I apologize

[Maine Mary]

My brother-in-law has been posting under my name. He, my sister and their 2 kids have been living here for several months. They've got the upstairs where my puter is.

I wondered why folks were either combative or ignored me all the time. Now I get it. I found a few of his posts. OMG!!!! Not to mention the PM's :grr: It's not just that he is a military, flag waving, bible thumping hypocrite R...He also knows I don't like the fact that my sister supports their whole family. And though he's often home, she still has to hire a babysitter. To sum it all up, He and I we just don't get along.

I think whatever it was he's been saying may have been a way of getting back at me AND a chance to spill his ditto head philosophy. I don't know the full extent of what he's said said, or done but PLEASE understand it wa not me!!!!

[KitchenWitch]

1. Ouch

I guess I never encountered him, so you are good with me!

:hi:

[Radio_Lady]

24. Maine Mary, I don't know your posts or those your family member

posted. You're good to go! So, blame it on the bossa nova, or someone who uses your computer and your screen name! Tell the bastard you don't like what he did and you're pissed beyond words! Sickening!

In peace,

Radio_Lady in Oregon

[crispini]

2. Wow.

Good luck with that. Sounds rather like an unfun situation. :(

[RevCheesehead]

3. Well, that certainly explains a lot.

I take it he was the one who posted the, um, "locked" thread.

[jonnyblitz]

4. i saw some pretty rude stuff coming from your screenname

i forget exactly what, but it kind of threw me when I saw it. you implied that one DU was fat in their picture in one post, I do remember that.

[Maine Mary]

9. If it had been me

I would had have said "phat". Not necessarily because of how they looked (which I don't remember) but because of how cool and brave they were to post.

Yeah, I'm cool, I know what "phat" means? LOL! (Ok I admit, my daughter taught me :blush:)

[jonnyblitz]

11. it seemed totally out of character because i was familiar

with your posts and even exchanged a few PMs with you a few years ago. I am sure many people who know you were wondering what the F**K. I am glad to find this out. I was worried. :P

[Maine Mary]

39. Thank You

It does feel nice that at least you and a few others remember the REAL me. I don't know what K said but I can tell it must have been bad based one the way people treated me. But it's over and time to move on.

I'd also like to thank you for caring enough to worry. You're a good person jonnyblitz! :hug:

-MM

[CaliforniaPeggy]

5. That's horrible!

Could you stop him by logging off every time you left DU? :shrug:

That would be a pain, but it would stop him....

I would be seriously considering throwing his sorry ass out the door, and then changing the locks! :nuke:

[EstimatedProphet]

6. I would recommend throwing him out

Trying to belligerently undermine someone behind their back is intolerable.

[Skittles]

26. it is disgusting, despicable, cowardly behavior

I would kick his arrogant ass

[Maine Mary]

35. Can you give me some pointers on how?

You, Skittles, have always seemed to me, to be... someone I'd LOVE have around.

(on many levels...) :-)

[Skittles]

41. AW, SWEET MARY

PUT A BOOT ON YOUR FOOT AND KICK HIM IN THE ASS REPEADEDLY

[Maine Mary]

51. LOL

:-)

[hfojvt]

57. Now I want to know who is posting under Skittles' user-name

It is well known that Skittles always posts in ALL CAPS!!! Especially when talking about A$$ kicking. See, for example, post #41. Is your brother living with you now Skittles? Or is the cat doing some of the posting? Skittles, the posting cat.

[Skittles]

67. I WILL KICK YOUR ASS!!!!

'TIS ME, HFOJVT!!!

[Crazy Guggenheim]

7. Toss them out.

[BlueIris]

54. Posts CG, so I don't have to.

This violation of your personal space and boundaries is simply unacceptable behavior, even for family. God knows what else they've been doing behind your back. MM, I didn't see any of the offensive posts, but--that was incredibly inappropriate. Please at least think about whether these people deserve to enjoy your hospitality anymore.

[CanuckAmok]

8. those close-up photos of your penis were really disturbing.

But now it makes much more sense.

[NMMNG]

17. Um, look at the computer screen, not at your crotch

There ya go. :thumbsup:

[Maine Mary]

18. OMG!!!!

You saw that??? Oops. Never mind, I don't have one of those things. But you should see my Barbi collection!!!!

(K. wouldn't have gone that far! I think.)

[madeline_con]

31. That's alarming AND funny. n/t

[Floogeldy]

10. How do we know you are telling the truth?

I will monitor your future posts, and judge for myself. In time, you may be exonerated. At the very least, you have been irresponsible for allowing such an alleged person to have access to your account.

I will give you a second chance. However, I warn you. You are on a short leash.

