Do you sometimes feel like a big whale??

[MissHoneychurch]

I went window shopping today, tried on a couple of clothes. But the moment I saw myself in the mirror I almost screamed. I looked kinda big. And I am build normal size, maybe 5-10 pounds too much on my ribs but nothing extraordinary.
Guess today wasn't my day for buying clothes.

Does that happen to you also?

[LeftyMom]

1. Every time I try on pants.

I'm not technicly overweight, but I have am a little more ample in the rear that I would prefer and my belly's a bit squashy.

[MissHoneychurch]

2. sounds like me

I have a big butt and my hips aren't made for those pants these days. Do other women have no hips?????

I tried on a sweater today and I didn't seem to have a taille. Hello?? I KNOW there is one somewhere .....

[LeftyMom]

3. I'm definitely a bit bottom heavy

Combine that with my short legs and I have a lovely time buying clothes that don't make me look like a hobbit.

[MissHoneychurch]

7. sometimes I think I am missing a gene

I don't like shopping too much. I really have to be in the mood to keep up with all this tying on.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

4. Yeah, every time I try on clothes too.

Even if they fit perfectly, it doesn't matter. Something about those damn mirrors.

[MissHoneychurch]

9. I also think it is those mirrors

and the light

[transeo]

5. Tell me about it

I walk everywhere and live in Seattle, so all that hill climbing has given me thick thighs and ample bootay. Try being a man with a full butt/thighs/hips. Finding pants that fit the waist and also around the butt, crotch and upper legs is terrible. I end up looking huge, though I'm 5'11" and only have a 32.5 inch waist. It's like my ass is going to attack...look out..here comes the ass...Flat fronts look like they'll explode and pleats just make me look dumpy.

I do look fine in a nice gown though. I'm a curvy drag queen.

[MissHoneychurch]

13. ya sure you ain't no woman?

and I thought it is easier for men to shop for clothes. Sorry for the prejudice :hide:

any pics of you as drag queen??


















:hide:

[datasuspect]

6. never felt a whale

felt some other things though

[MissHoneychurch]

15. I couldn't think of the right word in English

sometimes I have to describe what I mean instead of just saying the word. I guess if I say "Wuchtbrumme" it won't mean anything to you

[Call Me Wesley]

25. You aren't a 'Wuchtbrumme', let me say this.

Just take 'Brumme' out and you're much closer to the truth. Heck, they started to even tailor men's pants like this. :shrug:

[MissHoneychurch]

34. CMW

I hope Heidi doesn't mind me doing that

[Oeditpus Rex]

54. I put 'Wuchtbrumme' into Babelfish

and it came up with "Force-hum." :shrug:

May the Force-hum be with you?



Anyway, I guess I have a thing for "whales," since photos of MissH stop me dead in my tracks, every time. :loveya:

No one should have to feel badly because they don't live up to ridiculous, sexist, ageist and other -ist standards imposed by the fashion and entertainment industries. Be true to your own standards; nothing else matters.

[scarlet_owl]

8. Every day of my life.

Especially when trying on clothes, though.

[xmas74]

10. Just ate a taco salad.

What do you think?

[MissHoneychurch]

16. that I am sure that you still look grgeous

I was standing next to my friend today and we both looked into the mirror. She is petite. Guess how I felt?

Here you can see us together

[xmas74]

22. Not too great looking right now.

Sweats are not a good style for me but after that big salad they are about all I can fit into.

[MissHoneychurch]

29. I noticed today in the store

that baggy sweats are kinda in again. I thought those died with the 80s. Guess not.

[xmas74]

31. I hate sweats.

I only wear them on my day off to clean house.

[MissHoneychurch]

35. sweater are ok

esp. in the winter. What I don't wear in public anymore a t-shirts. I udes to wear them when I was younger, not anymore

[datasuspect]

11. this thread is giving me wood

yikes

[MissHoneychurch]

18. ???

translation please :)

[datasuspect]

19. the idea of shapely

weibliche Damen trying on clothes is very arousing to me.

