What first attracted you to your SO?

[Shell Beau]

Their looks or personality?

[redqueen]

1. Looks n/t

[swag]

70. oops. delete

ill-place reply.

though I revere the redqueen.

[redqueen]

79. Oooh oooh

What'd I miss?

Was it nasty?

I missed the brouhaha in pri's thread, so I'm spoilin for an argument!

:P

[AlienGirl]

2. His posting style on DU, of course!

That and the slight aura of evil around his screenname.

Tucker

[everythingsxen]

39. Her brainworms of course!

:loveya:

[StopTheMorans]

3. the fact that she was breathing

[terrya]

5. That's a must for me.

I'm sorry, but I have my standards. They have to be alive.

[StopTheMorans]

7. i hear you there, brother

:thumbsup: :7

[Zuni]

20. true that!

[Shell Beau]

6. That is pretty bad!!

:silly:

[StopTheMorans]

8. what, you like 'em cold?

:puke:

[Shell Beau]

10. You can warm them up!

[StopTheMorans]

12. .

:spray:

[brainshrub]

52. Yes, breathing is a plus.

I also like it if she's a member of the same species and a female.

Oh baby!

[terrya]

4. His looks.

We exchanged pictures of each other first...and he didn't run away when he saw mine...

Getting to know him, his personality, his intellgence, his sense of humor... attracted me even more.

[bicentennial_baby]

9. gosh, good question

i'd have to say it was personality, but it was looks too...it was kinda simultaneous, and that goes for both of my SOs :)

[Shell Beau]

11. Both?

:)

[bicentennial_baby]

30. yes indeed

and they are both equally significant in my heart :)

[flamingyouth]

13. His kindness, his intellect and his sense of humor.

His good looks are a nice bonus. :D

[hippywife]

54. That about summed it up for me, too.

Plus we had so much in common. We met purely by accident on a chat board and were married 7 months later. Last July made 8 blissful years.

[anarch]

14. her smile...

so I think that qualifies as both, simultaneously.

[grace0418]

15. His personality. Then I noticed what gorgeous black eyes he had

and what soft skin. And the cutest dimple in his cheek!

[no name no slogan]

16. Definitely personality

We met online (here, actually), and I fell in love with her personality before I'd ever even laid eyes on her. She's the perfect combination of brains and beauty. Too bad we live so far apart-- but not for long :evilgrin:

[Shell Beau]

18. Not for long? Do I sense a move in the near future?

:)

[no name no slogan]

23. mmmm...quite possibly

we've discussed it, but there are no concrete plans... yet!

[Saphire]

17. his sense of humor....still does.

[dr.strangelove]

19. Her looks

She got huge ... tracts of land.

[usedtobesick]

71. That was the first thing I thought of when I saw this thread.... ROFL

[dr.strangelove]

76. Its true

I love her dearly, and she is a way better person than me, but it was the tracts of land that I noticed first.
I always try to inject a litle Holy Grail into all my important decision.
Later.

[Mr. McD]

21. Her her fine behind.

The first time I saw her she wes facing away from me. It was all I needed for a closer investigation.

[gollygee]

22. His voice

mmmmmmm

[WeRQ4U]

24. Both.... I nabbed an intelligent hottie.

Imagine my luck.

[Redstone]

25. Her looks, particularly the dark skin, ruby-red lips, black hair,

and big brown eyes.

That combination has always reduced me to a jellylike substance.

Redstone

[evlbstrd]

26. She wore the cutest little anklets.

[bridgit]

27. we were administering social science research insturments...

for a firm based in rockville, md., i started sitting beside him, other women would do likewise to learn just how it was he became a top 'performer' in the field of data collection. it's not just his voice he is very personable and people respond to that. friends of ours hooked us up, out on the town for drinks and eats, and i got a chance to see how moves amongst people (who again respond very positively & come on to him both sexes = amazing) and i was a goner...plus he's so yummy, holds his liquor, is a wizz with finances & an artist...the rest is history :D

:woohoo:

[Shine]

28. Actually, neither of those. It was his incredibly sexy VOICE

he can still melt me with it, after all these years.....

[SpeedwayDemocrat]

29. His Monty Python Halloween costume...

dressed as Mr. Gumby with a little Hitler-like mustache, a hanky on his head and styrofoam bricks he kept bashing himself in the head with. So, I guess it was personality...(and his off-beat sense of humor). We just crossed the 10 year anniversary mark, so I guess that instinct was correct...

