DU recovering alcoholics... a question.

[CanuckAmok]

When someone absent-mindedly gives you a bottle of wine as a thank-you present, if you had previously told them you're an alcoholic but they obviously forgot, how offended are you?

What do you do with the gift?

[TK421]

1. If they forgot, I wouldn't be offended at all...give the wine to someone

else.:shrug:

[Dora]

2. People will forget, and forget, and forget, and forget.

My husband has been sober for 17 years. Nobody here where we live knew him when he was drinking. Yet, he has one friend in particular who will ALWAYS offer a beer, which is declined, but then he will not offer anything else. No soda, no tea, no water.

Boors abound. Don't waste your time being offended.

As for the wine? Give it to someone who drinks.

[DS1]

3. Slam it all down in one long chug

wait for effects, take an axe to his walls in a drunken rage.

That'll learn 'im. ;-)

[SteppingRazor]

4. Don't forget to vomit on his rose bush/welcome mat/garden gnome...

Whatever outdoor item is his favorite :thumbsup:

[CanuckAmok]

7. Um, I'm the gifter, not the giftee.

I totally forgot someone I know is an alcoholic, and I gave her a bottle of wine as a gift.

She was very gracious about it, and then on my way home, I remembered that she's sober.

I'm just wondering what will happen to the wine... it was pretty nice, and rather expensive.

[Rabrrrrrr]

9. Oops! Call her back, and let her know you realized your mistake,

how embarassed you are and that you didn't mean anything by it, and that you wiull get her something different and more apporpriate.

I doubt she was offended at all, especially if she is a friend, and will probably find it funny.

[RetroLounge]

5. My Uncle used to give me a bottle of brandy

every christmas, even though he knew I was sober. I just said thanks and gave it to friends who drink.

My Uncle died 2 years ago of alcoholism... :cry:

RL

[swimboy]

10. And I offered you a night out with a pitcher of beer and onion rings.

:smacksforeheadsoithurts: If the opportunity arises, I still want some rings. I love ya, man. :loveya:

[RetroLounge]

11. Mountain Dew would work fine!

:hi:

RL

[swimboy]

12. OK, you're on!

:pals:

[Deep13]

6. I kinda did that once.

My neighbors invited my wife and I to the renewal of their wedding vows. I gave them some Scotch as a present. Later, I found out the husband was a recovering alcoholic. Ooops. They put the bottle on the bar at the reception and did not drink it themselves.

[radwriter0555]

8. well, nothing is accomplished by being offended... think of it as a good

regifting opportunity.

I have had a number of sober friends. The most 'normal' (not under psychiatric care) of them weren't offended by faux pas, and took it as an opportunity to make light of their continued success.

I had one friend who would have me drink for her in a shared joke of ours... I'd tell her how the buzz was going, the taste, the flavor, etc. It was all in good fun and humor.

Now as a reformed smoker, I can make light of being in a room full of smokers (as I was on New Years Eve), I told everyone I enjoyed being able to smoke without actually lighting a cigarette! They were worried I was going to suffer, bless their hearts. They tried so hard to be considerate that I had to make it easy on them.

You're winning the war, and that little battle over one bottle isn't one worth fighting.

Good luck to you with your continued success! Good going, well done!