Ever been hit on or checked out by someone of your own gender?

[Oeditpus Rex]

Couple guys were scopin' on me once in the Castro in SF. I didn't see it, but the two women I was with at the time (my S.O. and a friend) told me about it. I thought it was kinda cool. :7

[Gormy Cuss]

1. Well, are you voting in your own poll?

This is a poll for straights, right?:+

I've never understood why it threatens people to be checked out by anyone. Being hit on by someone you aren't interested in is a different thing but it's not a matter of gender. Hit on by an opposite gender person who doesn't float your boat is about the straight equivalent with being hit on by someone of your own gender IMO. Same outcome after all.

[Oeditpus Rex]

3. That would be another poll

I wasn't gonna clutter up this one with 14 responses, if that many are even allowed.

And, no — I don't vote in my own polls.

[Gormy Cuss]

7. Well, we can imply your vote.

I think.
:+

[misanthrope]

35. Exactly...

...take the compliment and move on.

I was in a bar once with a buddy who got a little bent out of shape at the possibility of being hit on by a guy.

I asked him, "So, what would you do if a four-hundred-pound woman, face covered in acne and body odor that would peel paint decided to hit on you?"

He thought. "Nothing, I guess. Just turn her down."

"So then," I asked in response, "what's the difference in her doing it and that guy doing it? There's no difference, it's just another person you're not going to sleep with."

What the hell is so offensive about being told you look attractive?

Now, if someone keeps hitting on you after you've told them you're not interested, then they're being annoying.

[xmas74]

2. Sure have.

I'm a girl and I was flattered. Men will hit on practically anything while women tend to be more "discerning". Women can tell you that other women are much harder on them than most men will ever dream of.
Being hit on by a woman was a compliment.

[DainBramaged]

4. At this point ANYONE hitting on me would be a compliment

but I probably wouldn't notice it. :yoiks: Wrinkled up old hippies aren't the pick of the litter any more.

[xmas74]

6. Neither are 30-something single mothers.

[DainBramaged]

15. Then everyone join us at the movies that would be fun

[xmas74]

17. I need a night out!

Should we all see Brokeback together and piss off all the Freepers?

[DainBramaged]

19. Took my Daughter couple of weeks ago

She's part of the Gay/Straight alliance in her HS. Teacher needed a straight chaperon so I went. And no I wasn't embarassed. The movie made me sad. It was a great love story. Something Fundies will never understand.

There were a few Fundies out in the road. We screamed bad things at them (really bad things ROFLOL). They were gone when it got out. She wasn't impressed. None of the kids were. I guess they didn't understand the irony. But she loved Jarhead.

Go figure.

[xmas74]

22. A friend went a few weeks back.

He said he was hoping for some hot sex scenes but cried instead and wished that everyone who is intolerant would sit down and watch this movie.

[Gormy Cuss]

9. Hey dude. Are you doing anything tomorrow?

Wanna come up to my place and look at my portfolio?
:hi:

[DainBramaged]

11. HAHAHAH thanks but I had plans to go to the movies with my kid

[Gormy Cuss]

18. Check your PM. n/t

[Spider Jerusalem]

5. Yeah.

I've had guys obviously check me out and even flirt with me before; I thought it was kind of flattering, honestly (I don't really understand the stereotypical homophobic response).

[tuvor]

8. I was proposed to at The Royal Hotel Pub in Vancouver once.

Quite loudly, too. I guess that meant he was checkin' me out.

(RIP Royal!)

[bigwillq]

10. Like all the time!

:P :) ;)

[swimboy]

23. You go!

:thumbsup:

[bigwillq]

25. LOL!

:hi:

[tjwmason]

42. Well that's hardly a surprise now is it? n/t

[gollygee]

12. I had a woman hit on me

I wasn't aware of what she was doing. When my friend told me what was up, it seemed obvious because when my then boyfriend came up in conversation she lost interest. Bummer because she seemed really cool and we could have been friends anyway.

[Left Is Write]

13. Not that I am aware of.

My husband claims that men are checking me out all the time, though I think that's mostly his imagination. I have never noticed if a woman ever checked me out. I have never been hit on by a woman.

[DanCa]

14. Back in my youth once.

I just told the fella thank you but Im straight. He said he's sorry we shook hands and it was the end of it. No big deal really.

