did you ever feel

[leftofthedial]

like it was time to just wipe the slate clean and start over from scratch?

[auntAgonist]

1. yes ..

and I did. and I'm not sure it was the right thing to do, but it's done and I AM happy. Just not sure what I'd do if I had to do it all over again, but then, it's a moot point right?

:shrug:

[leftofthedial]

8. perhaps it's a fait accompli, but not necessarily moot

are things different? better? happier?

If you're happier, then congratulations.

[SeattleGirl]

2. Yes

I have that feeling now......

[leftofthedial]

9. A feeling like you did

or a feeling like you want to?

I'm on a cusp, but there are babies in the bathwater . . .

[SeattleGirl]

13. Want to.

Feeling more like I need to, for various reasons.

[leftofthedial]

21. for all it's scariness

change at least provides perspective

sometimes, that's all we really need

[Whoa_Nelly]

3. Yes

and was very glad I did!

[leftofthedial]

11. rockin!

I've always been a believer that pruning makes the tree bear more and better fruit.

[SofaKingLiberal]

4. yes

[khashka]

5. Yep. Often.

I used to fantasize about just getting in my car and driving until I ran out of gas. And wherever that was.... just starting a new life there with my old life totally forgotten..

II still think of that some times....

Khash.

[leftofthedial]

12. I'd do that, but

I'm not sure my car would clear the city limits! LOL

What's the closest you ever came to doing it? Ever actually just start driving, not sure that you'd go through with it?

[khashka]

25. Yeah, I did start out

I left SF and started heading down the PCH. Eventually turned around. A good idea since the car was rented.

A couple years ago, I got so sick of my life in Houston I headed out I10 heading west.


Both times I realized that what I was trying to escape was either inescapable (a fact of life) or something I had control over. And either way I was taking it with me. So might as well go home and look it in the face and either conquer it or learn to live with it.

Khash.

[leftofthedial]

29. I just played an old song of mine I haven't played in years

about driving up 101 from the San Francisco Airport, getting away and trying to start over.

Small world.

[Lavender Brown]

6. Yes

several times. Sometimes it got me out of my funk, sometimes not.

[leftofthedial]

15. did you actually do it

or just think about it

I think it would be harder for nearly everyone to actually do it than they think it would. We define ourselves by all the things we have and do and by what others expect of us way more than we think we do or would like to.

[supernova]

7. Yes. And I've done it

several times. Probably many more times before I die.

[leftofthedial]

16. how traumatic are the restarts?

how much do you change?

[Wapsie B]

10. Yes I have that feeling now

about a number of things.

[leftofthedial]

19. external things

or internal things?

[Wapsie B]

22. both.

[leftofthedial]

23. focus on the internal

the external are often either distractions or artifacts of an internal conflict

[Wapsie B]

26. very profound

[Oeditpus Rex]

14. Only every damned day (n.t)

[leftofthedial]

18. ah, the honesty of an editor

we all need one to keep our feet on the ground.

[Oeditpus Rex]

30. It's just like Robert Duvall said in 'The Paper'

"I've been in this business 30 years, and every day you start from nothin'."

[RevCheesehead]

28. ?

Is that as in "one day at a time?"
:hug:

[Oeditpus Rex]

33. Not at all

I'm not even conscious of that. It's just the way I am.

[RevCheesehead]

35. Doesn't something carry over from today to tomorrow?

There have to be some constancies in life. :)

[Oeditpus Rex]

36. Well, DU's always here

Thank Dog.

[RevCheesehead]

37. That, it is (rrowff!)

Sent you a message. :)

[Floogeldy]

17. The slate of life follows you until death.

Easy on the dreams, there. ;)

[leftofthedial]

20. oh god!

not the dreaded permanent record!!

:scared:

:-)

[bridgit]

24. yup, i endorse the action...

[leftofthedial]

27. tabula rasa

Viva la tabula rasa!

[obxhead]

31. Many times.....

Most times when I've done so it has yielded positive results as well.

[EstimatedProphet]

32. Please step away from the gun...

[leftofthedial]

38. gun? I don't have one

but I do have a Delete key.

[hickman1937]

34. Every day of my misbegotten life.

Unfortunately I take my responsiblities seriously. Live and die with my choices. On the upside, I live in one of the most beautiful states in the US. Sitting on the shore of a great lake in november will blow all bad away.

[NMMNG]

39. I wish I could go back in time

Albeit knowing what I do now, and begin from age 17 again. There is so much I would do differently. Alas I can do no such thing so I'm rather stuck with what I have now.

[SeattleGirl]

40. "If I could turn back time, If I could find a way"

I find myself thinking the same thing sometimes too, Buffy!

[NMMNG]

44. Probably why the "Hindsight is 20/20" expression came about

If we knew exactly what to do when we were young, everything would be perfect. Alas, we only think we know everything when we are young, then once we are older we realize we really knew nothing. Wouldn't it be great if we could age in reverse like people from Ork? :silly:

[SeattleGirl]

47. Indeed, it would!

Oh well, such is the lot of the human race!

[Wapsie B]

41. Buffy I felt that way for years.

I was swimming in regret. There's a whole world of things I could and should do differently. But I'm tired of letting my past have that kind of hold on me. We've got to learn from the bad and enjoy the good, and live well in the present.

[NMMNG]

45. I probably wouldn't feel that way so much

If my life wasn't so damn stagnant. Maybe once I get my MLIS (if I ever get it) and get a real job I'll stop feeling this way.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

43. Sometimes I wish I could, too.

But if I did things differently, some magical elements of my life would not exist.

Like my children. Some really dear friends. And all the valuable lessons that were learned as a result of painful experience.

You're not stuck, Buffy. Look inside the box...there are gifts in there. :hug:

[NMMNG]

46. Good points

I do realize that if I'd done things on the other path I imagine I would not have met certain people who have been of great benefit to me. I just sometimes wonder how different things could have been had I taken a different path.

Thanks for the hug. :hug:

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

42. Yep did it in 2004 .