Sincerely,

Floog

[KitchenWitch]

12. Spoken like one who should be on a short leash!

:silly:

[Floogeldy]

13. Affirmative

[Maine Mary]

42. Well. perhaps you could scan my old posts

Other then that, I don't know what to say :shrug: other then :hi:

[WCGreen]

14. I wondered why you hated me so.....

I got a wierd PM....

Made no sense...

[Maine Mary]

20. I'm sorry

for whatever it was. I don't know you but hope to in the future. I like you're DU name for starters!

[WCGreen]

21. I was wondering....

Cause it just didn;t fit with your other stuff....

Well, good to have YOU around MM....

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

15. You're cool with me

But hey..the note I sent you was responded to by you....right?
(and it hasn't arrived yet...when it does, I will forward it to you)

[GoddessOfGuinness]

16. Maine Mary...

I knew something just wasn't right. Glad you're back! :hug:

[Crazy Guggenheim]

19. I've got an idea. Is there anyway you can get him back on?

:popcorn: :popcorn: :popcorn:

[Floogeldy]

22. Good idea.

Bring it on. }(

[Crazy Guggenheim]

25. PREPARE FOR BATTLE!!

[madeline_con]

33. What does she say to get him to come back?

:popcorn:

[Crazy Guggenheim]

34. I don't know. But she'll think of something.

[Maine Mary]

55. To #'s 19, 22, 25, 33, and 31..............

What do you want from me??? :shrug:

[Crazy Guggenheim]

59. Let them get back on and post. What hours don't you post at then we

will know it's not you.

[Crazy Guggenheim]

60. Also, are you always on these hours?

[Maine Mary]

62. No usually days.

But babysitting children has thrown me all off. My sister and husband have gone away to Portland and their son (an 8 year old) is only now settling down. He's got alot of issues and EVERYTHING scares him. Everytime I check on him, his eyes are wide open.

[Maine Mary]

44. Oh My!

Actually I would say the Vikings added much to Ireland's agrarian society. You guys were much better then the British! :-)

[Maine Mary]

28. Not Tonight but Probably Tomorrow

I'll try, but he knows I hate him using my puter so it may not work. I WILL try though...if the plan is good.

BTW- What is the plan?

[Heidi]

29. You should just trust Crazy Guggenheim on this.

:thumbsup:

[BlueIris]

56. Hee. I liked "toss them out" better, but yeah, let's explore this option

And again, hee.

[Shine]

23. Wow, that's an outrageous story!

what a shitty thing for him to do! For what it's worth, I hadn't come across any of "your" postings lately, so I wasn't affected.

Undoubtedly though, I bet this has affected your relationship with him. Good luck. I hope HE apologizes to YOU!

[lpbk2713]

27. He fits the profile.

That was a typical stunt for a typically devious RWer. Welcome back to the fold MM.

[merh]

30. I hope you send apologies to those you publically attacked.

You do not owe me an apology, but if you check your posts over the last 48 hours you will see that you blatantly attacked at least one person that I know of and called her out. Some rather odd, if not cruel posts were posted by whoever it was using your sign on.

You may want to take the time to find out who you personally insulted (review your pmails) and then apologize.

[RevCheesehead]

36. I agree with Merh on this one.

In particular, I know that SouthlandShari deserves an explanation.
That post was extremely rude and hurtful (at least, I know I'd be terribly hurt if I were her).

[merh]

37. What happened to the Divine MissM?

Dang, get grumpy and fed up and look what happens. x( The magic is gone.

And after all of my music ministry. :-(

Yes, the post calling southlandshari out was just horrible. No one deserves that, especically one of the fairest mods on DU.

[RevCheesehead]

40. In this post, I'm completely serious.

(don't worry - you're still divine!)

If I were you, Mary, I'd check through "My Posts" very carefully, and send a short note to each person who may have been offended.

And for heaven's sake, if you're NOT going to log out of DU, at least consider getting your computer on a Password protection, so he can't do this again.

[Maine Mary]

64. I may just send a few hellos

To those who have been offended, But don't forget that the biggest victim here is me and I need time to heal.

[Heidi]

65. No, the biggest victim here is Southlandshari.

Have you PM'd her an apology?

[RevCheesehead]

66. Are you really Mary?

This response makes no sense.

Although you may have felt victimized by your BIL, that is a completely separate issue from what happened here on the boards. What happened here is that someone used your screenname, without your permission. However, YOUR NAME is still associated with what was posted.

You really cannot avoid this issue by laughing it off, or blaming someone else. And simply sending a few hellos isn't going to cut it.

I'm going to cut you a break, and presume this isn't really you.
Good luck, and get rid of that asshole ASAP.

