One line dating services suck

[MissMillie]

It's enough to ruin one's self esteem. I've had my profile up for about 6 weeks. 126 people have viewed my profile and not ONE has any interest in me.

Mind you, I have expressed interested in a couple of people. One "winked" back, but when I emailed, I never got any response. The other just outright said he wasn't interested.

How come nobody wants me?

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

1. well, that's because match.com sucks.

I feel bad that I wasted money on that crap. It's a worse meat market than doing it the old fashioned way in a bar.

I know a lot of people knock it because a right winger runs it, but eharmony is a lot better. I've used it to some degree of success.

[Gidney N Cloyd]

3. Just what IS the deal with eHarmony?

I've heard rumors about it being a cult as well as the RW-er thing. What's going on there that should worry me?

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

5. Nothing, really.

It's definitely not a cult at all. The guy who started it is apparently uber-religious, and a lot of people hate it because he won't cater it to women looking for women or men looking for me, but other than that, none of the religion crap ever filters its way into the actual service. No need to fear at all.

[RedCloud]

2. You are probably too much of a woman!

Many men fear brains and beauty.

Sad, but true.

Or they think you have already found someone.

Best wishes in your search for your counterpart!:hi:

[Whoa_Nelly]

4. Trust me on this one, MissMillie...

Online dating is a bust. Better to meet people through friends, volunteering, places where you go regularly. I tried Internet dating a few years back. Those that I thought looked like having a good possibility of being interesting turned out to be weird when met in person. And those who contacted me were not interesting to me with some being downright scary looking.

I found my self-esteem was lowered by making choices of dating through online and realizing that there was much more weirdness than I had ever encountered...had me second-guessing myself in my ability to meet someone decent....like there was something wrong with me. However, figured it out that there is nothing wrong with me or my ability to meet people and develop friendships/relationships...the problem was in the choices out there in the online dating venue.

So, there's nothing wrong with you...it's the online dating thing that's really a bust.

[taterguy]

6. your question

If you really want to know why no one is responding to your ad it would help if you'd tell us where to find it

[MissMillie]

8. it looks something like this

relationships: Never Married

my ethnicity: White / Caucasian

body type: A few extra pounds

height: 5’ 1” (154.9 cms)

About me and who I'd like to date
Ok, I admit it, I'm going to sound picky, but I've been looking for a long time, and I guess that means I know what I want. My perfect match is looking for the last love of his life. He's willing to start off slowly so that friendship and trust can be built first, but his ultimate goal is to find a spouse. He's considerate, friendly, fun, and compassionate. His ideal relationship is a two-way street. He holds a steady job, but is not a work-a-holic. He likes to work out regularly, but he may not necessarily win any races or lift the most weight at the gym. He may even have love handles. He likes to eat, and even cook. His home is reasonably clean (house or apartment). He likes to spend time w/ me, and even w/ my kids, but doesn't need to be with me all the time. He can accept that I'm an independent person w/ interests and friends and he'll fit in where he can but he'll have his own interests and friends and will continue to keep them in his life. He's got a good relationship w/ his own family, and doesn't mind spending time with mine. He likes thought-provoking movies as well as funny ones. He enjoys the kind of music you can sing along to. He didn't vote for GWB. I'm pretty easy going. I work hard, and try to find time to have fun too. Sometimes I just like being home w/ my kids and my cats. I try very hard to treat people the way I want to be treated. I'm a work in progress. There are still things I would like to learn and things that I've never done that I'd like to do. I don't ever want to say that I've done it all.... I mean, what would be the point of living if you've done it all, right? I'd like to find someone who feels the same about their life, and if I'm really lucky, we'll want to learn and try the same things.