[Lady Freedom]

16. OTHER

I was pissed off! I could get the chicks to look but the guys, NOOOOO! Apparently a beer was better to look at than me in black tight jeans and a very low cut, red peasant blouse! And HIGH HEELS!


EDIT> P.S I was wanting some action darn it!

[MrSlayer]

20. Many times. I used to take it rather badly.

This one guy was so aggressive about it I finally had to beat him senseless in order to make him get the point. Other times I would react with a lot of hostility as well. Eventually as I got older I just started laughing about it and taking it as a compliment.

[aclog]

21. I'll go you one better

I've been propositioned for gay sex more than once. I'm not that good looking either, so I guess it was more due to the situations I put myself in...

[BlueIris]

24. Some gay women I know thought I was hitting on them last year.

And consequently kinda got annoyed and reminded me they were both in relationships. Then I had to remind them that I was straight, which made me feel both irritated and as if I sounded like a homophobe.

[Skittles]

26. I was in the Air Force in the 70's

I got hit on all the time by gay gals.....strange, back then there were plenty of gays in the military but it just wasn't a big deal until Reagan got into office.....a lot of us gals use to have great nights on the town as cover for gay pilots.

[mitchum]

27. Lots and it never bothered me...why should it?

[LeftyMom]

28. Of course I have.

Why would that bother me? I like attention as long as people aren't creepy or overbearing about it.

[u4ic]

29. Never

:cry:

Maybe I just scream hetero...I dunno...:shrug:

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

30. Nope.

But then, at my age it might be a pleasant shock to be hit on by anybody, of any gender or species.

[aclog]

32. Well if you're that desperate

try the zoo...:D

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

33. Just wait til you're old...

[aclog]

34. Yeah, what with Vitamin V around these days

I'll probably be out mongering when I'm 100. S'ok, I'll just go down to Mexico and find some putas

[qnr]

31. I'm pretty dense and never notice things like that, no matter what the

gender. However, it wouldn't bother me if I was aware.

[undeterred]

36. I was a speaker at a conference and a woman in my audience

asked me to go to lunch. She was professional and very nice and very attractive, and I thought I was making a new female friend. Our conversation went on for a couple of hours and it never once crossed my mind that she was a lesbian and that she was interested in me until she came out and said it directly. I told her I wasn't interested.

I was disappointed in a couple of ways- first that it wasn't going to be a friendship, and secondly because if she were male I would have been delighted about being approached in such a direct way by such a terrific person. :shrug:

[Dangerously Amused]

37. Yep.

I've never been married, so a lot of people in the small, narrow-minded and conservative towns where I've lived a much of my life presume I'm a lesbian.

That, and when I was in grad school I started up the first school-sanctioned animal welfare organization on my campus. It was a lot of work, getting enough signatures on a petition for the organization, drawing up a constitution and bylaws, finding faculty sponsors, etc. I noticed a young lady attending our first few meetings, who didn't seem particularly interested in the group. Finally after several meetings she came up to me and asked me how to go about getting a student organization started. I started telling her all the steps she needed to take, who the contact people were, etc. She finally told me she wanted to start up the first gay/lesbian group, but she was a little intimidated, it being a Catholic Uni and all. She asked me if I would help her. I said sure. So I made her copies of all my start up materials, signed her petition and started talking up her group on campus. Well, word got around campus that she and I were starting up a gay and lesbian group, and after that pretty much everyone in my class (except my close friends and my boyfriend) thought I was a lesbian. So I started getting hit on then.

[Indy_Dem_Defender]

38. Yes; I'm a guy and I was ambivalent

Happened all the time when I delivered flowers for a part time job. When I went to change auto insurance companies, One of the questions they asked me was what kind of job do you do? I answered I work for a flower shop part-time. The sales rep who I sensed was gay asked me if I was a driver, if so that would make my insurance rate be higher, I say no I make arrangements (so they wouldn't charge me more for coverage)all of a sudden the gay light must of come because he starts flirting with me. I played it cool, got the paper work filled out and probably saved 30-40 dollars a month on insurance saying I wasn't a driver. I'm straight but if a gay guy wants to flirt with me for a grand total of 5 minutes and that's what it takes someone thinking I'm gay so I can save like 360-460 dollars a year on car insurance I'll go ahead and do. :rofl:

[ragin_acadian]

39. yes,

and it doesn't freak me out, in the last eight years, more gay men have hit on me, than females.

for some reason:

straight women think i am hideous.

gay men think i am the equivalent of cindy crawford.


i'm not homophobic, i'm just wondering....what the hell?


the next post-a-pic thread, i resolve to bare myself to DU, just to get some perspective.

