Why are people nice?

[Deja Q]

Our society's motto is "nice people finish last."

And even that I now know this, I still don't want to change.

I might end up homeless with no prospects or posessions, but at least I'm nice in a "society" whose constituants would even kill in order to get themselves ahead.

And I know DUers (via poll responses only, most didn't want to respond in a message, damn cowards) who have said the dog-eat-dog aspect of our "society" is a good thing.

Well, you can have it.

I'm still going to be a nice guy. I can't be anything else.

I just want for the world to grow the fuck up. :grr:

[Oeditpus Rex]

1. You can be 'nice'

and still stand up for yourself, or for what you believe, when necessary.

It can be a delicate balance, though — one I certainly haven't mastered.

But, yeah — stoopid world. Keep your damned dog's paws offa my dog. :grr:

[MissMillie]

2. It's too much work to be mean

seriously... I find that it takes very little effort to be helpful and pleasant, and much more effort to behave otherwise.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

3. Amen to that.

[newportdadde]

4. Being nice is a difficult path but it can be a good one.

Mainly because the vast majority of people you deal with each day aren't playing with the same rule book. Personally I believe in being nice, its cost me, nice guys don't exactly rule the dating scene at a young age lol. Being nice also isn't the fastest path to take in the corporate world, infact you may find your path blocked because no one wants to listen to a nice HONEST person who makes decisions based on facts not on pleasing egos.

I have to say though there are other rewards, for instance when I mentioned earlier about dating. I met my wife through my suitemate/bestfriend in college she was his sister, he was also a nice guy. We got married when I finished college and have been together 6 years have a toddler, its a great life. My single buddy chases a lot of hot tail, has some wild times but is alone. I know each day when I get home my son will be rattling the baby gate for me to come up the stairs faster saying 'Dada dada!!" :) There are some perks with being a nice guy! :)

[Deja Q]

5. But they play by the rulebook that's been standard for centuries.

Plus, some of us are just unlucky at love along with being unlucky at everything else.

Not that's catastrophizing, but I'm hoping there are nice people who are homeless to make friends with...

[anarch]

6. well, don't ask me

I am a raging asshole.


No, really, I know what you mean. I have some kind of compulsion to try to be "nice", but lord knows why b/c it never gets me anywhere.

[Shine]

7. Life is so much more pleasant if we remember our Good-ness and

act from that space. The amount of energy it takes to be disrespectful and mean to other people only ends up coming back to us, ultimately.

What goes around, comes around....

The more of us who treat others the way WE want to be treated, the more LIGHT we bring to the planet.

That said, it is also important to practice Compassion for those of us who sadly don't remember this universal truth. Much easier said, than done, I know, but still a worthy goal.

My two cents,
Shine