Who wants a kid?

[xmas74]

My kid is snuggled under my covers, whining like there is no tomorrow. She doesn't like her dinner(pork chops, home made applesauce, baked sweet potatoes, salad, steamed brocoli and peach cobbler-all her favorites). She has been crying since 4 pm. She doesn't like anything right now and she has let me know this at every opportunity.
I'm ready to strangle her.

[JimmyJazz]

1. Is she sick?

[xmas74]

3. Probably.

No temp yet but grouchy like you wouldn't believe. And about a quarter of her class is out right now because of flu-like symptoms.

I'm pretty sure she doesn't feel well but I still want to kill her. She's pushing every last button.

[JimmyJazz]

6. I'm sorry. I know how that can be.

My youngest is going through a phase where screaming bloody murder is the requisite response to the least little thing that goes wrong.

Just look at her sweet face, know that she is hurting and reach inside yourself to find the patience you need right now. :)

on edit: or take the advice of name not needed :)

[xmas74]

13. I tried meditating earlier

but she screamed at me instead. She is now c/o a headache. Probably catching the local bug.

[Throckmorton]

75. My god, my god, she has the bird flu.

Save yourself, run!!!!!!

[xmas74]

78. Doesn't everyone?

How soon until the quarantine is in place?

[yvr girl]

2. I'll take the dinner

Sounds great to me.

[xmas74]

4. It's her favorite dinner.

The chops are a very nice cut(special at the grocer this week) and the cobbler is always home made(no frozen in our house).
I even made her some vanilla ice cream two days ago for the cobbler tonight.

[name not needed]

5. Get the taser

[xmas74]

7. I used to work w/ some officers.

I can easily get a taser. Might even let me borrow it and call it a charity case.

[matcom]

8. SURE! I'll Take Her!

:evilgrin:

yeah, *I'LL* whip her into shape :D

[xmas74]

9. She'll bring you some beer and cookies.

I have some Sam Adams in the fridge. And you can have her dinner if you'd like. She'd also love it if you let her play video games full of violence and nudity.

[yvr girl]

10. Do NOT give your daughter to this man!

Matcom, I'm sure she too young - even for you.

:spank:

[xmas74]

11. She's only five.

But she would share all of her meals and spare change w/ him. She'd bribe him w/ it if he'll let her play video games.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

12. can i have the dinner

i am cooking dinner for my family and its not that exciting!

[xmas74]

17. Sure!

If you're ever in MO drop by. We try to cook like this all the time. I like her meals to be balanced.

[mrcheerful]

14. hmmmmmmmmmmm want a 14 yo?

Wait until they turn 14 and want to stay up all night and sleep all day. BTW, expect them to disappear when its time for chores. Or hearing ok, I'll get it done, just give me time. Or having to ground them for weed sucking with their half siblings. Fun fun fun roflmao.

[xmas74]

19. Five is bad enough.

I know what I was like when I was fourteen(sneaking out of my bedroom window, running around w/ older guys, smoking pot and drinking). I'm not looking forward to that stage.

[DS1]

15. Small white child?

Shit, I could get 14 grand for that!

Does she have all her teeth?

[yvr girl]

20. A true capitalist

How much extra can you get for a complete set of teeth?

[DS1]

27. It's not so much an extra, as it's more about less deductions

like rust on a car

:hide:

[xmas74]

22. Yep.

But they found one cavity the other day. Her first one.
You could make some decent profit off of her hair alone-long, blonde and curly.

[bigwillq]

16. Yummy Dinner!

Save some for me.:hi:

I'll pass on the kid.:)

[xmas74]

23. It's now in the fridge.

Come on over and pick it up!

[bigwillq]

24. Be there in a sec!

:)

[xmas74]

26. Cool!

[Maddy McCall]

18. I bet she's not feeling well...

but you can ship her over here. I'll make her some liver and onions, and she'll be GLAD to come home. :D

[JimmyJazz]

21. Benedryl really comes in handy for these kinds of things.

The kid might need some, too. (bad, bad JJ who will now resume posting lame copycat threads...)

