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Do you want a rather odd, but my own interpretation of the trilogy?
IMHO, the quest for love is why formal religions were formed. My view of the trilogy -- the father, the son and the holy ghost of the christian teachings is rather simple. God is love - whosever God, all Gods - love is the goal in life, love is the ultimate, love is our purpose. The goal in life is not how many people can we make love us, it is how deeply and unconditionally we can love others without losing sight of our worth, our self love, the importance of our needs. To know love, you have to have self love, with self love, you can love others. So the triology is love of love, love of self, love of others, love so deep and unconditional that our lifes are enriched and that enrichment magnifies our love of self. We are to love for the sake of love, not for the sake of finding self love in another's view of us, not to love for the sake of being able to say "this is how many people love me so therefore I am special and worthy of love". I don't love you to feel better about myself, but loving you makes me feel better about myself. Love for the sake of love, unconditional love, makes me a better person. It is when the balance is out of whack, when the sides of the triangle fail to meet, that we have problems in our lives and in our relationships. When we have trouble being all we can be as we are meant to be. When you love someone without self-love, when you love them just to see their love of you in their eyes, when you love them only with a view of perfection you need to exist for your completion and not for who they are, faults and failings accepted right along with their virtues and positives -- when loving them makes you lose sight of your worth and the depth of that love poses risks to who you are, then the triangle (triology) is not properly formed -- love fails. The triangle is not complete, there are gapping holes and the sides of the triangle cannot meet. Love, like the different types of triangles, has different configurations during the course of our lives, our years, our months, our weeks, even our days. The angles and the lines alter, some times you have an acute triangle, some times it is a scalean triangle and at times it can be an equilateral triangle. The angles can be obtuse or acute, but the main thing is the meeting of the lines, that they do meet to make the triangle, the triology.
Sometimes you love another more than you love yourself, you give them more than they are giving you and sometimes you need to love yourself more than you can give. For the sake of who you are and your place on this earth, that is your triangle, that is your love and your purpose. To know perfect love as a person is to love yourself and to love others for who they are and to maintain the delicate balance between the two, thus forming the triangle. It is to be godlike, to be truly loving. Which is greater, the love of self, the love of others or the love of love? If you don't have self love, how can you love others, without love of others, how can you have self love? We have problems with relationships when the other's person triangle is out of whack, when their lines don't meet or when their needs do not match the needs of our own triangle. It is hard enough to maintain the delicate balance required to keep the sides of our triangle touching. To try to manage our triangle and to control the other's triangle is impossible. The greatest achievement of man is unconditional love, it is the hardest thing to achieve yet once achieved it is the most satisfying experience on this earth. Love is ever evoling, constantly changing, but it is real and it is glorious. It takes work and effort, to maintain the balance, to keep the sides of the triangle touching, not just to know it with another, but to have it for ourselves. True love exists and our purpose in life is to try to achieve it daily, to try to achieve it at all times.
How can a Church profess anything but unconditional, perfect love? In shunning others because of their love, the Catholic Church mocks the teachings of Christ, IMHO. They violate the 1st and most important commandment -- To love God (love) with thy whole heart and soul - they take the Lord's name in vain when they make this hateful and unloving stance a tenet of the religion and demand that their members toe the line.
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