'3" and don't think I've met an adult male shorter than I am. If I did, I didn't notice and I really don't think I care about a man's height. There are plenty of other more important qualities, such as sanity.

[amazona]

30. at 5'2 I've certainly met (and dated) shorter men

I don't think there are any young people as short as I am, not even the women. But as I'm an older model, there were certainly shorter men in my generation, especially Asian men. I don't think I would ever be interested in a serious relationship with a much taller man because it is literally a pain in the neck to keep looking up...also I would worry about being smooshed.

[Catfish]

45. I agree

about the looking up, especially if it's way up. Slow dancing with a very tall guy is also awkward. Although I can't say that dancing seems to happen very often. My ex gained a lot of weight over a 7 year period and I can say that getting smooshed toward the end of our relationship wasn't very appealing. However, I can't see how any one physical characteristic could turn me off enough to not find someone appealing. However, attraction is a mysterious process, not sure how it works for me.

[mwdem]

6. I'm 5'10", and it doesn't matter to me...

My spouse is one inch shorter than me, and I tower over him in heels. When I was single, I dated men of all heights, short, medium & tall. It made no difference.

[greatauntoftriplets]

14. I am also 5' 10"

and as someone once said to me "We are all the same size in bed".

[mwdem]

15. You've got that right!!

*

[luckyluke]

19. My problem...

...is getting there!

[Kathy in Cambridge]

7. I'm married to a 6-footer, but always liked shorter guys

I'm 5'4" and usually liked guys just a little taller than me. I just happened to fall in love with the tallest of six brothers. I love short men!

[bicentennial_baby]

9. I'm only 5'2" so...

he has to be at least as tall as me, unless he's a really cool dwarf :P

[WeirdSceneGoldmine]

10. It's not the physique

It's the physics and chemistry with a dash of luck and charm.

[Kat45]

11. I voted no because I'm only 5'1"

It's hard to imagine being with a guy shorter than me, but I don't think I've ever met one anyway.

[Rhiannon12866]

16. Yes, as long as he wasn't ridiculously shorter than I am

I mean, if he came only up to my armpit, I think the stares we'd get would bother me.:D

On the other hand, I'm 5' 5", so I think I'd be pretty safe even if I fancied a jockey, LOL!:7

[bleedingheart]

18. Never dated a guy shorter than me...

at 5' 5" I am of average height for a woman and most men are taller than me....

my hubby is over 6'

[tjdee]

20. Men---would you date an overweight woman?

Is that the same sort of question?

I'm guessing not, because you can't help your height.

But it's kind of a similar concern...I think...

[luckyluke]

21. True, but men are more diverse

What you say is true to an extent, but men are more diverse in their preferences. For every guy who digs skinny chicks, there is another one who likes 'big butts'.

Women seem to be much more consistent in their preference for taller guys.

-ll

[tjdee]

23. But taller than 5'1 isn't asking for much, LOL.

I think it's hard to say....I mean, do you mean taller as in "taller than me"? Or taller as in around six feet?

In the interests of self-disclosure: My usual 'dating type' of man is tall('er' than me) and thin. (I hate 'types', but anyway!) But, Bono, :loveya: , the sun and moon of my celebrity boyfriend universe, is 5'7. I would never pass someone like him up for something as silly as height.

[Zero Division]

29. Alright! Another cool celeb the same hight as myself!

John Stewart is also 5'7".

I've also thought that a significant number of women would find me more attractive if I was just a few inches taller.

[SOteric]

22. I'm not really marriage-minded.

But if I loved some dude enough to be suckered into thinking marriage wasn't such a bad idea...then his height wouldn't really matter.

[hlthe2b]

24. Yes, certainly.... but..

he needs to be "comfortable in his own skin." Nothing worse than someone carrying insecurities as a big chip on their shoulder...

Oh, and also needs a sense of humor (and enough intelligence to vote Democratic) -- or at least non-republican/libertarian.

[populistmom]

25. I don't know

I'd like to think I could be more evolved than that. I mean, I really have a thing for taller men (like in the close to 6 foot+ range) and I married a guy who was 5'8 1/2" (I'm just short of 5'5"), but I never lost that tall thing. I suppose I could because in a way I already have gone for a man shorter than what I'm usually attracted to, but the height thing is definately something I really like. Sorry, but I know there are probably certain features about me that some men wouldn't prefer either.

[GOPisEvil]

26. Sigh...I fight this all the time as a (relatively) short guy...

I try not to hold anything against a person that they have no control over, and I've gone out with women taller than myself. It's all about the package. :-)

Edit - I realize this is a thread for ladies, but dammit - this thread needed a man's touch. ;-) Oh, and I'm 5'8" or so.