[xmas74]

28. She has a prescription

but it's not working right now. Might be allergies-we've had alot of rain lately.

[Tallison]

74. Benadryl's good because it's safely sedating

Psychiatrists prescribed it to kids in the psych hospital I worked at as a calming agent. Perfectly safe and effective.

[Maddy McCall]

32. Tell me about it.

And, seriously, she might be having some allergies to ragweed or other fall pollens. So Benedryl just might be what she needs.

[xmas74]

25. Nope-she likes liver and onions.

Her grandma makes it for her and she loves it-especially liver gravy for her mashed potatoes. She'd probably stay if you made her that.

[Maddy McCall]

33. Well. Hmmmm....let me think.

Sardines with mustard and diced onions. Smeared on stale Saltines. Tell her that's what Aunt MM is going to fix for her. :D

[xmas74]

35. Stale saltines-no.

Sardines w/ mustard and onions-yes. We have sardine meals when it is too hot to cook in the summertime. She likes them best w/ either mustard or hot sauce.

[Maddy McCall]

36. I am going to adopt your kid. Just bring her over with her clothes...

and stuff.

She is a girl after MM's own heart. Even my non-particular son won't touch liver or sardines. :D

[xmas74]

38. She's an odd one.

Of course she's my child. I've never met another child who will eat sardines or anchovies. And she loves liver(I don't like it. I was anemic as a child and it was constantly forced on me). She also likes to eat a whole raw onion like an apple(and it's not a Vidalia-just an old yellow onion) and she eats kraut in mass amounts.
Strange little girl but I'm proud of her.

[Arugula Latte]

155. Man -- at least your five-year-old eats well usually.

My daughter is that age and it is a constant battle even to get her to eat halfway decent food. She is stubborn as hell, but also cute as hell if I do say so myself.

[WCGreen]

70. I like liver and onions.....

[xmas74]

73. Can't stand it.

I had to eat it as a child(supposed to boost iron levels). I hated it then and I hate it now. But she loves it.

[WCGreen]

77. If you fry it up with Bacon and Onions......

Yum Yum.....

[xmas74]

81. That's the way it was made while I was growing up.

I hate the smell. Brings back long nights of sitting at the dinner table until I finally ate my meal. The food was cold and congealed-disgusting!

[WCGreen]

84. Did you have to eat stewed tomatos with it.......

[xmas74]

89. Brussel sprouts

[WCGreen]

95. Worse...

[xmas74]

99. They stink up the entire house!

[WCGreen]

107. Yea, they do....

Kinda makes you wonder just how hungry the first guy who ate them must have been.....

[xmas74]

111. They're related to the cabbage

and I like cabbage. I don't really know why I don't like brussel sprouts. Maybe they bring back bad memories.

[WCGreen]

114. They have a much harsher taste than Cabbage...

I like fresh cabbage in my salad...

And sauerkraut is great too.....

Damn we have stimulating conversations now don't we....

[xmas74]

116. Yes we do.

Now I want some kraut. Maybe I need to make some brats in the next day or so.

[WCGreen]

122. Get some Fresh Kielbasa, not the smoked.....

Poke some holes in the skin with a fork...

Boiled it up for about 15-20 minutes to get some of the fat out...

Take that and toss in a baking dish, cover it up with Kraut, sprinlke some carroway seeds over it and top it off with sliced apples...

Cover and bake at 325 for about 45 - 50 minutes....

Oh baby....

[xmas74]

124. I make that too!

And I serve it w/ German mustard on the side. It's sooooooooooo good!

[WCGreen]

125. Will you marry me.....

[xmas74]

128. not looking for marriage at this time.

But always looking for someone who has an appreciation for some decent sausage meals. We make alot of sausage in this house because I grew up on it and Callie loves it.

[WCGreen]

129. In my culinary excitement, I forgot, I'm Married....

[xmas74]

131. I'm sure you did.

Can't help it when you talk about comfort food.
Most of mine seems to be the old German farmer meals that you would get in Central and Northern WI. Something that warms you up and sticks to your ribs.

[WCGreen]

136. Yea, and the fact the Mrs. has to look up the recipe for

hard boiled eggs....