Appearance

height: 5’ 1” (154.9 cms)

eyes: Green

hair: Auburn / Red

body type: A few extra pounds

body art: No Answer

best feature: Hair

Interests

for fun:
I'm mostly a home-body, but I do enjoy working out, eating out, and attending sporting events (especially if my kids are involved). For fun, I like to sing karaoke. I'm also politically active (liberal).

favorite hot spots:
Favorite restaurants include Periwinkle & Giorgio's, Margaritas, Yong Shing and Debba's Country Kitchen. I've always wanted to go to Alaska, or on a safari.

favorite things:
I love food--all kinds. My favorite color is yellow. I like to window shop at the mall, and I like to watch West Wing and Law & Order reruns when it rains. My favorite author is John Irving. I love to jog at sunrise.

last read:
The last book I read was: "American Dynasty: Aristocracy, Fortune, and the Politics of Deceit in the House of Bush"

sports and exercise: Cycling, Dancing, Tennis / Racquet sports, Running, Swimming, Weights / Machines, Other types of exercise, Bowling

Lifestyle

exercise habits: Exercise 3-4 times per week

daily diet: Keep it healthy

smoke: No Way

drink: Social drinker, maybe one or two

job: Administrative / Secretarial
I work at a prestigious graduate school (19 years at this job).

income: $35,001 to $50,000

my place: Live with kids

have kids: Yes, and they live at home
how many: 2

want kids: No Answer

pets:
I have: Cats
I don't have, but like: Dogs, Fish

Background/Values

ethnicity: White / Caucasian

faith: Spiritual but not religious

education: Some college

languages: English

politics: Very Liberal


About My Date

hair: Any

eyes: Any

height: 5’ 3” (160.0 cms) to 6’ 10” (208.3 cms)

body type: About average, Athletic and toned, A few extra pounds

languages: English

ethnicity: Any

faith: Any

education: Some college, Associates degree, Bachelors degree, Graduate degree

job: Any

income: $35,001 to $50,000, $50,001 to $75,000, $75,001 to $100,000, $100,001 to $150,000

smoke: No Way

drink: Social drinker, maybe one or two, Regularly

relationships: Any

have kids: Any

want kids: Not sure

turn-ons: Skinny dipping, Flirting, Dancing, Brainiacs, Candlelight, Thunderstorms

turn-offs: Body piercings, Erotica

[taterguy]

9. my take

Online dating services are for meeting people, not boosting self-esteem. You could get lots of replies by tweaking your ad, ie, changing your turn-ons to "Drinking beer, watching football, threesomes." However, they'd probably be from people you don't want to meet.

Just be patient. All is takes is one right reply.

Good luck

[musiclawyer]

10. Beat me up if necessary

but I'll say one thing. You're not using your assets properly. You are not unattractive but pic selection has to be better. I kid you not, my sister went to a professional, got a do over, dressed up to the nines (and almost to the zero's if you know what I mean) and then got the pics done by a pro. The consequences were amazing. If you are goign to do it on-line, it ain't like in person. 99% of the guys only care about the pic. Many are not all shallow. But it's just the visual instinct that kicks in and is paramount at the moment.

[KG]

7. only six weeks?

been doing the on-line thing for years. had some fun, met many nice people, some of whom are now long term friends. i'd rate my overall on-line dating experience as a positive.

[StopTheMorans]

11. i know, i hate one-liners

:grr:

[Thtwudbeme]

12. "How come nobody wants me?????" NO WAY

Look, you need to cut that crap out right now.

You just haven't run into Mr.FloatsMyBoatPermanently yet.

I didn't meet Michael until I was 37 or 38 (can't remember right this minute..) was never married before that.

Try ALTERNATIVE dating sites! Like...do you like hippie stuff? Go to hippie.com. If you really like the new age stuff, then Floyd, VA, Sedona AZ, or Asheville NC websites are for you. If you want to meet someone who thinks Bush is a fuckwit, then go to that Democratic singles site.

Get off Match.com....it has always looked like a popularity contest to me.

Get off Yahoo too--

PM me if you want me to help you find a cooler site; I am sure I can!