Alright, enuf's enuf. I am sick of this existence, and want a better life.

[CanuckAmok]

So now what?

I can't stand my career field, and it's in decline anyway.

I can't afford retraining at the moment, and I don't even know where to start considering what field would interest me.

I don't want to be in a relationship, but I don't want to be single, either.

Casual sex is for punk-teenagers.

I don't have enough, in the flesh, friends.

I'm really fucking broke, and will be for some time (probably at least two years). Debt is a constant burden.

I don't feel like I'm living; I'm existing.

I'm blue.

This isn't a "cry for help"... this is me inquiring how to turn my life around.

So, I repeat, now what?

[Tsiyu]

1. Vitamins?

Or you could go hold a Sex Without Partners meeting.

Those are nice.

[RandomKoolzip]

2. If Camus is correct, the meaning of life is to relieve sufferring from

others...that is, if one isn't already sufferring so much that one cannot acheive that. What I would do in the short term is to go to a bookstore and find something to get engrossed in. Tomorrow, inquire about volunteering at some place that needs help...the local Red Cross, or maybe The Salvation Army.


I'd also look for a therapist who'll work on a sliding scale.

You can also consider moving to Chicago! I'd like a few more in the fleah friends myself around here, plus rent is cheap and jobs are plantiful, and it's a big-ass hotbed of working-class liberalism (the best kind).

In the meantime, hang in there, and take care of yourself, man. :hug:

[pitohui]

3. how radical do you want to go?

quit or somehow arrange to get laid off the job, go back to school or re-train, and declare bankruptcy so the debt won't be a burden

a friend was actually able to get her boss to lay her off her dead-end job, she was then able to get grants for college as well as unemployment insurance, by the time unemployment ran out, business had improved for her boss & he re-hired her for part-time work, so she has a bit of cash & will soon be graduating w. a shiny new degree

can you try something like that?

if you don't want a relationship, then i don't see what option you have to casual sex, just use a rubber & don't be so negative, you are entitled to pleasure

be good to yrself

[OneGrassRoot]

4. Oh god.........

you just wrote how I feel. Existing. And so very alone on so many levels. Really, I can identify with everything you wrote except for two things: I have a child for whom I feel completely responsible, which actually adds to the feeling of despair (though keeps me here).....I haven't experienced the casual sex thing enough to feel it's for punk-teenagers.....:eyes:

I'm in the midst of bankruptcy and just found out I owe several thousand in taxes, too late to be included in the bankruptcy....joy, joy, joy. Though that's really the least of the list of crap, for lack of a better word.

All this is to say, I have no suggestions.....but you are not alone. Doesn't make the pain/grief/desperation any less, I know....but I'll send you a huge cyber hug, just because......:hug:

[Deja Q]

5. Are you around age 33?

I'm in the same boat as you. Point per point. Literally. Right down to the debt too. Not just debt, but the feeling of merely existing.

I've had enough of IT and am looking at graphic design.

Doesn't matter what we choose to do; will there be jobs in that field?