REDKING
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Sun Jan-15-06 06:58 PM
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I just lost my sister at the weekend. I'm 41 on Tuesday. My head nor my heart can make sense of it . |Why? I cant get an anwser. My heart is all mixed up. If this post means nothing to you,I understand. If it does. I wanted to tell my sister something but never got the chance. Love is a silent tear falling.
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:02 PM
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Sorry for your loss Redking. :hug: EVerybody does die, but she's in a better place now.
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:02 PM
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2. So sorry for your loss REDKING. |
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:( :hug:
How old was your sister??
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:04 PM
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:25 PM
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:( My thoughts are with you at this difficult time. :hug:
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:04 PM
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3. My condolences REDKING |
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:05 PM
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5. I'm so sorry for your loss |
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:06 PM
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You have my deepest condolences. :hug:
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:08 PM
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7. so sorry for your loss... |
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I always wanted to tell my dad something and never got the chance... I find comfort in the thought that when you die, maybe you know everything...including all the things people wanted to tell you...again, so sorry for your loss...
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:09 PM
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8. She already knew what you never got the chance to tell her. |
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:10 PM
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9. Death is the greatest mystery of all and yet, true love NEVER dies |
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Please accept my heartfelt sympathies for the loss of your beloved sister. I believe it's still possible for you to "complete" with her, even though she has crossed over to the other side. You can still tell her what she means to you. The language of the heart surpasses the illusion of separation.
I send you my best good wishes for Healing, Peace and Comfort at this most difficult time.
Be gentle with yourself. :hug:
Shine
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:47 PM
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Complete is the right word. She was the heart of the family and though I know i will never touch her or see her happy smile I am warmned by the fact that I was in her gaze. Grateful to the soul for your kind words.
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:13 PM
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10. I'm sorry for your loss, REDKING |
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And her so young. You have my deepest condolences, and my prayers that your heart will someday be soothed. :hug:
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:18 PM
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11. Condolences to you, REDKING |
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:40 PM
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of your loss. It is so hard to understand when some one dies at such a young age. I'm sure she knew how much you loved and thought of her. Take care of yourself. She would want you to go on living a full and happy life.:hug:
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:44 PM
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14. I'm sorry about your loss. |
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Events like this make life suck. Turn it around. Find something that she was interested in and get involved. Did she like to read? Donate some books to your local library, nursing home or school in her memory. Nature? Plant a tree in a local park for all to enjoy. Did she love babies? Offer to rock newborns at a neonatal center or donate baby items to a local WIC, DFS or homeless shelter.
Do something in her memory. Simple acts like these are the best way to help you grieve and to allow the community a chance to know what kind of person she was.
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:46 PM
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15. Oh my dear REDKING....... |
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I am in tears over your sudden and horrifying loss.....
What a terrible thing you are suffering now......This sudden rupture......
How beautifully you say it: "Love is a silent tear falling."
And indeed it is.......for you now. Let the tears fall.....they will help you heal.
We will stand with you during this time of grief......
:grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug:
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:57 PM
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When everybody goes away. I dont know what to do? MY neices and nephews..so sad. I am one of those people who love life and a laugh. A smile can be everything.
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Sun Jan-15-06 08:08 PM
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21. I can believe that you don't know what to do...... |
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Loss, especially sudden and unexpected loss, can leave us feeling that way.....
I think the other poster who had suggestions about your sister's legacy had some good ideas.....
Can you implement some of them?
One day you will smile and laugh again...you WILL!
In the meantime, the loss is so new and fresh.....let yourself grieve. And remember her......
For while you remember someone, you still have them ........:hug: :pals:
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Sun Jan-15-06 08:17 PM
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I saw your're picture'was that your husband. I am feeling low but not busted,hurtin but not done. Nothing ever really goes'you hold it inside. It cant be broken once made,Love is all I feel right now.
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Sun Jan-15-06 08:26 PM
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28. Yes, REDKING, the picture was of me and my husband..... |
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Yes, once you have love, it cannot be broken. I am glad you're feeling that love now.....
I have just posted a little poem downthread for you.....I hope it will help you now and always....
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:47 PM
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16. Yes, life is a terminal condition |
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So sorry for your loss Redking. You're sister was very young. *gulp* only 2 years older than me.
Was she ill? Or was it unexpected, such as an accident?
I'll understand if you don't want to talk about it. :hug:
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Sun Jan-15-06 07:51 PM
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18. Please accept my deepest sympathies REDKING |
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I believe that your sister now knows what you wanted to tell her. Please take care of yourself.