[UncleSepp]

40. Yes. It's complicated but it was awesome.

[Mobius]

41. other- yes,

and I had hot lesbian sex? :shrug:

[tjwmason]

43. As I'm gay - should I be answering?

I've been checked out by both sexes, and took them all as compliments.

[hfojvt]

48. exactly the problem with the poll

many people on this board want to be checked out by their own gender.

[ET Awful]

44. I don't get hit on or checked out by either gender.

:cry:

I wish SOMEBODY would freakin' hit on me.

[TheProphetess]

46. Watcha doin' later?

:evilgrin:

[ET Awful]

56. WoooHoooo!

:woohoo:

:P

[Inspired]

45. Women always check out other women

[TheProphetess]

47. Once, at an Indigo Girls concert

No big deal. Great concert!

[NewJeffCT]

49. I used to have men slip me their phone numbers...

back when I used to work at a restaurant. I'd compliment them on their good taste, but say I wasn't interested. But, they normally insist, just in case I change my mind.

edited for clarity in subject line.

[Maestro]

50. Dude!

I've been hit on by more gay men than straight women. I guess I should be upset about it, but I find it kind of funny. I can only think of two occasions when it made me mad, but it was more about how they did it than who did it.

[Nikia]

51. Yes, and I feel generally less threatened by it

The women that I have been hit on have had a less aggressive, less harassing tone than most men that I have been hit on by.
The only time that it bothered me was when I was being hit on one of my friend's lesbian partner. My friend was there too and did seem annoyed. I'd be annoyed though obviously if a friend's husband was hitting on me too under the same circumstances.

[ChavezSpeakstheTruth]

52. Who cares?

[boobooday]

53. Woman. Creeped out -- WITH qualifications

It wasn't the idea that she was a WOMAN that creeped me out. It was the fact that I was 20 and she was like 60, and she was wearing all leather . . .

So SCARED would be a better word for it.

[Ivan Sputnik]

54. Yes

It happens. I've never considered it anything other than a (somewhat amusing) compliment and ego boost.

[eek MD]

55. Not that I know of....but

but then again, i'm usually oblivious to when i'm being checked out by someone of the opposite sex as well.

[ZombieNixon]

57. Only on DU.

:7

At least, that's only when I've noticed it. I'm terrible (TERRIBLE!) at reading signs.

[tjwmason]

59. Guys on here check you out?

You could have fooled me. :P

[ZombieNixon]

60. Oh, you!

:spank:

[tjwmason]

61. That will just make me do it even more.

Don't the teach the youth anything these days?

Also - you STILL haven't reached your new mile-stone. :eyes:

[ZombieNixon]

62. Yeah, yeah, I know.

I thought I'd have had three more hours on DU yesterday, but I went to dinner at 3 in the afternoon for some reason and then didn't get back until 4 AM

:shrug:

Oh, and no, they don't teach youth anything these days.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

58. not only do they check me out

sometimes they get to take me home :evilgrin:

[NNadir]

63. Well once I had to fight someone off.

I wouldn't exactly call it being "hit on," since a threat of violence was involved but I was young, very strong and very tough, at least tougher than I appeared, not exactly the weak old fart I am now, and I was able to defend myself. I suspect that the individual in question may have regretted the attempt. It must have been very painful.

The weird thing was that I was too young and too naive to involve the police. I should have. God knows what that predator may have done to another person.

To be perfectly honest, it colored my attitudes for many years, because as a young man I was not prepared to make distinctions between members of a class of people and the class of people themselves.

Later I came to know many fine gay people, who were highly ethical and who were gentlemen and gentlewomen, and I understood things better.

I don't know if other men "hit on me," besides that savage soul. I probably would not have noticed.

I dated a lesbian for a short time, but predictably it didn't work out.

Apparently I wasn't very good at recognizing women who hit on me either. I heard all these stories years afterward that people were hitting on me or who were interested in me, but I completely missed it. Things worked out in the end. I spent some years hitting on someone myself, and after some time, I hit a home run.