Hey Moms out there. Is It just me?

[hickman1937]

Do you ever get to the point where you realize that there just isn't enough of you to go around? To make everyone happy you really need to split off a clone?

[Not_Giving_Up]

1. Yes

All of the time. I often turn to a recorded sounding voice, telling the children that they have reached a Mommy who has been temporarily disconnected, and they should try the Daddy.

[hickman1937]

2. I remember being in a toy store one time,

with my young kids and they kept yelling "Mom" this and "Mom" that, and I had enough. I yelled at both of them to call me Fred, because I was sick and tired of mom. The woman standing next to me busted out laughing, and I wanted to slug her. I was serious.

[Not_Giving_Up]

4. I want...Can I have...?

Mooooom! Mother! Mooommy!

[Arkansas Granny]

31. I would tell my children that I was changing my name to

sh** and every time they called me I was going to slap them. Usually got the point across.

Seriously, though, as a single working mother of four, I used to tell people that what I needed was a stay at home wife.

[Elidor]

51. LOL!

Changing your name to shit! That sounds like my mother!

Uh...mom? Izzat yoo?

[xmas74]

37. That is funny.

She probably laughed because she understood exactly what you were going through and wished she had said something similar once.

[hickman1937]

49. I'm pretty sure you're right about that.

After a couple of seconds she got me laughing.

[Oeditpus Rex]

3. LOL!

Oh, gawd... that's classic. :rofl:

Oughta be on a T-shirt or somethin'.

[Not_Giving_Up]

5. I saw a t-shirt once that said

"Who are these kids, and WHY do they keep calling me Mommy?" Next time I'm there, I just might buy it. I now look at my daughter and say "Who are you? Why are you following me?" She rolls her eyes and gives me the "mo-ther!"...You know it, only daughters can say it like that.

[hickman1937]

7. I almost had t-shirts made for the kids once that would have said

Grandma's Revenge. I still think it was a good idea.

[obxhead]

8. That's because when a son tries it they

get the shit slapped right out of them. :)

[Z_I_Peevey]

10. I have that shirt

and I plan to wear it tonight at a mom-and-kids gathering!

And speaking as a mom of five, I can say that yes, I often find myself a bit overwhelmed. Especially now that all are grown or almost grown. Their problems are a little more complicated than "I made a D on a test," or "I have a zit on prom night."

It's never out, it's never over.

[Shine]

25. I have that, as a fridge magnet. Got it from MY DAD, LOL!!

:rofl:

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

6. This reminds me .

When I was still in HS my little brother and I would get on our mom's nerves to every little thing - it got to the point where if we went up to her and called her name , she would completely zone us out , ignoring her . We even patted her like " Mom , MOM ! Hello ? I know you hear me . " - and she would continue zoning us out and ignoring us while playing her video games LOL . Now that I am older , I understand why she did - we drove her crazy .

[hickman1937]

9. Or maybe she was just worn out. It happens. n/t

[Ellen Forradalom]

11. Of course

The fundamental dilemma of motherhood.

Everyone wants a piece of the action. They ain't always getting it.

If it's any comfort, think of the kids understanding that as an important milestone in growing up. What if they sallied forth into adulthood thinking they can yank others' chains whenever they want? I shudder to think.

[ScreamingMeemie]

12. Yes! Oh Yes! The other day this is what happened in our car...

Baby Grumpy,"Mom...mom...did you know...something something something something..."

Teenaged Grumpy," and so Michelle was all like...something...and we were all laughing and stuff something something something"

Radio," Don't change for me...something something..."

Children,"You're not even listening..NO Listen to ME!!!"

Me,"I'm listening...."

Them,"Oh yeah? Tell us what we just said." I need to implant a tape recorder in my head so that I can spew it back as well as my dad did when we were kids and accused him of not listening. Sigh...

[tigereye]

46. ha ha ha

that is so true!

I only have the one kid and he gets on me when I repeat out loud what he just said, so that I can actually process it.

I can imagine what it's like with more, since I was one of five kids. My poor mom. One time she just went and hid in her room. Now I know why.

what kills me is when they yell for you when they know you are in the bathroom. :eyes:

oops, over-enthusiastic dupe....

[tigereye]

47. ha ha ha

that is so true!

I only have the one kid and he gets on me when I repeat out loud what he just said, so that I can actually process it.

I can imagine what it's like with more, since I was one of five kids. My poor mom. One time she just went and hid in her room. Now I know why.

what kills me is when they yell for you when they know you are in the bathroom. :eyes:

[clyrc]

13. not just you

My girls talk constantly, over each other and everyone else. I was thinking just recently that when I was young I never felt like I got enough attention, but now my kids are always talking to me, and I would like some peace and quiet sometimes. They are on vacation from school now, and will be for the next three weeks, and they can be so draining!