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Sun Jan-15-06 08:03 PM
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20. I'm so sorry REDKING. I lost my brother when I was 40. |
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And he was 35. He lived life on the edge and died of a heroin OD. As mad as I still am at him, I still miss him greatly. Just try to remember the good in her and the good memories you have of her. It wont make the pain go away but will numb it a little bit. Myheart goes out to you and her family.:cry:
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Sun Jan-15-06 08:14 PM
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22. I'm very sorry for your loss REDKING. |
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Sun Jan-15-06 08:17 PM
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by your loss. Please accept my condolences.
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Sun Jan-15-06 08:20 PM
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26. I am so sorry for your loss. You sister was very young |
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I hope your memories of the good times with her will eventually help ease the pain you are feeling now.
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Sun Jan-15-06 08:22 PM
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27. I have a poem for you, my dear REDKING..........I hope it will help you... |
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Life is eternal;
And love is immortal;
And death is only a horizon;
And a horizon is nothing
Save the limit of our sight....
Author unknown; seen in an old Hallmark card.
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Sun Jan-15-06 08:28 PM
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I am sitting here cryin..The poem was lovely. My heart is breaking..but I know there is a dawn.
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Sun Jan-15-06 08:39 PM
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30. My dear REDKING......... |
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I am glad you liked the poem.......And yes, there will be the dawn inside your broken heart....
Maybe not today, but one fine day, you will find that your pain has lessened......
You will go forward into the healing light, with our help and love....
:grouphug: :loveya:
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Sun Jan-15-06 08:54 PM
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I feel joy that I was in the company of a special soul. I open my eyes and wish. My wish is that people could be like my sister. She was the best of us,never excluded anyone..a special soul.
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Sun Jan-15-06 09:01 PM
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33. This is where the healing begins...... |
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When you can feel the joy that knowing your special sister brings you...
You can be the way she was, never excluding anyone......
She can live through you and your actions......
And you can teach it to her children as well...
I sent you a PM...check your inbox if you would...
:hug:
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Sun Jan-15-06 09:01 PM
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I'm so very sorry for your loss.
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Sun Jan-15-06 09:04 PM
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I lost my brother not long ago to alcoholism
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Sun Jan-15-06 09:33 PM
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36. My heart goes out to you. |
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I am so sorry for your pain.
Here is something I did the last time someone important to me died: I started writing down all the little things that were unique to her, and all the little things that we shared just us two, and every good memory of her that made me smile. I kept the list with me everywhere I went, folded up in my pocket. As people talked about her in the days after her death, more little things came to mind and I added them to the list. I could read through the list whenever I needed to, and think about her so much more clearly, and with pure love... and then I could feel a connection with her. And I could say the things I needed to say. And I know she heard.
Maybe this will be helpful to you. I hope so.
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Mon Jan-16-06 06:42 AM
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38. I have no words that could possibly take your pain away |
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Just know that in time your grief will lessen, somehow. And that I am thinking good thoughts of you and your sister. If you approve, I will light a candle on my altar for you.
:hug:
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Mon Jan-16-06 07:06 AM
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39. I am so sorry REDKING |
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I lost my sister a few years back - so I know how confused and devastated you must feel. My heart goes out to you I don't know what you wanted to tell her, but the most important thing was that you love her. And I'm sure she knew that.
:hug:
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Mon Jan-16-06 07:28 AM
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:hug: :hug: :hug:
We're here for you.
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Mon Jan-16-06 09:56 AM
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41. My heart is with you. I love my brother very much and know |
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how I would feel if something happened to him.
And I am absolutely certain that your sister - wherever she is right now - knows what you want to say to her. :hug:
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Mon Jan-16-06 10:19 AM
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43. Time heals all wounds, REDKING. |
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But the scars remain to remind us. The time will come when you will think of her and smile.
And be glad that you were fortunate enough to have known her so well.
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Mon Jan-16-06 10:04 AM
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Losing someone close your age is horrible. Losing a family member is horrible. I can't even imagine how it is to lose a sibling.
My deepest condolences to you and your family
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Mon Jan-16-06 11:28 AM
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44. My deepest, sincere and most profound thoughts, prayers and condolences |
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Edited on Mon Jan-16-06 11:31 AM by socialdemocrat1981
are extended to you and your family on the loss of your sister Redking. I know that words are never close to being adequate during these times but rest assured that I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers and that you have my deepest and most profound sympathies and condolences.
I'm so, so sorry :hug: :hug::hug; :hug: :hug:
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Mon Jan-16-06 12:16 PM
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45. i'm very sorry for your loss |
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