That might have been a factor....

[xmas74]

137. Oh my.

Boil for five minutes, cover and let set for 17 minutes. Perfect eggs every time.

[WCGreen]

138. This is why we eat at the country club and a lot of pizza...

If I don;t cook, it don't get made......

I love to cook, it;s so much fun...

[xmas74]

139. I get in moods to cook.

I do it whether I want to or not but sometimes I find something that excites me and really makes me want to cook.

[WCGreen]

140. You know we have hijacked your thread.....

I love to cook with sauces, try new things,,, New combinations....

[xmas74]

141. I know-we usually do.

I like to try foreign cuisine. I've really wanted to try something Middle Eastern for a while now but am afraid of the reception my daughter will give it.

[WCGreen]

142. Just ease into it.... Try cucumber sauce on a ham and cheese

sandwhich.....

[xmas74]

143. That's a thought.

And now I hear her stirring in her room. Time to log off.
Have a good night. I think I'll be in for a long night of snuggles.

[WCGreen]

144. Good for you.... that sounds like a great way to end a day,,,,

[YellowRubberDuckie]

93. Hadn't your parents heard of IRON PILLS?

Jeez. I hate it when parents force feed their kids shit food that makes them gag. I still can't eat Beans and Cornbread because of this. If you hate Brussel sprouts, why the fuck would you make a kid eat them? Some parents are clueless.
Duckie

[xmas74]

100. I took ferrous sulfate too.

My family loves liver and onions. They also like brussel sprouts.
According to them, I was the picky one and I had to learn a lesson.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

101. Sounds like my parents.

God, I hate that. No wonder my mother's not invited to my wedding. Well that and other stuff, but i'm mostly bitter about the food. ;)
Duckie

[xmas74]

104. I'm bitter over other things.

There are many memories that I have that have been conveniently forgotten by everyone else.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

105. Same here...but i was trying to keep the mood light.

[xmas74]

115. i just don't go into them.

I'd need years of therapy to straighten it all out.

[LisaL]

29. You can adopt me. I would like me some pork chops and salad.

[xmas74]

30. Cobbler comes w/ it.

And you may come over anytime. I think I'll be making a pot of chicken soup tomorrow.
She's got a whole plate of untouched food in the fridge. Help yourself.

[JimmyJazz]

31. Don't be fooled. Once she mentioned "cobbler," I knew

she was really serving the kid some Kid's Cuisine - it's a trap, I tell you. :o

[xmas74]

34. Nope-cobbler is easy to make.

I use a crumb topping instead of a crust.
Kid's Cuisine is a treat in this house. Her favorite is the chicken nugget one. She gets it once a month.

[Shine]

37. It's hard to be a parent sometimes, huh?

It's not for the faint-hearted, that's for sure!

It's sounds like she's probably getting sick, poor thing.

Hang in there and remember: "This, too, shall pass..."

:hi:
Shine

[xmas74]

39. Thank you!

I think she's catching the local bug. About a quarter of her class is out w/ it right now. Must be her turn.

[tigereye]

43. distracting video?

That's what I used to use when mine was coming down with something or he was driving me to distraction. Thank you video gods!

no fun when they are cranky and hard to chill out...

[xmas74]

45. Nothing is working right now.

She's snuggled up in my bed. I think she wants to go to sleep but she's fighting it.

[tigereye]

47. yeah that's hard when they really need to sleep and they won't

have any bubbles handy? :)

[xmas74]

49. Yes.

I don't think that will even work tonight. She's quiet for the moment so it might be over w/.

[ReadTomPaine]

40. "Hey, you got change for an eight-year-old?"

;)



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[xmas74]

42. I don't know.

This is a sick five year old. What's wrong w/ your eight year old?

[Debi]

41. Only if you'll take a 16-year-old ! n/t

[xmas74]

44. Not if the 16 year old is anything like I was at that age!

[Debi]

46. Actually he keeps suprising me

I was BAAAAAAAD when I was a kid and my older brother was an angel. Now my kid is really good...think my brother will have monsters?

Anyway, as much as I love my son, I won't want to go through the younger years again thankyouverymuch.