[MissHoneychurch]

21. oops

ok :blush:

But believe me, we don't really feel feminine or sexy when trying on clothes.

[Ellen Forradalom]

12. You need to be scrawny underweight

not to.

I was sick and stressed this fall and lost a lot of weight. All muscle tone gone, I looked and felt terrible. But for once I didn't look "filled-out" in the store mirrors. I swear those mirrors are rigged.

[MissHoneychurch]

14. Some of those clothes are made for 12 year olds

with no hips. But the clothes look like as if they were made for adult women.

[MissMillie]

17. I actually was a whale, not long ago

but, I'm better now.

[MissHoneychurch]

23. and this is something I admire

I wouldn't need to lose as much weight but I can't get my selfdiscipline to get along with me :eyes:

[MissMillie]

27. small changes

small changes over a long period of time will yield lasting results. Water instead of soda, fruit instead of cookies or chips.... even just once or twice a week.

[MissHoneychurch]

33. I mostly drink water

barely soda. But my dinners are mostly pasta. I know I need to change what I eat. But I am just lazy in the evening and cook something quick I know how to prepare.

[MissMillie]

62. get yourself a George Foreman grill

it makes everything "quick" and easy.

I love mine for just about everything, but especially fish. I like to take something out of the freezer the night before, put it into some kind of marinade during the day, and when I come home, I throw it on the grill. Serve w/ steamed veggies or a quick salad.

Pasta and rice are not necessarily bad for you, but try to stay w/ whole wheat pasta and brown rice. They increase your metabolism because they are high in fiber.

Brown rice does take longer to cook than white, but whole wheat pasta cooks in about the same amount of time.

Good luck!

[GOPisEvil]

20. LOL - yeah, all the time.

It's odd - I work out, and don't eat to excess, but I can't ever seem to get below a certain size. :shrug:

Oh well, I do look better and feel better so that's something.

[MissMillie]

24. It's more than something

it's everything!

I'm glad you're doing well.

[GOPisEvil]

28. I think that I am between sizes.

One size is just wee bit snug for my tastes and the larger size makes me look and feel as though I am swimming in my clothes. x(

[LynzM]

26. I found it to be worse in Europe than the US, too...

Seems there are many more better-dressed women over there! I'm sorry it was a bad day for the clothes, though. Wuchtbrumme? I can't find a good translation for that, either.

[MissHoneychurch]

30. my friend almost hit me for saying it

but you know what I mean, right?

[fizzgig]

32. quite often

they don't seem to make clothes for women who are shaped like women...

i could stand to lose 10 or so pounds from around the middle and the thighs, but i'm not huge. however, that's how i feel whenever i go shopping for pants

one size is too tight and the next one up falls off

i always get depressed when i go shopping for clothes and wind up going out for ice cream...and then i hate myself for eating ice cream

needless to say i don't go shopping for clothes unless i've loaded up on my meds

[MissHoneychurch]

37. this is what i think also

they make clothes that fit 12 year olds but not women.

And nobody should feel guilty for eating ice cream :)

[AngryAmish]

36. In Manhatten and Miami Beach

However, here in Chicago I fit in just fine. (It has recently been voted the fattest city in America. And I had an Italian Beef for lunch.)

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

38. I sometimes feel like Gil Gerard. Will that do? -nt

[Shine]

39. I think it's the damn mirror's fault!!

heheh.

Yes, that has happened to me. Not pleasant.

I try to keep things in perspective, though. Those dressing rooms can be a great place to practice self-affirmations of Love, Acceptance, and Compassion. MUCH easier said, than done, admitedly.

It also depends on what my mood is, if my blood sugar is low, if I'm hungry, if I've recently eaten, if I'm PMS-y, if I have the kids with me, if it's a day of the week that starts with a "T"...the list is pretty much endless. just kidding on the last one, however. :)

Basically, I think we just gotta lighten up about the whole weight conversation we carry on in our brains, ya know?? We're too damn hard on ourselve!!

Ladies, can I get an "Amen!!!"????