[Robeson]

68. Agree.

[Maine Mary]

70. OK, So again, I apologize

After all that is what this thread is all about. :-)

[RevCheesehead]

73. Apology without accountability is meaningless.

And I am more convinced than ever that you are not who you claim to be.

[Maine Mary]

75. I couldn't sleep

Who do you think I am then?

[Heidi]

38. That was my first thought.

Admirably, SouthlandShari was gracious enough to _not_ respond to those intentionally malicious posts. :thumbsup:

Further, we're each responsible for our DU accounts, including purported abuses of our accounts by others. Call me a loving skeptic. :shrug:

[Maine Mary]

49. Sorry SouthlandShari!

I don't know you but whatever happened, I am sorry about. :crazy:

[BlueIris]

58. Um. Yeah.

Ouch. Not your fault, but yeah.

[Maine Mary]

47. Who

personally insulted? :shrug:

[merh]

52. check your pmails

see what was sent to others and see if you did personally insult folks via pmails.

[Maine Mary]

63. I didn't send them

~

[madeline_con]

32. I did a search...

While I'm not familiar with your usual posting style, there were a couple of obviously "unusual" posts. Deviating from the path, so to speak.

Don't dwell. All's well. :hi:

[RevCheesehead]

43. Mary: if you haven't seen it, you need to.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=4522193&mesg_id=4522193

Now can you understand why people are/were angry?

[Maine Mary]

45. Yup

Please don't show me any more.

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

46. Are they still living there? Is this long term? Why not simply revoke

any rights for him using your computer, I don't know if you ever gave him permission to use it at all in the first place... but if you did, he has certainly lost any right to use it, period, end of story, he can pay money in an internet cafe if he really needs to get online...

Solution 1: Move the computer, if this is feasible, depending on the logistics of where your internet connection is etc., so it is out of "their" area and within "your" area.

Solution 2: Set operating sytem passwords etc. so that he can't log on.

These solutions are not mutually exclusive, you could do both...

[Omphaloskepsis]

48. Check all the right wing boards and see if he belongs to any of them..

Then go all liberal on their asses..

[Maine Mary]

50. I don't have too

It appears that he spends his time here. I've no idea why.

[Omphaloskepsis]

53. Well, then...

Shaving cream in his hand and tickle his nose with a feather..

You might also want to examine other online activities you pursue. I'm mostly thinking of on-line banking, credit card payments, and mortgage payments. I could get a ton of things off my roomies computers in a few seconds. And If I installed a program to capture keystrokes.. YIKES..

[Maine Mary]

61. I am safe in that regard.

My uncle is an attorney and spent 3 term as Maine's Attorney General. I own next to nothing, but what I've got is safely tucked away thanks my good ole uncle wiggly. :-)

[Open Mindz]

69. How rude!

I can't believe someone who is related to you would do such horrible things! I mean, what if one of us never forgave you for acting like a conservative? I wouldn't forgive him for that. You know your sister will eventually see him for what he is and get a nice respectful husband who won't break onto your computer and make everyone think that you are anything but a liberal. I would give him a piece of my mind. I hope you already have!

[Heidi]

71. Welcome to DU!

I think it's excellent that you stumbled upon one of the most instructive threads ever during your brief time with us! Welcome! :hi:

[Maine Mary]

72. Yes, Welcome!

:hi:

[Open Mindz]

74. thank you!

Thank you for your warm welcomes! I'm glad I've found such a group of people who have ideas that are so much like mine. Sometimes I just feel like I'm going crazy listening to all of the conservatives.

[In_The_Wind]

76. I accept your apology.

The first time you called me a worthless newbie back in the beginning of October, I couldn't understand why you hated me so much since we'd never met or posted together about anything.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=4479040#4479615

[TheBaldyMan]

77. Why didn't he get his own a/c?

seems so simple even a republican could figure it out!

Heck even freepers can log their own a/c, how dumb can somebody be?

[Maine Mary]

78. There is a reason

My sister is 6 years younger then me and from very early on in their dating, I figured out pretty quickly that he was WAY too much like my ex-husband, and I was just trying to be protective when I urged her to find someone more suitable. God knows why but she stuck w/him and he still resents the fact that I tried to butt in to this day. Now they find themselves in bad circumstances (thanks to him :eyes:) which is why they are here.

Point? He wrote under my name on purpose. He knows I like this webset and like a dumby, I have it set to the automatic password. He can get on the site as easily as I can.

[LynneSin]

79. Throw the bum out on his ass

Tell your sister she & the kids can hang around but she needs to unload the dead weight!

[Call Me Wesley]

80. Just one lil' question:

Who posted this?

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=4486999#4487336

[Pithlet]

81. Locking

This thread is degenerating into flames.