(Any cobbler left?)

[xmas74]

48. I don't want to go through them again either.

Drugs and sex was what I lived for at that age.

And yes, there is still some cobbler left.

[Debi]

50. I meant younger kids

the ones between 2 and 10!

This whole puberty and teenager thing has not been as bad as the twos and threes (and pre-school and kindergarten).

Nope, I like the "I don't need you except to feed me, drive me and do my laundry" age.

[xmas74]

51. I didn't know if she would make it to her fourth birthday.

She drove me crazy.

[GreenPartyVoter]

52. Mine have been pulling the same thing with us lately. *hugs*

[xmas74]

55. thank you.

I need it right now.

[renate]

53. try a backrub

First you give her one, then somebody gives you one.

I love rubbing my kids' backs--it soothes me as much as it does them. Mainly because when I rub their backs they're quiet....

[xmas74]

56. didn't work.

she's still whining but now it's about going to bed.
And there is no one else here to give me a backrub.

[renate]

148. your daughter might really love giving you a backrub

Well, it can't hurt to ask!

Kids--especially kids that age--really really get a kick out of doing something easy, useful, and important like that.

From your posts on this thread it sounds like your daughter likes to help out--give it a try!

[Tallison]

79. Awww, sweet thought

I used to love it when my mom did that. Now that I'm older, she expects them in return. :D

[khashka]

54. How cheap are you selling her?

Having raised my own daughter, I'm afraid you'ld have to pay me to take her.

Ain't parenthood fun, fun, fun?


Khash, lacking in any sympathy :)

[xmas74]

57. She's free for the taking.

Did you see her pic earlier?

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x4105788

My niece is in the front and the little monster is in the back w/ the chubby cheeks.

[wakeme2008]

58. Is She house broken

:)

If so, send kids and chops my way.

:)

[xmas74]

59. Kinda.

She doesn't pee on the floor but she still makes big messes everywhere w/ her Barbie collection.

[wakeme2008]

69. LOL messes I can deal with

her own room with TV/DVD/VHS/Video gamer.........

Now about those chops..... and cobbler... :)

[xmas74]

72. She'd love you.

She's not allowed her own tv at home. And she never gets to play video games-she has to go to a friend's house to play them.

The food is waiting for you but you should know that I think she's coming down w/ a virus.

[wakeme2008]

76. Kids have to have their own TV

there is only soooooo many times I will watch Sponge Bob Square pants. :rofl:

Sorry to hear about the virus.......

:(

[xmas74]

80. It's ok.

She doesn't get her own because I like to know what she is watching. And I prefer she play w/ her toys, look at books or work on art projects in her room.

Thank goodness she's not a Spongebob fan. She prefers Buster or Maya and Miguel.

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[xmas74]

63. I spend most of my time w/ her.

I don't go out. I stay home every night. I don't do anything w/o her. We cook together, we read together, we play games together, we go on picnics and outings.
I am her soccer coach, her assistant choir director, her room mother and her Girl Scout leader.
Sorry, but you don't know me and I feel that I should let you know that your comment has pissed me off. Every parent needs to take some time off every day from their child. I post here when she is doing her homework, taking a bath or looking at storybooks(which she likes to do sometimes w/o me). I dare say that I spend more time w/ her than the majority of the parents in the US spend w/ their kid.
And being on DU actually relieves my stress. I tend to take some time, have a few fun conversations on here and can go back to mothering her w/o being so tense.

And if you are interested, she has a seven pm (Central) bedtime.

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[xmas74]

71. Not really that high.

I worked the overnight shift until recently. I had a job where I finished my work in the first hour or so and had the rest of the night to do absolutely nothing but sit so I posted on here. It's easy to do. My job now starts at five am so I usually come home, do some housework and then post for a while until she comes home from school. Then I might log in after she goes to bed if I don't have anything else that needs done.


I do enjoy her and we do fun things together. She just has her moments where I have to step back and get away. I don't get out anymore because I cannot afford to. I'm a single parent and most of the money goes to basic necessities. I bought the computer for her to use (her school really pushes computer use) but it also gives me something to do. Some days I post more than others. Some days I don't post at all. I get in moods w/ it.