[rbnyc]

14. Ha! Ummm, Yes!

If it's been more than 12 hours since my husband and I have had sex, he starts whining. The baby doesn't want anyone but me if I'm home. He won't let me go to the bathroom or take a shower by myself. No one else will do for feeding, diaper changing, etc. The very second the baby is asleep and my husband either goes out or starts playing his computer games, the cats are all over me for attention. Then there's the housework, and my job. I currently switched to a part-time schedule, but I'm doing the exact same job, just in fewer days for less money.

I thought I had some friends once... It would be great to see them sometime.

[lizziegrace]

15. I think most of us can relate

The order of importance in my house? (based on neediness)

My daughter
Then-husband

(tied for first place. He was always gone and she was priority.)

The dog.

The cats.

The hamster.

Me.

I did it all too. Worked full-time, cleaned up the yard, mowed the yard, took the cars in for service, made sure my daughter had underwear that was clean (and fit!), paid the bills, dealt with insurance, the bank and on and on.

[Shine]

26. Jesus, 12 hours??!

I hope you're kidding.

:hi:

[rbnyc]

38. I may be exaggerating SLIGHTLY!

But seriously, we're quite active.


;-)

[Shine]

40. Must be nice.

Good for you!

On our end, because of our general and common states of exhaustion, it's a matter of Quality, not Quantity. :D

We do the best we can, as do we all....

:hi:

[Ellen Forradalom]

41. Do you share??

Mine won't turn over in the morning.

[rbnyc]

42. I'd love to share.

I don't have that much energy! And since cloning is really out of the question.

But you'd have to do some housework, and take the baby one night a week too.

;-)

[Ellen Forradalom]

45. Deal.

:evilgrin:

[Left Is Write]

16. Yes! I do!

[AlCzervik]

17. yes indeed, at least a few times a week.

[LaraMN]

18. Start crying and wailing, "I was gonna be a ballerina!!!"

That gets people to back off REAL quick! :)

[lizziegrace]

19. I wish I'd known that

:rofl:

I relied on "the look". They scattered like cockroaches when the lights are turned on.

[LaraMN]

20. My kids are quite good at realizing when I'm about. to. snap.

The littlest one, not so much, but the older two know when to make themselves scarce.

[lizziegrace]

22. My sister has a canister in the cupboard with chocolate

in it. When the canister is taken down, her kids bolt. She doesn't share with anyone and they know she's about to snap. She can polish off at least a pound of chocolate a week and she's about 105 pounds on a good day.

[LaraMN]

23. Wow! I want her metabolism!

Mine isn't bad, but I sure couldn't do that! Yeah, amaretto truffles would make all the little things ever so much less taxing. :9

[lizziegrace]

24. So do I!

We're fraternal twins and she loves introducing me to her friends. "I want you to meet my twin sister" she says. They stand there looking at me, then at her. I'm sure they're thinking "now how the hell did THAT happen?"


x(

[LeftyMom]

21. Good lord yes

and I just have one kid. I have no idea how those with more manage. Tranquilizers would be my best guess. ;)

[nutsnberries]

28. 4 here (6-16) - i just say

*mom's not here*... and often it's the truth... i zone out and go into automatic mode.

[nutsnberries]

29. got to add- it's not always like that...

i'm usually *here* but sometimes i'm overloaded and zone out. :)

[fight4my3sons]

32. Today is a day I wish I had tranquilizers!

I have three - and the oldest is 3! The twins are 19 months. They have severe cabin fever. Where the hell is Spring! My husband works twelve hour days, my twins are like little cavemen grunting and throwing things, and my three year old is a mastermind at getting them into everything that they shouldn't be in. They are all climbing on everything. I've even brought the outdoor toys inside for them to play with and it is not helping. We need to live somewhere where it is not 23 degrees out right now!
AND if I play Candyland one more time I will lose my mind!
I'm a little stressed today. Sorry about the rant.

[LeftyMom]

39. I can't even imagine.

I've got one slightly deranged, seriously hyperactive, very very smart boy. He's almost five and all the kid I care to handle right now.

[fight4my3sons]

48. Whew! They are all sleeping :-)

Wow! I bet your son is adorable.

I love my boys, but they can be a handful. Sometimes I wonder what the heck were we thinking? Ha! Really, I love them more than I could ever explain, and after having two miscarriages, finding out I have some crazy blood clotting disorder and then having to take blood thinners to even have them, I am so happy to spend every day with them. However, they can get on my last nerve. They sure do look cute and innocent when they are asleep though :-)

[hickman1937]

50. ROFLMAO. I'm so sorry, but this is hilarious.

I know it's not for you, and my heart goes out to you, but you gave me the best laugh this week. Thanks. Hickman.

