OMFG I just was at a homicide scene

[WestHoustonDem]

I woke up and heard screaming from across the street. I heard a woman scream OMG HE'S NOT BREATHING! I'm CPR trained so I went outside and got there before the cops. Her fiance had been cut up and half his face was gone. And her son had witnessed the murder. OMFG OMFG.

[Vektor]

1. Oh, good god.

I'm sorry you had to see that. How awful.

[Tsiyu]

2. I am so sorry

Damn. That is some trippin' event to witness. This is a crazy old world.

:hug:

[NMMNG]

3. I'm sorry you were witness to that

:hug:

[MissMillie]

34. How terrible!

:hug: I'm so sorry that you had to witness such a scene. Try to envision something that brings you bliss.

[WestHoustonDem]

4. Thanks. Don't know what I'd do without DU n/t

[Maddy McCall]

5. Hey, WHD...

What a terrible thing to see. I'm a first responder, so I see some gore occasionally. It leaves a mark on you, that's for sure. When you are a part of something as traumatic as what you just witnessed, you probably need to have a good friend to whom you can kind of unload. Don't keep it all bottled up inside you, or it can hurt you.

:hug:

[WestHoustonDem]

6. Thanks Maddy, I will later on. No one is awake right now n/t

[cleofus1]

7. all you can do

is what's physically possible...thank goodness for first responders and all EMT...my mom was a nurse in los angeles when i was growing up, she worked urgent care in inglewood...my god...i could never do that...i would just break down in tears the first time i saw an injured child...a dead man i could handle...but injured (or dead kids) would just make me freeze in panic...it takes a special person to respond when the chips are down...kudos to you for doing what you could in a bad situation...

[WestHoustonDem]

12. I was actually able to catch a little sleep

this morning. I had a tooth extracted yesterday and am on Vicodin, which is probably why I was sleeping lightly enough to wake up in the first place. I didn't tell my daughter (16) before she left for school, but when I looked outside, the cops and crime scene tape are still there.

[RagingInMiami]

8. So who killed him?

[WestHoustonDem]

13. The fiance thinks it was a guy who'd been staying with them

who had hit on her last week.

[RagingInMiami]

15. I don't mean to sound harsh in light of such circumstances

But he should have been thrown out as soon as he hit on her.

[WestHoustonDem]

17. That's certainly what I would have done. But the only part of

the story I heard was her hysterics right after her she found her fiance dead. I don't think we are in a position to judge the situation based on my limited knowledge.

[RagingInMiami]

19. Is that guy in custody?

[WestHoustonDem]

21. I don't know. I only stayed around until the cops got their

shit together and worked on calming down the girl and her son. They told me homicide will want a statement from me and I will certainly ask that question when they call.

[khashka]

9. I am so sorry WHD

I was once at the scene when cops pulled body parts out of a dumpster. And that will always stay with me. So I know wat you mean....

But you are very admirable for going over there, alone, to try to help someone. Sure, there are people who do terrible things like you describe. But there are also people like you who try to help people.

But, yeah, OMFG is a good response to what you saw. And the poor son who witnessed it all!

Khash.

[crispini]

10. Wow.

:hug:

[xchrom]

11. sorry! that is soo sad.

please let us know how you are doing.

[WestHoustonDem]

14. I'm doing better now. I was able to sleep a little, which is good

because I had a tooth extracted yesterday. I didn't tell my daughter (16) about it before she left for school, but when I got up I see the cops and crime scene tape are still there, so she knows something happened, just not about my involvement. That's probably for the best until I can talk to her about it this evening.

Whatever I'm going through is nothing compared to that poor little boy.

[xchrom]

20. no, of course you are right.

but we are still concerned about you -- none of that is easy.

[WestHoustonDem]

22. Thanks.

At 4am, being able to log onto DU was a godsend. I certainly didn't want to wake my friends up and needed to unload.
:hug:

[Blue Diadem]

16. I hope the cops get the guy right away,

otherwise I fear for the child and the fiance.

I'm sorry you had to see that but obviously you are a kind soul to go try to help. My heart goes out to all involved.

[WestHoustonDem]

18. The guy she thought did it was either married or engaged

to her friend who is pregnant with twins. If that woman witnessed the murder, I worry for her too.

[Blue Diadem]

25. It's a very frightening situation.

I'm hoping and praying everyone remains safe and they catch the creep asap.

[Rhiannon12866]

23. OMFG!!! I'm so sorry!!! What a horrible thing for you to have faced!!!

I was certified in CPR for many years, as well, but that's not kind of the thing that you are trained for or even imagine. I'm so sorry, my friend. I don't even know what else to say except to suggest counseling, and for the poor son, as well. I'd sure need something, after seeing such a thing. Please take good care of yourself and let us know how you're doing.;(

Rhiannon:hug:

[WestHoustonDem]

26. I really think I'm okay, thanks in large part to DU

I was already on vicodin for a toothache, which I'm sure helped. And I'm smoking like a chimney.