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[xmas74]

102. Eventually I will go out again.

Right now I don't have the money, no babysitter, etc. For the first four years after my daughter was born I was heartbroken (her father has nothing to do w/ her and left before she was born).
We walk together every day. I live about a mile from the school so I walk over and walk her home every day, unless the weather is bad.
And I have a family who would argue w/ you about me going out. They think that I should stay home at all times.

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[xmas74]

113. Thank you.

Patience has been low lately. I just need a night out w/ no distractions.

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[xmas74]

132. Most of our activities are education-related.

We study nature, look at the stars,etc.
I hope to prepare her for a better future than I had.

[tjdee]

158. Holy bananas....

That's exactly how I was--it was like four years after she was born,yup. Well, and the year before when I was pregnant.

It's weird now, cause I feel like I missed five years of my life. I'm not even 30 and I feel like I'm 50 sometimes. Today I looked in the mirror and saw fine lines on my face, and I think I'm developing crow's feet. Disgusting. I'm actively starting to wonder if I'm the type of woman to get botox.

Anyway! Get out, get out I say! Try to do something by yourself at least once a week even if it's only going to the library or getting a cup of coffee somewhere.

[xmas74]

160. I've been trying to.

Of course, most of the hours that I can do just that (when I'm not working) happen to be at the same time that the little monster is home.

And I found a line a couple of months ago near my right eye. I'm seriously considering Botox if I can get the money for it.

[tjdee]

162. She's four, right?

It's a bit better when they start kindergarten--I used to get my thrills (of sitting quietly with coffee, LOL) for about 15 minutes before the bus dropped her off.

Hang in there until then, LOL.

[xmas74]

164. She's five now

and in kindergarten. I really am thinking that she is starting to come down w/ something but she is showing no symptoms yet.

[tjdee]

165. Airborne!!

My daughter was coming down with a cold about a month ago, gave her two doses of Airborne Jr., it went away. I gave her some tonight, she too has that 'coming down with something' look. Hope it works again.

Looovveee it. Though, it didn't seem to work so well for my cousin's kid.

[xmas74]

166. I'll have to try that sometime.

I've never tried it before.

[khashka]

88. A few words, kitten

Obviously, you don't know xmas. She is a very conscientious mother. Yes, she posts here. Yes, she makes friends here. But I personally can attest to the fact that her child comes first.

I don't like slamming people but what you said is absolute trash, especially since you don't know her.

I do. She protects her kid. Loves her kid.

You diss her, you diss her friends. I admire the lady, as do many of us. She does a great job in a difficult situation while maintaining a sense of humour, a joy in life and a willingness to make friends with people very different from her.

Her kid always comes first. And oh, she has the audacity to complain a little, seek a little sympathy! How crass! How beastly! Anyone who's raised a kid knows how tough it can be, and how a few kind words can help.

In other words.... you fuck with her and you fuck with me and several dozen others.

OK?

Khash, pissed off!

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[khashka]

147. It does....

But throwing my words back in my face is not a good start....

Before getting all nasty with xmas, I suggest getting to know her first.


As for what I said.... I stand by it.


Khash.

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[xmas74]