[fight4my3sons]

52. it's ok

Glad I could give you a good laugh.
It was much better today :-)

Actually, when my husband has the day off and is home with me and he starts talking to himself I start laughing. He looks at me and says "how the hell do you do this all day, every day? these kids are crazy!" They really are funny. I just need to get out more. We moved to Maine last year and we don't live near any family anymore. Needless to say I don't get out much and don't know anyone around here so I have basically lost my mind since moving here :crazy: Internet is what saves me.

[hickman1937]

53. Have you looked in here?

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topics&forum=156

Sometimes it helps to talk to people who are geographically close.

[fight4my3sons]

55. Yes, thanks.

I do check in there daily. I don't think anyone lives near me as I have posted before. I also check in at the parenting group, but I do more lurking on the site than posting. I tend to be on the shy side. It helps to know that people are out there though. I do belong to an online parents of multiples group that I'm fairly active with. Back in NY there was a mothers of multiples group, but here in Maine the closest one is an hour away. That I would go to. The only thing I could find around here is the MOPs group, but it sounds too religious based for me. We don't even attend a church regularly. It is just too hard to get out with a preschooler and two toddlers at this point. In a few years it will get easier.

[Shine]

27. Yes, I have gotten to that point....and it's NOT pretty.

For me, among other things, being a mother is all about creating Balance.....making sure that I'm in balance between what I'm constantly giving out and what I'm allowing myself to receive. I find that if I'm taking regular time for MYSELF, where I'm NOT focused on others and their happiness, I'M much , much happier.....which then, in turn, helps OTHERS to be happy. In our house, the rule is: If Mom is happy, EVERYBODY is happy! heheh. :)

I can tell I'm OUT of balance when I'm excessively cranky, critical, pessimistic, impatient and YELLING at the kids because they're yelling....and it happens more often than I'd like, believe me.

Parenting is the hardest thing I've EVER done, but it's also brought me the deepest joy. It's a spiritual path, truly, and NOT for the faint-hearted, right ladies??

:hi:

[RazzleCat]

30. I lost it once in the bathroom

I went in to use the toilet, and while sitting, first the cat's opened the door and entered, then in came the dog to tell me she needed to go out, followed by the kid (age 3ish) to start to ask me to do for him. I just started to scream at the top of my lungs. All I wanted was to take a crap, now leave me alone.

[Shine]

33. Been there, done that.

usually followed with the YELLED words, "Is NO place, sacred, goddammit??!?"
:evilgrin:

[LibertyLover]

34. Oh hell yes

My husband stays home with our 3 year old daughter and he is really frustrated that she won't listen to him, so he calls me to bitch. Meanwhile she's in the background screaming for mommy. Yeah, a clone would be great - one of me could work to support us and the other one could stay home and take care of the kid and the husband could do whatever the hell he felt like, preferably not in the house, so I wouldn't have to hear him whine anymore that he's unhappy about staying home with the kid.

[Ellen Forradalom]

35. I gotta say, you've all reduced me to tears laughing.

:rofl:

My husband stays at home with our son while I work, so I get addressed as "Hey Daddy!" a lot. "Excuse me, I have a name, too." "Oh, sorry. Hey Mommy!"

[xmas74]

36. Every time I find out I've been "volunteered" for a new

school, church or club activity.

[Jamastiene]

43. I'm a kitty mom. Does that count?

Today, my little girl, Sunday Girl, helped my aunt. We recently noticed that she has begun answering my name. Long story short, my aunt is a quadreplegic who suffers from painful full body spasms. Today, she was suffering from a tremendous doosy of one. She called me to her room to try to trick her body out of it by touching her hand. When she said to do that. I touched one hand and Sunday Girl touched the other one. It was amazing. That cat helps her when I am not around and now even when I am around. I'm so proud of my baby.

Of course, there are times when I feel the same as you do. Sunday Girl is growing up into a lovely smart thoughtful young lady. Okay, I'm sick in the head when it comes to how I look at my cats, but to me, they really are my children. The Teletubbies or Jack Hanna keeps Yogi, my little boy, entertained for thirty minutes to an hour so I can get some things done. Those things usually involve cleaning up the last thing he broke whilst doing his pirate role playing thing. Domino doesn't get into trouble at all. She's a sweetheart. I have wonderful, helpful children. :D

[hickman1937]

54. This is so sweet.

Kids, cats, dogs, they all depend on you and make constant demands. Food and cleaning are the easy parts. It's the constant demand for attention, and emotional support that ultimately sooooo draining. Parenthood isn't over till death.

[Sequoia]

44. I used to want to be an octopus person. Two arms not enough.

[hickman1937]

56. When my children were small I think I would have sold my soul

for a third arm. I remember telling anyone who would listen that an extra arm should grow during pregnancy, or why the hell can't we just lay an egg.

[Beausoir]

57. My god yes! I have 5 under the age of ten.

I have learned that I will never be able to do everything for them. They will always want something more from me.

Learning to take time for myself and to set limits for them has been a struggle but is has been the best thing I could do for all of us.

Kids need limits.