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RetroLounge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 10:45 AM Original message |
Poll question: Would you stay in a loveless marriage just for the kids? |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 10:46 AM Response to Original message |
1. which parent is the drunk? |
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RetroLounge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 10:48 AM Response to Reply #1 |
3. No active drunks in this family. |
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BlueIris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jan-07-06 09:44 AM Response to Reply #1 |
88. The "non drunk" should also remember to get therapy for him/herself. |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 10:47 AM Response to Original message |
2. The DU lounge slut is sounding like a pretty good |
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Ellen Forradalom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 10:48 AM Response to Original message |
4. You'll only really know the answer to that |
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bicentennial_baby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 10:48 AM Response to Original message |
5. knowing what i know about your particular situation... |
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Whoa_Nelly (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 02:40 PM Response to Reply #5 |
46. Counseling for yourself as you sort out how to go about this |
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bertha katzenengel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 10:49 AM Response to Original message |
6. for me: i'd stay because i made the committment... |
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leftofthedial (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 10:52 AM Response to Original message |
7. I stayed in a loveless marriage for 10 years |
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GOPisEvil (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 10:54 AM Response to Original message |
8. This is a generic answer, as only you know your own situation. |
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eyesroll (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 10:54 AM Response to Original message |
9. I'm sorry it's come to this, Retro. |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 10:54 AM Response to Original message |
10. RL....my heart goes out for you |
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lizziegrace (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 10:56 AM Response to Original message |
11. Stayed 14 years too long |
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LynzM (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 10:59 AM Response to Original message |
12. From a divorced kid's perspective.... |
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LaraMN (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:29 AM Response to Reply #12 |
24. From a non-divorced kid's perspective... |
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rucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:17 AM Response to Original message |
13. Have you tried counseling? |
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RetroLounge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:18 AM Response to Reply #13 |
14. starts later this month |
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rucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:21 AM Response to Reply #14 |
15. Hang in there! |
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Burma Jones (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:22 AM Response to Original message |
16. Leave, but don't go too far |
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rbnyc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:22 AM Response to Original message |
17. Loveless... |
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ScreamingMeemie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:22 AM Response to Original message |
18. As the 35 year old daughter of parents who are just splitting up now, |
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Corgigal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:24 AM Response to Original message |
19. I left |
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AlCzervik (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:25 AM Response to Original message |
20. Good luck with the counseling, it may help your split be more |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:27 AM Response to Original message |
21. Get out while you can. |
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rpgamerd00d (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:28 AM Response to Original message |
22. I got divorced for the sake of my daughter, so I know first hand |
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evlbstrd (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:29 AM Response to Original message |
23. No. |
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Blue Diadem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:34 AM Response to Original message |
25. I can't answer your poll |
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tigereye (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:43 AM Response to Original message |
26. talk it out with someone and decide what is best for everyone |
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mopinko (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 12:08 PM Response to Original message |
27. i once heard kurt vonnegut say- |
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RetroLounge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 01:11 PM Response to Reply #27 |
29. Yes, Trust is the big issue here, I think. |
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mopinko (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 01:54 PM Response to Reply #29 |
41. i was shocked |
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RevCheesehead (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 03:06 PM Response to Reply #29 |
49. Trust and Love |
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AngryAmish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 12:17 PM Response to Original message |
28. Stay |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 01:31 PM Response to Reply #28 |
34. What does this mean? |
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AngryAmish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 03:09 PM Response to Reply #34 |
51. Not get p.o.ed when you have a discrete lover |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 03:16 PM Response to Reply #51 |
52. Ah, the old fashioned way, huh? |
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AngryAmish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 03:32 PM Response to Reply #52 |
53. oh, yeah |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 03:37 PM Response to Reply #53 |
54. Sounds horrible... |
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AngryAmish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 04:43 PM Response to Reply #54 |
64. Pure anecdotal evidence |
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Shakespeare (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 04:17 PM Response to Reply #28 |
57. What utter bullshit. n/t |
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Cats Against Frist (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jan-07-06 12:28 PM Response to Reply #28 |
96. That's what I was going to say |
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RFKHumphreyObama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 01:20 PM Response to Original message |
30. My thoughts, prayers, best wishes, positive vibes and hugs to you RL |
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SeattleGirl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 01:22 PM Response to Original message |
31. I left |
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hfojvt (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 01:23 PM Response to Original message |
32. at least until I got another girlfriend |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 01:33 PM Response to Reply #32 |
35. An awful lot of assumptions there. n/t |
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hfojvt (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 03:47 PM Response to Reply #35 |
55. of course, but I consider them more or less warranted assumptions |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 04:24 PM Response to Reply #55 |
59. Well maybe not a lot... just one big one. |
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hfojvt (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 04:37 PM Response to Reply #59 |
60. well that would not be an assumption |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 04:41 PM Response to Reply #60 |
62. But |
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Xithras (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 01:30 PM Response to Original message |
33. Depends. What's the actual dynamic here? |
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imperialismispasse (836 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 02:27 PM Response to Reply #33 |
42. I agree with this comment |
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Nikia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 07:00 PM Response to Reply #33 |
75. I agree |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 01:33 PM Response to Original message |