163. Today was a day off of work. A coworker needed to take the

day off and I traded her(I will work on Sunday for her instead). My daughter is in school until 4:30 my time.
What I posted today was a joke. It was actually a response that I had made to my brother today when he asked me why I was not married. If you would like to know the rest of my schedule for today here it is:
I woke up my daughter, made her a hot breakfast and got her ready for school.
I took her to school.
I then came home, sent off my bills, did some laundry, cleaned the house, took the dog for a walk, went on another walk for myself and to pick up some groceries at a local grocery store, played hostess for a short visit from my brother, made a peanut butter sandwich for my lunch (my daughter gets school lunches-I prefer she eat them when it gets cold out as it is right now), spoke w/ her teacher on the phone about her schedule(she is taking second grade level math classes in kindergarten and I keep in close contact w/ her teachers about it-I want her to have the advanced math but I don't want her to be pushed into something she might not be ready for), cleaned up the yard(when you have a dog you have to do that every day), spoke to my neighbor about his kill(I didn't realize that it was bow season already and he offered me some venison if I wanted it), and began dinner.
My daughter arrived home (she likes to ride the school bus in the afternoon like the "big kids" do so I allow it)from school. We looked over her papers from school, sat down and talked about her day at school and looked at her library book (Mouse Hunt). She played outside for a little bit(gotta get it done early now since the days are getting darker), came in and washed up.
We sat down and ate dinner together(chili, crackers, carrot and celery sticks and orange wedges). We washed the dinner dishes, cleaned off the table, she took a bath and put on her jammies. We laid out her school clothes for tomorrow(I checked them over to make sure nothing was missing a button that I would have to sew on tonight since kids lose buttons and made sure that there was nothing to iron) along w/ her hair ties. I washed off her school shoes while she had a cup of hot cocoa. We then brushed our teeth together, I tucked her into bed and read her a bedtime story( Bringing the Rain to Kapiti Plain). We snuggled for a few minutes and now she is asleep.

That was my day. How was yours?

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[xmas74]

172. Well, you posted the OP w/ the time on it

and I posted the time my daughter attends school.
And if you didn't pick up that it was a joke than you did not read the entire thread.
Why am starting to believe that maybe you enjoy personal attacks? More than a few on here have pointed this fact out.

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[xmas74]

173. Maybe I should have clarified.

She needed to take Sunday off. She called me and asked if we could trade.
You are one of the rudest people that I have ever met. I'm tired of the personal attacks.
BTW-there are two posters on this board who actually know me in real life and know my child. They could both verify this information, though I don't think it would matter to you.

[HEAVYHEART]

174. Xmas

It's time to put the guy on ignore. I honestly think he's forgetting to take his meds that's why he's fucking with you so much. Seriously. I can't stand this thread any longer. Put him on ignore. Do it! :grr:

[WCGreen]

175. About the same time you'll be awarded a pulitzer prize

for writing, PAL......

There is a fine line between offering constructive criticism and attacking someone personally....

You are just being rude, now.....

I wonder if your parents bragged on how polite there little Kitty was....

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[xmas74]

135. Thank you for everything!

We act big and bad but we both have soft hearts. I know that neither of us likes to admit it.
Thanks, my friend!

[HEAVYHEART]

96. What a shitty post

How fucking rude. x(

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156. Yes

I'm a parent of two. YOU???

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[driver8]

61. Holy Cow! My wife just called me at work and my daughter is doing

the same thing!!

How about a "2 for 1" special??

[xmas74]

64. No thank you!

[hatredisnotavalue]

62. I would give my right arm to have a five year old right now

Ask her if she would like to pick out a movie you and she can share at the movie store.
G0 home and ask her if you can eat dinner with her while watching the movie. Put her plate in front of her and yours in front of you and watch the movie. If she doesn't bond with you, take her to the doctors tomorrow.

[xmas74]

65. We eat dinner together every night.

I'm at home right now. I post on here from home when she is not around or is busy playing w/ her friends.
We have a good bond but sometimes she likes to push buttons. We usually don't watch movies or tv together. I don't approve of many of the tv shows on right now for her age level. We read together instead or play board games.

[hatredisnotavalue]

66. I am just saying let her control the dinner siituation..

Let her help make the dinner, and the after dinner situation,like going to the the movie store and picking out a movie she might think you both would watch.

[xmas74]

67. She does help make the dinner.

She picks out the vegetables, she sets the table and she helps wash the dishes afterward.
Movie night is only once a week in this house. It's always on Friday. We watch the Disney Channel movie and she looks forward to it(she loves the movies on there). We make popcorn and she gets her one soda a week (in the colder weather we make hot cocoa).
We have a schedule that we follow on the weekdays. It works well for her. She knows what to expect every night. We work on different things every night. She has a choice each time on which she would rather work on.