:hi:

[MissHoneychurch]

43. AMEN

you just mentioned PMS ... hmm that might fit to me right now. My monthly time is coming up Monday.

I actually don't feel bad about myself, I just don't like those swimming rings around my belly. And I love eating way too much to actually lose overly much weight.

[Shine]

50. Yeah, me too.

I could NEVER be anorexic or bulemic. I just love eating too damn much. :9

Well, at this time of year, I always like to RE-commit to my health and well-being on ALL levels: Mind, Body and Spirit. It's an endless journey we're on, isn't it? ...all part of the ebb and flow of Life....

:hi:

[LaraMN]

40. Hell yeah; I'm on the rag.

That's always good for a week or so of disgust and discomfort.

[MissHoneychurch]

46. and I thought you have the perfect figure

if I go after your pics you post here :hug:

[LaraMN]

55. Hah! You're as sweet as your name, but

I've had three babies; I'm not "perfect." ;-) I have stretch marks on my lower belly and if I stop exercising for two weeks, my ass falls down. :rofl:

[SeattleGirl]

41. Most definitely!

I am convinced it's the mirrors in the dressing rooms, because I can look at myself in the mirror before leaving the house, and I look fine. I get in the dressing room, and OMG, Wilma the Whale is staring back at me!!!! Penneys has the absolutely worst mirrors; I won't even look in them. If what I'm trying on feels okay, then I'll buy it and try it on in front of the mirror at home.

[MissHoneychurch]

45. it has to be

we can't be wrong alltogether. How many of us did make that experience???? 100%?????

[SeattleGirl]

48. You'd think that stores would want mirrors to FLATTER!!!

I mean, wouldn't people be more likely to buy something that made them look fabulous???

[MissHoneychurch]

49. Exactly!!!!!

it makes me wonder also.

[Pithlet]

58. That's what I thought!

It doesn't make any sense. Of course, there are a lot of things clothing retailers could do that would probably increase their sales, including carrying clothes that are truly flattering for people over 21. It seems like in the past few years the juniors department has spread into all categories of clothing for women. I don't shop at malls anymore because it's almost impossible to do so and not look like you're trying to relive your teenage years. And I'm only 33! I don't have conservative tastes, either. I can't stand frump. Just not juniors crap.

[Shine]

51. See? I'm right! It's the mirror's fault.

I agree. See my post above.
:hi:

[RevCheesehead]

42. I dunno - are there small whales?

I have resigned myself to accept the person in the mirror. She may be huge, and not easy on the eye, but she's all I've got.

[MissHoneychurch]

44. and we love that person

:hug:

[Shine]

52. Good for you, Rev!

:thumbsup: You are a wise woman, indeed.

Ultimately, I believe who we are is MUCH MUCH more than our bodies and personalities, but that's another conversation....That isn't to say our bodies don't matter, just that it's worth considering the value of the unseen and internal qualities of Self-Love, Compassion and Grace, instead.

True Beauty comes from Within and loving oneself. I know you already know this.
:hug:

[RevCheesehead]

53. It's still nice to hear.

Thanks. :hug:

Is it just me, or has the lounge been "beauty-obsessed" lately?

[Call Me Wesley]

56. Beauty-obsessed?

Why? You don't envy me because my wife looks better than me? :rofl:

[RevCheesehead]

59. Darlin' -

I envy your wife. :*

[Call Me Wesley]

61. You just made me

:blush:

:hug:

[Shine]

57. I hadn't really noticed, truthfully.

hmmm....

[Burma Jones]

47. Yeah, but then I settle for a Burger and Fries

I am a big guy, I exercise and am healthy, so, it doesn't bother me much......

[no name no slogan]

60. Mostly in the winter

The average temp in January and February in my part of the world is around 0°C (or colder), so we don't do a whole lot of physical activity out of doors. It seems I always add a few pounds starting in November, and drop most of them during March.

And IMHO there's nothing wrong with a few extra pounds/kilos on a woman. I think it looks very sexy, in fact! :7