36. I have for a long time. |
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Tsiyu (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 01:37 PM Response to Original message |
37. Self-delete |
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antigone382 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 01:41 PM Response to Original message |
38. What would you have your kids do (as adults) if they faced this situation? |
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Lochloosa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 01:42 PM Response to Original message |
39. Hypothetical question. |
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RetroLounge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 02:38 PM Response to Reply #39 |
44. "you meet the women of your dreams" |
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Lochloosa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jan-07-06 08:28 AM Response to Reply #44 |
85. lol....took me a minute |
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City Lights (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 01:45 PM Response to Original message |
40. Don't give up until you've given counseling a chance. |
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Hell Hath No Fury (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 02:35 PM Response to Original message |
43. That's a tough choice... |
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Orsino (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 02:39 PM Response to Original message |
45. You do owe the kids something. |
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miss_american_pie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 02:41 PM Response to Original message |
47. Not enough info to vote |
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Zookeeper (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 02:48 PM Response to Original message |
48. I don't really know the background to your situation, so... |
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Mutley (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 03:08 PM Response to Original message |
50. No, no, no! |
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Heddi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 04:06 PM Response to Original message |
56. My husband resents that his parents stayed together in a loveless marriage |
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Zookeeper (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 04:18 PM Response to Original message |
58. 'Just another thought... |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 04:38 PM Response to Original message |
61. Why would you father 2 children with this woman if you were not sure... |
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Ellen Forradalom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 04:43 PM Response to Reply #61 |
63. Back story here |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 05:10 PM Response to Reply #63 |
66. Then why would she have had two kids by him? |
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eyesroll (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 06:44 PM Response to Reply #66 |
74. Because things change? I don't think many people get married and have kids |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 04:54 PM Response to Original message |
65. divorce doesnt harm kids as much as neglect does |
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NashVegas (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jan-07-06 10:13 AM Response to Reply #65 |
91. Funny You Should Say That |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jan-07-06 02:05 PM Response to Reply #91 |
97. i disagree |
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NashVegas (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jan-07-06 04:11 PM Response to Reply #97 |
98. Where Did You Get That Statistic? |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jan-07-06 04:25 PM Response to Reply #98 |
99. in a lot of classes in college |
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NashVegas (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jan-07-06 04:32 PM Response to Reply #99 |
100. I'd Love to See The Cite |
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WritingIsMyReligion (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 05:14 PM Response to Original message |
67. No. I'd get out. |
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skygazer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 05:17 PM Response to Original message |
68. Divorce does screw up kids |
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SOteric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 05:19 PM Response to Original message |
69. What message do you want to send you children? |
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REDKING (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 06:07 PM Response to Original message |
70. Simple......No. |
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jmm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 06:27 PM Response to Original message |
71. One of the best things my parents did for me was divorcing |
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BlueIris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jan-07-06 09:54 AM Response to Reply #71 |
89. The worst thing my parents did to me was stay together. nt |
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usedtobesick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 06:33 PM Response to Original message |
72. I did for a long time... I regret it now |
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Sugar Smack (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 06:42 PM Response to Original message |
73. My mother & father's divorce was the best thing that happened |
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u4ic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 10:46 PM Response to Original message |
76. I am a product of one of those |
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Ksec (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 10:59 PM Response to Original message |
77. Tough call |
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Left Is Write (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:02 PM Response to Original message |
78. I do not know what I would do. |
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latebloomer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:04 PM Response to Original message |
79. A recent study said |
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fishwax (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:23 PM Response to Original message |
80. my best to you |
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democracyindanger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:26 PM Response to Original message |
81. Every day you stay is lying to the kids |
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supernova (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:28 PM Response to Original message |
82. I don't know that it's possible |
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supernova (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jan-07-06 10:11 AM Response to Reply #82 |
90. Don't stay because you're afraid to be alone |
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KitchenWitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:30 PM Response to Original message |
83. I really cannot vote, because I am not in the situation |
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Radio_Lady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-06-06 11:41 PM Response to Reply #83 |
84. My kids were one and two years old when I divorced. I couldn't stay |
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LaurenG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jan-07-06 08:43 AM Response to Original message |
86. I had made a decision never to post in the lounge again |
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Onlooker (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jan-07-06 09:03 AM Response to Original message |
87. If it's over get out |
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BlueIris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jan-07-06 10:27 AM Response to Reply #87 |
93. Yep. |
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NashVegas (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jan-07-06 10:21 AM Response to Original message |
92. Under Certain Conditions |
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cassandra uprising (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jan-07-06 10:43 AM Response to Original message |
94. My parents divorced after 30 years and should have done it sooner. |
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RetroLounge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jan-07-06 10:49 AM Response to Original message |
95. All a Moot Point Now |
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Rhiannon12866 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jan-07-06 04:33 PM Response to Original message |
101. Of course you want to do what's best for your kids, |
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Hosnon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jan-07-06 04:33 PM Response to Original message |
102. Yes...as the child of divorce I think I would have preferred them stay |
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