[bliss_eternal]

82. Just wanted to offer you this...

:hug:
Sorry that I can't take your kid off your hands, I've got my hands full with a 38 year old boy that I'm married to. LOL! :eyes:

Motherhood sounds like a difficult job on a good day--you're doing your best,though. My empathy goes out to all single moms like you! Sorry that today has been so tough. (((xmas 74))))

[xmas74]

83. Thank you.

It's been a tough week.

[bliss_eternal]

87. You're a good mom.

Hang in there, tomorrow is another day. I know it's tough, try to get some time in somewhere for you.

When I start to lose patience with my oldest boy (dh), I realize maybe I haven't taken enough time away for me. It's MUCH harder to do this with a little one afoot, I know--maybe when she will be in a planned activity, you can get in a bubble bath or something.

[xmas74]

90. I'd love that.

[chaska]

85. You're so lucky ... but you know that....

I want kids. :cry:

[xmas74]

92. I love my daughter more than life itself.

I just need a break sometimes.

[Kali]

86. You need a break

No other family or neighbors/friends/whatever to take a couple hours? You sound like a fantastic parent - good for you and having a steady routine for your kid - just don't let it completely rule your life. As much as kids need and thrive with solid routines they also need to learn how to deal with the occasional unexpected - do you ever go out by yourself or with friends? Does your daughter have any kind of sitter/companion for those kind of occasions?

Speaking from personal mistake on this one - no nearby relatives, very rural area, low income. Never developed any relationships with folks who could watch the kids. They are old enough now to take care of themselves but there were times we felt pretty trapped and had no time to ourselves. Puts a bit of resentment into hte parent relationship that doesn't have to be there.

For your immediate situation I reccommend drugs and a warm bath. For you too! (Milk if she will have some - will she drink it warm?)

[xmas74]

98. I gave her the script she had in the medicine cabinet

(for allergies. Also gave her the script for cough medicine w/ codiene-hope she sleeps all night).
I'm staying w/ my parents right now because of finances. I'm not making enough to make it on my own. Sadly, I'm noticing it's becoming more common around here.
My friends live over an hour away. It is a rural area. I don't resent her but would love a night out more than once every three years!
It's been tough. She's a sweet but stubborn child who is used to getting her way. I need to do more things on my own but the only events I ever get invited to are either someone's church (w/ views that I don't agree w/) or PTO meetings. And my family does not like to babysit. They think that I should always stay at home. As has been said by more than a few members "You chose to be a single mother. You made your bed, now lie in it".
I need an hour or two out w/ adults. I went out last May to see the new Star Wars. That was the first time I had been out in almost two years. Seeing a movie alone isn't the same as going out w/ a group of people.

[Kali]

106. Real nice of folks to say that kind of crap to you

I'm married but had a similar circumstance - nobody said shit like that to us. EVERYBODY needs a break and I would say ESPECIALLY a single parent. God people can be so condescending! And of course they would never be the ones to actually help out, right?

All I can say is if you get the chance go out - don't worry what folks say, they obviously have their issues no matter what - on the other hand even if you don't for ten years - it will go by amazingly FAST!!! :silly:

How rural? Can you find an excercise buddy? Someone to just go for a walk with or a bike ride - DU is probably as good a place as any to have some semi-adult conversation, but some air and excercise with another adult would be good too - and free.

Edit to add: Does anybody say to married people they need to stay home all the time? You made your bed now lie in it. I am getting angry thinking about this. EVERYBODY needs a break from their kids, their parents, their co-workers, their whatevers! I'm not saying single moms/dads (or married ones for that matter) should be out partying every night but geeze once a week or even every two weeks - please!!!! Let's see these sanctamonious jerks spend 24/7 with even the most angelic of children and never go out or talk to other adults. Bleh!

[xmas74]

110. I walk every day for exercise(and to conserve gas).

I walk to the school and back home w/ my daughter every day unless the weather is nasty.
I live in a college town. My choices are either college kids I have nothing in common with or Bushbots(69.5% red in the last election) who quote Faux and Rush. I've tried pretty hard to be nice and make friends but I get upset after listening to their crap and begin to distance myself. I have very little in common w/ many in this town. I did make a friend about six months ago(another single mom w/ similar views) and we did things w/ our girls. She's found someone now and I'm happy for her but miss having someone close by to do things with.