[skygazer]

31. The way he talked about his cat

He was shopping at the store I work in and asked me if he could take an empty box to put his cat food in. I made some sort of stupid comment - "Oh, you have a cat?" and he got this big, goofy grin on his face and began telling me all about his cat and how he'd had him since he was a baby and how much he loved him.

I figured if a guy could be so open and honest about his feelings for his cat, he had to be a pretty neat person. And he is.

[VelmaD]

32. Well...for the closest thing I have...

to an SO...he made me laugh. I only found out later he had a big "package". ;)

[Shell Beau]

34. Well that will seal the deal!

:P

[DrZeeLit]

33. He has the most amazing smile in the universe.

And everyone says so. He beams.

So, I don't know if that's his looks or his personality.
His personality is kind and genuine, which shows in his smile.
But he does have perfect teeth and great eyes.

Hmmmmmm.

[Taverner]

35. I reckon she looked awful purty....

[Shell Beau]

38. Looked?

:o

[RetroLounge]

36. Her looks and smile

I met her in line at a club, so personality wasn't exposed until later on. That was even better. So a package deal!

RL

[bigwillq]

37. Personality

The way he treated me.
He's not a bad looking fellow I might add! That always helps! :)

[geniph]

40. He laughed at my sick jokes

and he made me laugh.

[Zomby Woof]

42. Geni!

:bounce:

[taterguy]

41. Compatible pets

We met at a dog park. Our dogs dug each other and things progressed from there.

[ronnykmarshall]

43. His big, huge, bulging .....

eyes!

[GalleryGod]

50. Ronny ,Run out to PINKS and get me a Special ! ANY special!

God I miss that place! My darn brother HAD to take me there!B-)

[ronnykmarshall]

61. Isn't it great?

The best chili dawg I've ever ate!

[Redstone]

65. Wait a minute. You said "Best chili dog." Now I have to know where

this "best chili dog" is.

Please?

Even if I don't end up agreeing that it's the best, it'll be pretty good, and a pretty good chili dog beats a poke in the eye with a sharp stick any old day, so I'll be happy to have tried it.

Redstone

[ronnykmarshall]

77. Pinks

on La Brea in Los Angeles.

[William Bloode]

44. Which one?

I am a polygamist :spank: #1 was looks, #2 was more personality based.

[Mutley]

45. His smile.

We worked in the same place and every time he walked by me he would flash this big fat grin at me.

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

46. Both, but probably mostly personality

He was so polite and pleasant. He'd always stop to get candy out of the candy jar on my desk, and he was so cute! I appreciated his kindness and consideration of the residency coordinators; he actually gave the Internal Medicine coordinator a thank you card when he finished his rotation, and the residents NEVER did that!

[TheCentepedeShoes]

47. His panic.

At lunch on Black Monday, October 1987. That striken I'm ruined look. I'd actually been acquainted with him for a few years, but that day got me. Weird.

[Left Is Write]

48. His looks. I couldn't see his personality from across the room, but

I DID see his big brown eyes and his dimpled smile.

[jpgray]

49. I have no idea what it was exactly

But I know it burnt out all my pretense of charming detachment at the time.

[Orsino]

51. Her lovely e-mails...

...via match.com. Mmmmmmm.

[NewJeffCT]

53. my wife looks attractive?

I never noticed... :eyes:

But, in all honesty, personality is the most important thing to me. I'm generally fairly quiet & laid back, so I tend to be attracted to intelligent, outgoing & energetic women. My wife & ex-wife are both intelligent (well, except in choice of spouse!), outgoing & energetic. But, my wife now is Chinese, slim, 5'4", high cheekbones, with black hair & eyes. My ex-wife was 5'0" on a good day, but probably outweighed my wife by 10-15 pounds (with a lot of that in her chest), round faced, had big blue eyes, auburn hair & fair skin.

[fudge stripe cookays]

55. Personality.

He has it in spades, and can still reduce me to tears laughing so hard.

Every day he comes up with something that cracks me up, and I love him even more.

I didn't even see a picture of him until several weeks after we started writing.

FSC

[dannofoot]

56. Her blue hair...

...She was quite the L.A. punker...hung around with the Circle Jerks, The Joneses, X, etc. She was wild and dangereuse.

Oh, and she could cook like Julia Childs. Great combination.

[driver8]

60. My dream girl!!!

Likes punk music and can cook?? What more could you ask for???

[RPM]

57. Breasts

Brain a close second...

[Burma Jones]

58. They're inextricably intertwined, but at first - looks

My wife would not be nearly as beautiful as she is without her personality.



see......

[driver8]

59. I hate to be shallow...but it was her very nice butt!

My wife used to be a dancer and took lots of ballet classes...she was in amazing shape when we met.