[Rhiannon12866]

31. My grandfather was 5' 8" or 9" and he was a very handsome

thickset Irishman. He married my grandmother, who was a knockout for her time, and she was 5' 7", considered extremely tall, back then. She appeared taller than he was in their wedding photos. They had a great marriage and four successful kids. 5' 8" is a lot taller than most women. Your height doesn't matter in the slightest if you find the right person who cares about you.:-)

[buddhamama]

44. this may not mean much coming from a woman

who is 5' tall but i think 5'8" 5'9" is a perfect height.
You're package is :thumbsup:

[GOPisEvil]

52. Thank you both!

:pals::hi:

[bloom]

27. I'm 5'3"

My first boyfriend in high school was about an inch shorter and I think that was as tall as he got.

I've noticed that I attract short men.

Taller men don't seem to notice me at all.



P.S. - my husband is perhaps 5'8" - but it really doesn't matter to me.

[politicat]

28. sure, but that would make him pretty short... I'm 5'4".

Of course, Mr. Politicat is 6'3", but I didn't marry him for his ability to reach the top shelf. I *do* have a step-stool.

If Mr. Politicat died, I'd consider a short man.

Pcat

[brook]

32. Height was never an issue for me.

But since I've had multiple husbands of multiple heights, I guess I'm no expert. Seriously...there are much more important considerations. It's the contents - not the *package*.

[sasquatch]

33. My Grosspapa's mom was over a foot taller than his dad.

:wow:I still can't believe it when I see pictures to this day.

[luckyluke]

34. Wow, look at the poll results!

At this time, women who don't care about height *at all* (the last option) outnumber women who care (all the other options put together!)

That's pretty amazing, I had not expected that.

Wonder if this is peculiar to liberal women or true of the general population? I'm guessing the former.

-ll

[WeirdSceneGoldmine]

35. I can't believe there's no bites on the six inches option

I don't mean that literally but it was such an obvious opening...wait I don't mean "opening" in that sense either but whqt I'm trying to say is size doesn't matter unless it does.

[corarose]

36. I am 5"4 so a guy shorter then me would have to be one of AC/DC

And yes I have dated men shorter then me.

They are allot easer to beat up if they get out of line.

Nudge Nudge Wink Wink Know what I mean!

[Sibanetta]

37. Short guys

I did marry a guy who's shorter than me...but hey, we're the same size lying down!

[Rhiannon12866]

38. Welcome to DU, Sibanetta!

We're glad to have you among us!:-)

[chefgirl]

39. Sure I would

It would be kind of hard to find one though. Im 5'0" and I dont think I've ever met a man shorter than me.
I've dated lots of guys around 5'4"-5'7" though. I tend to find smaller men intriguing. :shrug:

-chef-

[unblock]

40. mrs unblock DID marry a shorter man

only by an inch, but when she wear heels, it very obvious.

we find it's 100% irrelevant to anything whatsoever.

[annonymous]

41. My husband is one inch shorter than I am.

I am 5'6" and he is 5'5".

[Individualist]

42. I did marry a shorter guy,

divorced him 3 years later (not because he was short).

[He loved Big Brother]

43. YES

I've dates 2 zillion guys. Height doesn't matter. Weight matters if it's over 25 lbs overweight or 1 pound underweight. Hair color matters, it has to be dark(er).

Physically, height is one of the least important factors to me.

[Logansquare]

46. Mr. Logansquare is one inch shorter than me

We could actually wear each others cloths if we were so inclined. Only real disadvantage is that it seems a taller man can "lead" more effectively during couples dancing; probably because they can lean down and apply a little more leverage.

[Speck Tater]

48. As a 5'5" male I can tell you that...

... most women will say the politically correct thing, but do just the opposite. That was my experience anyway.

That said, my second ex-wife was an inch taller than me. She was the exception to the above rule.

[johnnie]

49. As another 5'5" male...

I say you are absolutly correct.

[Cush]

50. damn straight

I'm a 5'5/5'6 male

I remember seeing something about this on one of the 'nightly news magazines' a few years ago (I think it was 20/20). THey did a survey/study thing......the short guys were always last, etc. (it was about more than just dating)

Someone said its one of the last forms of discrmination

[Feanorcurufinwe]

51. 5'4" and in total agreement

That's just the way polling is. There is always a skew toward the PC answer.

[chaska]

53. 5' 9" checking in.

My last girlfriend was an 1/8" taller than me, but in the clogs she always wore she was a couple inches taller. She tortured me about it a bit. But then she tortured me about everything. I never considered myself short until her. She pointed out that most everybody (mostly women) in the office we worked in was taller than me. She really was not a very nice person.

About the differences between what women say an what they do, I think that has a lot to do with whether they know you or not. If you ask out a stranger, unless she finds something about you compelling, she may reject you on the basis of any "flaw" that's handy - and height is pretty obvious. If she knows you, and likes you, height will not be as likely to matter.