[Rhiannon12866]

29. I thought of that when I read your post, that I was so glad that DU was

there for you. It's such a remarkable resource and also a great source of support. I hope that the vicoden helps, but I'd prefer valium! And I'm smoking too, smoke more when I'm stressed, so I sure understand. I just hope that you can take it easy for the next few days. And I would consider seeing someone. This is a trauma that'll be with you for a long time, so you need to do what you can to take care of yourself. And I am so sorry. This is not something you ever expected when you took CPR.;(

Rhiannon:hug:

[WestHoustonDem]

30. If I could blow the day off, I'd add xanax to the mix, but

since I lost yesterday to the tooth thing, I have to get at least a little work done. But I will go easy on myself.

[Rhiannon12866]

31. Xanax would have been my next suggestion. It puts me to sleep.

And it's great if you can get some work done and take your mind off this, but I'm glad that you're going easy on yourself. And not just today, since this is something that won't be forgotten by tomorrow, or anytime soon. Yikes! I am still so sorry. Just take care of yourself and let us know how you are.

Rhiannon:pals:

[Blue Diadem]

32. Please take care of yourself,

you may still be in a state of shock and not realize it. I'd be careful about taking Xanax with pain meds.

It might help to see someone who can at least tell you what to expect. Several months ago, my 6 yr old granddaughter found a suicide victim on her Dad's property. My daughter took her to a counselor within a few days and was told exactly what to expect and how we could help her deal with it. It also affected my former SIL..a former VFM, EMT and now a LEO. Luckily my daughter talked him into going with them and it helped him too.

It's something you don't expect to happen on your property or in your case so close to your home.

[WestHoustonDem]

33. I'm not taking the xanax until I don't need the vicodin for the tooth

pain, and am able to eat something substantial. I have to work my part time job this afternoon, but I called my coworker and told her I'd be in late so I can talk to my daughter when she gets home from school.

I'm aware I'm still shell shocked and will find someone to talk to.

[WestHoustonDem]

24. Here's the story on the local news

http://abclocal.go.com/ktrk/story?section=local&id=3783802

Altercation between roommates end in fatal stabbing

It happened on Country Place near Fern. According to investigators, the men were fighting while one was in the process of moving out. That's when the suspect pulled out a knife, and fatally stabbed the victim.

Police say they know who they are looking for and expect to release the suspect's name.

[Rhiannon12866]

38. Thanks for the official update. Yikes! You hear about such things, every

night, on the local news, but never expect these things to touch you. I'm still so sorry, and please let us know how you're doing.:-(

Rhiannon:hug:

[Shine]

27. Jesus, that totally sucks. I'm really sorry.

what a crazy world.
:hug:

[kedrys]

28. Holy f*cking shit!

:hug:

[Left Is Write]

35. How horrible!

How horrible for all of you.

[WestHoustonDem]

36. I tried calling a crisis hotline

and they sucked. DU is much better therapy for me. Thanks everyone!

:grouphug:

[Initech]

37. Wow, that's pretty fucked up!

:wow:

[WestHoustonDem]

39. Hi everyone - Thanks so much for the support.

I just got home from work. I'm really doing okay. Maybe it just hasn't hit me yet. My neighbors have been stopping by and checking on me. My daughter is watching me like a hawk.

I know to expect flashbacks and nightmares. I'm going to be around a lot of friends the all weekend.

Thank you all for caring so much. There is no better family than DU! :grouphug:

[Blue Diadem]

40. I was wondering how you were doing,

glad you're doing ok.

:hug:

[CornField]

42. Unsolicited advice

If you do have any repercussions following this & can't think of anyone to call or be with, go to the fire or police department. Those folks have seen this stuff too & they can help you through the worst of it. (Speaking from experience here)

:hug:

[WestHoustonDem]

43. Thanks, that's good advice.

:hug:

[Crazy Guggenheim]

41. Sending you good vibes.

[Whoa_Nelly]

44. How shocking!

First, hope you are going to do all right, and are hanging in even now! WOW! Bless your heart, and all those other poor people.

Best right now to just give you a big one of these...



Hope the warmth of the Lounge warms and soothes the shock and sadness you just experienced and witnessed.

Stay with us as long as you need.

Nelly

[WestHoustonDem]

45. Thanks Nelly

:hug:

[Rhiannon12866]

46. I've been thinking about you and hoping that you're okay.

Let us know how you're doing, both coping with his terrible trauma and with the tooth problem, which is enough, all by itself. My friend also had dental problems and was on vicoden and he said it made him feel awful. Just remember that DU is here, whenever you need support or a friend.:-)

Rhiannon:grouphug:

[WestHoustonDem]

47. Hi Rhiannon

I'm really doing okay. I spent the weekend with some of my favorite local Democrats. My tooth is feeling better. I had an excellent job interview today. That whole night has been pushed to the back of my mind. It's still there, but I feel very detached from it.

Thanks for thinking of me. Lyn

[UrbScotty]

48. My prayers go out to all affected

:-(

[Lindsey]

49. I'm so very sorry also for all involved....

I also send healing energy to you and to that poor woman and her child - my God.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

50. That's horrible!

Was it a robbery? How old is the woman's son?
You should have a glass of wine or something...You must be shaking...

[MnFats]

51. Give yourself credit for going out there to lend a hand...

...even though you couldn't change the outcome, it was a courageous thing you did....not knowing the circumstances, you could've been hurt....but you don't need me reminding you of that; I'm sure it's occurred to you.
...sure you can't skip work tomorrow? Might be worth hooking up with someone experienced in coping with trauma.