Also, my wife asked me out first...she said I was clueless as to the fact that she was interested in me so she took the initiative. Her personality and sense of humor won me over.

[AccessGranted]

62. Intelligence and Sense of Humor

That's it!

[Ksec]

63. Those two teeth in front

and the way she passed gas in Church.

Sweet

[bliss_eternal]

64. A bit of both actually...

He has the most beautiful blue eyes and we could talk for hours about music!

He's a very sweet, kind and generous man, with a winning personality and..:blush: I think he's a cutie pie.

:loveya:

[WCGreen]

66. She LAughed at my jokes.....

[quisp]

67. her @$$ in bike shorts and her willingness to climb sheer cliff faces...

poor thing hated every minute of it, but swears it was worth it (married 13 years with 3 beautiful girls: 8, 4, 2)

[Pale Blue Dot]

68. I saw little snippets of her personality over a year ago.

She would post things here and on another site, and I would read them and think, "I need to find a woman exactly like that." I could tell that we both needed the same things out of life and out of a partner, and that we had both been continually disappointed in our search for those things. I was not going to go after her, though, because I was determined not to do the online thing (plus I had this idea that she only liked tall men).

Then after a year of looking for someone in "real life", I posted some nonsense on DU, she responded right away, and I finally decided to take a chance. It was the best thing I have ever done, my only regret being that I didn't act sooner.

I had seen pictures of her, and thought she looked attractive, but I know that pictures can lie, so that wasn't even a consideration. As it turned out, she's much, much better looking in person anyway.

Now I am completely, hopelessly in love. :loveya:

[JVS]

69. I was able to get a discount, which brought the price from$6500 to $4000!

;-)

[swag]

72. Her self-confidence and her taste in music.

I'll never forget the day she showed up at my dorm room door with a few LPs: Los Angeles "X," "Live at the Deaf Club," The Cramps "Psychedlic Jungle," and a couple other great albums what I fergit. Oh, Suburban Lawns. Said her mom wouldn't let her play 'em loud. So we played 'em loud.

She still has the self-confidence and the great aethetic sense. She's tough. I like her.

[spacelady]

73. Personality--When we were introduced, I said something snotty about his

clothes and he replied, "Fuck You". Love at first sight and we are celebrating our 14th wedding anniversary today October 12, 2005. An added bonus is that he is very handsome.

[Parrcrow]

74. Her looks got me to her part of the room, her wit kept me there. n/t

[enigmatic]

75. Her personality

and impeccable musical taste, and when I laid eyes on her in person for the first time I knew I had found my soulmate..

[Rising Phoenix]

78. his hair

it was real short, except for on top where it had a pointy red sprout thingy, it was so friggin cute, he spiked it all up...yum

[RedCloud]

80. She was dressed in purple!

What could I do?

But she doesn't wear purple any more.:cry: :cry: :cry:
And she isn't my SO any more.

[AirmensMom]

81. His gentleness.

:loveya:

[Patiod]

82. His bald spot

He's a big weightlifter with a deep voice, and the bald spot made him look so vulnerable.

[Mrs.Matcom]

83. Matcom's...

A$$ of course, then he turned around and I saw the most beautiful blue eyes I have ever seen. I knew right then I was a gonner!!! :D

[Chovexani]

84. Personality

Considering I met him on an online game. ;)

My character wandered into a nasty area and got killed, lost all her stuff...he helped me get my stuff back and we started chatting. That was almost seven years ago and we've been together ever since. :)

[SarahB]

85. Personality.

I remember on one particularly bad day about a year and a half ago, writing something on here and after his response, all I could think was, "Why can't I ever meet a man like that? Why can't I ever have a man like that love me?" A few months later, we opened up to each other about some things, but there was no relationship, no intent of a relationship. Once things actually clicked last Spring, especially after we finally went out, there was no holding back. We both have this strange feeling that everything we went through lead us to one another. For all our quirky weirdness (and our simultaneous, boring normalness) to have found someone so well-suited for each of us feels rather miraculous. It's never happened to either of us before.

As for looks, it didn't play a big part at all in the initial attraction, but I can't help but say that our mutual chemistry doesn't hurt either. He's a very nice looking man (and only slightly taller is more than fine). His is the entire package. :)

[Mrs. Venation]

86. Her Intelligence

I was attracted to Kim because she's intelligent, witty, eloquent, and talented.

[soleft]

87. Her eyes looked kind, like Diane Weist

[Trigger Hippie]

88. His beard.

Ahhhhhhh