[Kali]

118. "She's found someone now and I'm happy for her but miss having

someone close by to do things with."

Snarky thought: give her a little time and she will be ready for a break from the new person heh heh

[xmas74]

121. They are getting married in January.

She still invites me out but it's no longer things to do w/ the kids-mostly couples nights. I get left out of that loop.

[ulysses]

109. you missed me by 13 days.

:)

[xmas74]

119. Congrats again to you!

I just need a short break right now.

[ulysses]

126. oh, I know.

Give me a while and I'll be asking the same question, I'm sure. :D

[xmas74]

130. You'll be begging for babysitting!

When I go to a baby shower I always include 10 certificates that they can redeem for babysitting( in 2 hour increments). They don't understand at first but the other moms tell them to save the coupons.
Free babysitting is more precious than gold after a few months!

[ulysses]

133. having had to leave

Chris and Cheryl in SC several times, I've already realized the value of folks who will come to the rescue. :)

[xmas74]

134. It's a great present if you ever need one.

[raptor_rider]

117. No Thank You!!!

I am having problems of my own with my daughter. So many troubles at school. She wants to socialize instead of working. She is acting like a teenager at the age of 8. We are having fun here at home. We do not need anymore "fun"!!!

[xmas74]

123. My daughter is 5 going on 40.

Fun times in this house!

[radwriter0555]

145. She's upset over dinner? Oh heck, let her have a bowl full of ice cream

and it will all be fine.

Why not?

Occasionally we'd just knock it all on and have something really bad for dinner like ice cream or cookies or something...

I figure kids eat when they're hungry, and get all the right stuff if it's around. Sometimes they're hungry, sometimes they're not... I'm the same way.

Some nights we don't even have dinner, just a little snack...

[xmas74]

150. I think she's coming down w/ something.

Dinner was the last straw. She was grumpy all night, even before dinner.

[hfojvt]

146. she really needs some new favorites

How about a Krispy Kreme? :donut:

[xmas74]

151. She likes them too.

But we have a limit on them-especially since it's a common fundraiser around here!

[renate]

149. I've had days like yours

when all you can do is deeeeep breathing.... deeeeeep breath..... deeeeep breath. Then you scream anyway and feel like an a##hole.

I hope you get a chance to get away sometimes. Like every parent here I love my kids to the point of insanity, but sometimes you Just Have To F-ing Get Away. Especially when they're whining incessantly and loudly and follow you from room to room while doing so, oh lordy.

Single parents have it especially hard because they don't have the option of saying "I simply cannot cope for one more minute--you take care of her." I admire you tremendously--really I do, that's not just lip service.

Parenting is so easy and wonderful on the good days. On the bad days, it can be like cleaning up after Linda Blair in The Exorcist.

[xmas74]

153. It was just such a long day and a long night.

She seems ok now and is in school but I think she's catching what's going around. I have a scratch in the back of my throat now so I suspect that's what her bad mood is about.

[Midlodemocrat]

152. DS1. He LOVES kids, and if you have a puppy that would be even better.

[xmas74]

154. No puppy.

Just a five year old girl who would fetch him beer and ask him alot of personal questions.
I could just see the two of them together right now.

[tjdee]

161. I got my kid McDonald's today.

And that was that.

I have to clean my whole house tonight (my mother is coming to visit tomorrow :scared: ). The kid isn't helping at all, not her fault I guess, but geez!

Times like this I am very jealous of two parent families. I'm sick of having to do everything by myself ALL THE TIME. :grr:

At least you cooked!

[xmas74]

167. She's been begging for McDonalds.

I try not to go that route if I don't have to. I prefer the idea of a home cooked meal and sitting down together to eat it(though some on here have questioned what kind of mother I am).

I get jealous of two parent families too. But then I look at my married friends and see what kind of housework their husbands do and I start to think that maybe I'm better off.

[swag]

168. I had a nice vasectomy when I was 25.

Crossed the street to a Mexican restaurant and celebrated with enchiladas and many beers.

on edit: this does create a certain tragic lack of placentas in the house.