Need prayers/warm thoughts for a friend who hit and killed a kid

[GreenPartyVoter]

on a skateboard this week. She is ok but is very shaken up and heartbroken. (I don't have all the details but apparently the teen was playing chicken in the road after dark, was just missed by one car whose driver stopped to call the police, but my friend ran into him before anyone had time to do something about it.)

[lukasahero]

1. OMG GPV - your friend will be in my thoughts

I'm sure she knows, from your description, that there was nothing she could do but she must be devastated anyway. What a horrible thing to live with.

:hug: to your friend.

[GreenPartyVoter]

6. She was having a really rough year to begin with and was already stressed

out. I am very worried that this will be too much for her.

[XemaSab]

2. How awful!

It sounds like the kid was responsible, but how horrible for her! :(

[RevCheesehead]

3. I'm so sorry.

GPV - be sure to post this in the Prayer group, OK?

:hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

5. Will do.

[MissMillie]

4. Wow... that's just awful

I can't begin to imagine.....

My prayers are with your friend.

[Gormy Cuss]

7. Your friend may benefit from counseling

whether with her clergy or a counselor. This will reverberate in her mind for a very long time and it might help to deal with it sooner rather than later.

I hope that she has a lot of support from her family and other friends. :hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

9. She has the support of our whole church and the staff of the

school where she teaches, I am sure. Honestly, I don't know if she will be at church Sunday or not. I hope so as I would like to give her a hug.

[Sugar Smack]

8. Oh my God. What a horrible situation.

A guy who went to my highschool had the same thing happen to him. Someone had jumped in front of his car (on foot) and ruled as a suicide. The guy driving needed a few years of therapy.

I wish your friend well.

[Xithras]

10. As an ex skateboarder who was hit several times...

...my strongest :hug:'s for both your friend and the family of the dead boy. Skateboarding is a dangerous enough sport without the added stupidity of playing chicken with cars 200 times your weight, so your friend has nothing to feel guilty about. It's a tragic situation, but she's no more responsible than the engineer of a train that hits a pedestrian on the tracks. It doesn't make the situation any less sad, but there's absolutely nothing she could have done about it.

[GreenPartyVoter]

11. Wow you've been hit? *hugs* How scary! I used to

ride bikes on the side of the road and that was scary enough. I can't imagine purposely pulling out in front of a vehicle like that. :(

[Xithras]

13. There's no way to know what he was thinking.

It may not have been deliberate. Boarding requires a lot of concentration to stay upright and pull of your tix (or whatever they call them nowadays...I haven't boarded in 13 years). That kind of concentration can make you oblivious to the world around you and lead you into some amazingly dumb situations. One of the times I was hit, I had ollied out into the roadway to avoid a large raised crack on the sidewalk. I was so focused on the crack and landing my jump that I didn't even notice the car coming up behind me.

Still, the skateboarding culture is one that treats scars and injuries as positive things...proof that you're the real deal. Diehard skateboarders scoff at danger as they throw themselves off buildings and down stairways that would make most of us cringe in horror. It's not that they have a deathwish, but that they have built up a mindset that the greater the peril, the greater the thrill. They start believing that they won't get hurt, and that even if something does happen, they'll just end up with another scar to brag about to their friends. This kid may simply have taken that a little too far.

[Midlodemocrat]

12. How kind of you to post that.

[newyawker99]

14. I am sending good thoughts her way.

:-( :hug:

[flamingyouth]

15. That is just awful

How sad. Very sorry to hear this. :(

[Shell Beau]

16. Oh my! How terrible.

Kids think they are invincible sometimes. My prayers are with your friend and with the kid's family.

[undeterred]

17. So sorry to hear this.

This is going to be very hard for her and she will need support for a long time.

Years ago, a woman at a church I attended backed over her own child in the driveway (2 years old). She could not forgive herself and she eventually took her life.

Forgiveness, its all about forgiveness, even though she did not intend this in any way.

[bigwillq]

18. Wow, that is just awful.

Love and thoughts to the kid's family. :hug:

Also good vibes and thoughts to your friend. :hug:

[xmas74]

19. My thoughts are w/ her.

An old friend in high school hit and killed a child. There were two young children riding in the back of a pick up. The mother slammed on her brakes, the little boy flew out backwards and flew through my friend's windshield. He died two hours later. She knows that it was not her fault but she's never forgiven herself over the incident.
Your friend will need a lot of time and understanding. Good luck to her and God Bless You (if that's ok w/ you) for sticking w/ her friend.